Whatever will I do?

Its your daughter's wedding so its a big moment for you and for her.You should never miss it out.It will never come back to you.You will feel bad if you miss it and your daughter too will feel bad if you are not present.You get mentally prepared so that you don't get upset when you see your husband's new family.Just pull yourself together and face it with confidence.For your expenses just check out the travel sites that will guide you.You can also start saving up from now as you have time.You should be there.I hope it all works out well for you.Good Luck.

You should go, yes there is the fact that you will have to see your ex and his new family. Your daughter would like you to be there.. and you have some time to save extra money for the trip. In addition to emotionally getting prepared, hopefully most of your worries will not come true.. You would go and be there for your daughter, its her big day. Not trying to be mean or anything but it would really hurt her if you were not able to show up.. If you are put in a situation where you feel really uncomfortable, and you dont want to be rude but you need to get out of the situation to regroup, staying focused on the reason your there come back to the situation it helps.. One way that I have in the past got away from the situation to regroup is a bathroom break.. so you took a couple extra mintues fixing your make up or something.. Its not something you would really want to miss... When I got married my mom didnt show up for my wedding... a part of me is still upset about it. Not trying to make you feel bad, just showing you a different view point..

You want to be at your daughter's wedding but the idea of the social situation fills you with dread. My sister is really shy and so it her second son so I know how you feel. The airfare is expensive. It might be stressful for you to meet her father's new family. You have to consider what matters to you like perhaps accommodation in Nigeria is cheap so you could stay in a guest house with your other daughter. You have time to save for the trip. You have the option of not going if you can't face that situation. I am an experienced traveler but I can't think of an economical way of you reaching Nigeria. Good luck with your decision making.

Go but don't dread or dwell on what will happen no matter what you will get through it with flying colors, remember your other daughter will be there with you. So it's not like your going alone. Even if she backs out closer to the time due to lack of funds... You will still know your own daughter, your ex and have a good time. Make sure you plan on being there as short of a time as humanly possible. However being there for the main event is really why you need to go and need to be there. Look back on this discussion if it starts to keep coming up in your mind. Save and watch the money stack so to speak and then you will see that really that is the main thing, having the ability to go and then just doing it. Meeting new people isn't your fortay but in the end it's not for that you are going. Being there for Your daughter and for Yourself is the only reason your going. Don't plan on any real site seeing and just plan on staying as long as is necessary for the main event. You are entitled to take off after that and do SO. God Blesses! Sandy

It is a choice in whatever you do, if you go, it is a choice whether or not you allow yourself to become an emotional wrect, regardless of the circumstance that arise for you going to your Daughters wedding. It all comes down to what you allow to affect you or not. You should go for the simple reason this is your daughter and she wants you there. Sounds like they are willing to help with some of the expenses of you being there. If you fall short ask for help see what the family can do to help. Its one of those "once in a lifetime's" you shouldn't miss if you don't have to..

The best thing to do is to join a great online site and get really involved and active. Then profit the hell out of that site! Good luck.