Have you ever bumped into someone and forget who they are ?

Philippines
May 16, 2009 12:10pm CST
While crossing the street or in the mall you bumped into someone who smiled or wave at you, you smiled or waved back, back in your head your tossing off, who was that again ? Where have I meet that person ? Am I getting old to forget the names of people ? Errr.. Have you been in this kind of situation ? Would you managed to dare to ask, "excuse me, do I know you ?" or if you remembered them, you give them a call or something ? Please do share
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
17 May 09
yes, i have bumped into someone whom i can't recall up to now. Me and my sister went to a barbecue restaurant then the girl was also there with her boyfriend. She called "Marvin!" but when i saw her, i couldn't recall knowing her. It was a bit dark and she's wearing eyeglasses so i really couldn't figure out who she was. My sister told me that she could be my classmate or something. I really can't remember anyone. I feel guilty for it until now because i may have disappointed or upset her. I hope she understands because if only i could recall then maybe i'll talk to her.
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• Philippines
19 May 09
That's fine I guess looks like everyone here agrees that at some point we really can't recall the names or even the faces of whom we have meet before. Thanks for the response.
@Jemina (5770)
17 May 09
Yes and I felt terrible I looked like constipated or something. It's awful when you can't remember the name or when it's at the tip of the tongue, Argh! I feel very embarrassed. But I know some people have a cool way of saying they've forgotten your name. But for me I feel awful asking the name again when I bumped into them. Argh wretch!
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@Jemina (5770)
19 May 09
Yes, it is so damn embarrassing it makes me want to melt like a candle on a fire. LOL!
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• Philippines
19 May 09
Its indeed a bad bad feeling inside when you wanted to remember their names and none just came out, terrible.
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
16 May 09
Hahahaha! Reminds me of an incident a year or two ago. My grandmother was in the hospital and we were visiting. I was walking with my Dad when a guy taps my Dad on the shoulder saying 'Hoy!' in greeting and acknowledgment that he saw him. Its kinda like seeing one of your old classmates and greeting them. I saw my Dad look at the guy and after about 3 seconds responded 'Oi!' and nodded. Then we went on our way. When I asked my Dad who that guy was, he said... he had no idea...!LOL! I was laughing so hard that time until we got to my GrandMa's room. I was even surprised that the nurses didnt warn me of laughing out loud in the halls. As for me, I dont easily forget people. Their names might slip me after a few years but I still remember faces. Whenever that happens and they greet me, I dont ask for their names again. I just ask them 'What subject were we classmates again?'^-^ Its a bit of playing it safe, by asking that Id be showing that I at least remember them to be my classmate.
• Philippines
17 May 09
Hmm that's weird indeed, I hope your grandpa was able to recall it already at this point who that guy was, but you know what sometimes there are incidences where people pretend they have known you but sometimes they are pickpocketers or something like that, we better be careful these days though, thanks for your thoughts bj !
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Erhm, nope. My Dad never did recall who was that guy. Im sure it was not a pickpocket since the guy seemed genuinely astonished to see my Dad. I saw him did a double take to recognize my Dad before calling out to him.LOL Yeah, we do need to be careful in any situation.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
18 May 09
I happens to me most of the time. I actually meet so many people in my day to day work and activities and most of time I can't even remember their face. So there had been so man times when someone smiled at me then I smiled back. But actually I did not really know who was that person. Most of the time, I'd pretend I know because I think it is quite embarrassing to ask "who are you?". But there are times also that I'd be compel to ask in a very polite way who is that person smiling at me.
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• Philippines
19 May 09
Thats brave of you to at least asks their names, I usually play along the situation and very often asks their names. Thanks for response !
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 May 09
Hey torch! That has happened to me more times than I care to admit! For one thing, I have very bad vision so I can't always see to clearly! If I am wearing my glasses to see close up and the person is far I can't see them clearly so I might not be able to make out their face (well that's a good excuse!). And then it could just be that I have no idea who they are! lol I never have the nerve to ask who they are and where I know them from! And if they are close enough to talk to me I just try to play along and hope that they don't figure out that I have no idea who they are! That is so embarrassing isn't it?
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• Philippines
19 May 09
LOL. It is very embarrassing indeed, we wish someone might bumped along and utter their names, sigh, life is weird and strange at times.
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@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
17 May 09
Yes, there's once or twice I bumped into someone and they smiled at me. I just couldn't remember the name of the person. There's was even once that the person come up to me and say hi. I did find her familiar, and talk to her a while. However, my brain was twisting and turning, trying to search for the person's name... I wouldn't dare to tell people that I did not remember his/her name, or ask the name again. I just thought it may be quite embarrassing to ask his/her name...
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• Philippines
18 May 09
Yeah usual reaction would just get over it.
@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
18 May 09
Well, it's just embarrassing that she still remembered my name, but I do not remember hers. I must be getting old and forgetful... Happy mylotting to you.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
16 May 09
I usually remembers people's faces pretty good and unless they gained or lost weight it probably be easy for me to recognize them, but with names I am not so good.. It's like having a big drum of them in your head and your trying to sift through them trying to remember before they realize that you have forgotten it. And you ask how the family or job is doing as a stall tactic. If someone waved at me and I didn't know them I would probably wave back just out of politeness but it would have me puzzled the rest of the time trying to figure out who it was.
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• Philippines
17 May 09
That makes the two of us, its kinda weird when you are into this kind of situation indeed !
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
17 May 09
I have done that. I just say hi and figure I will remember it later. Usually it is someone I have not seen for a long time and since I remember faces rather then names it is usually that I do not know their name but seen them somewhere. If they start talking then it comes to me. I do not like embarrassing questions, so I sort of wing it. That helps.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
20 May 09
I just wait for someone else to join in with a Hi ---" and I do find it easier if I have a relative with the same name or they have the same name that runs in my family or I go to their place or they come to my place more often. I do not like asking who they are, when I know who they are but I forget their name.
• Philippines
19 May 09
I guess that works for me as well, I'm kinda shy as well in asking peoples name.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
16 May 09
Had this happen to me just a few weeks ago - ran in a convience store I seldom go in and the lady at the counter almost yelled, "Faith, how are you doing, I haven't seen you in ages." I had no idea on earth who she was :( I got lucky though after a short pause and maybe the blank look on my face she said, "You don't know who I am do you?" I smiled and admitted I didn't and she told me - I worked with her about 5 or 6 years ago. One thing in my favor was she had lost almost 100 pounds.
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• Philippines
18 May 09
thats a funny experience... good thing that lady make the move of re introducing herself.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
19 May 09
I am terrible about doing this...I see someone and I know that I know them, I just can't place their name or how I know them. I always try to coach the greeting along until it kicks in. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@sanuanu (11235)
• India
17 May 09
hasn't happened with me till now that a person smiled at me and I couldn't figure him out. But one day, I found a person in a movie theatre, who I thought I have met but couldn't remember where. He was trying to hide from myself and thus I did'nt ask him about him. Two years later I found out that he was the same person I used to go with game parlors to play video games. His family didn't know that and that is why he was trying to hide from myself.
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• Philippines
18 May 09
That guy must at least know you know his little secret, perhaps you could be friends ?
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
19 May 09
yes and it is pretty embarrassing...its usually my classmates from grade school and even high school whom i could not remember! and it is pretty embarrassing because they still know me and i forgot their names and only could remember their faces..so i usually look them up in the yearbook..
• Philippines
19 May 09
I can't help but smile at your response, good for you to have kept your yearbook after all these years!
@aikhong (661)
• Malaysia
17 May 09
Ya, i've been in this kind of situation before, and it's not only once,haha. That'll be really quite a funny situation, and i won't dare to ask who he or she is. Normally i'll know the person with just a sight but for those who i not really close i might forget their names. So, if they're the one who can be make jokes around, perhaps i'd try to ask "Errm..sorry, i forgot your name, you are..?" I must admit that i'm quite a forgetful person, but after that case, i'll surely remember who he or she is, since i'll have a deep impression on what has happened that day.I won't allow this to happen once again, and to the same person,lol.
• Philippines
19 May 09
That would be too silly if repeated on the same person, I haven't in the situation as well that i have to forget the name of same person when I meet him the second time. Thanks for the response.
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• India
17 May 09
haha.. that's happened to me a lot of times..usually it turns out that the person was my senior in school.. when someone waves at me its a pretty automatic response to wave back at them smiling like we were bosom buddies..worse is when they actually start talking with you.. outwardly i'll be talking to them normally while in my head i'm a total mess running through my memories trying to figure out the person's name.. thankfully i manage to remember the name before we part ways.. :P
• Philippines
19 May 09
lol, that is so cool for you to manage to chat the person without mentioning their names along the conversation, often though, we hope somebody bumped and say their names, but definitely you are still good in remembering names.
• India
19 May 09
thanks for the compliment...it was a nightmare though for me at my school reunion...was a complete mess. I was the Head Boy so my entire batch knew me but poor old me barely remembered the names of my own classmates.. was meeting random people, talking to them for about how school had changed,how much weight they'd managed to put on,catching up on what they they were doing now etc. and then finding out what their name actually was when they met other people . in the end i had to ditch everything and just stay with the people i did recognize. :D
@Minesky (245)
• Philippines
17 May 09
Hoo boy! Do I ever torchablazed!!! If the person I bumped into is alone, I would apologize first then, tell him/her that I actually forgot his/her name!!! Two cases like that before, the person is not offended, and offered his/her information for me to remember!!! My face is way too transparent, there is one case a guy friend and his wife bumped into me, he noticed that my eyes are a bit panicked so he made a keyword to look him up at facebook.... lo and behold, I identified him, and just emailed him that we had a nice bumpchat!!! LOL!!! Maybe because I am not getting any younger, (Oh geez!!!) I do get this situation often than usual. But usually I do remember the person within 24 hours!!! hahaha Need to take in memory vitamins!!! Cheers!
• Philippines
19 May 09
Hmmm thats kinda nice for people not to be offended well... that happens to anyone though.
• United States
17 May 09
It happens to me all the time. I can remember people's faces so well but names slip my mind. Sometimes I can't even say my own kid's names! The good thing is that I smile and wait carry on a conversation, then most of the time I can place them by their face or what they say. If it's just a wave or a quick hello, I can usually remember them when I try too hard not to think about it for a while. I'm good at placing people's voices too. I can tell who does voiceovers on cartoons. And I know famous people's faces, but forget their names too. I'll see them in a movie and remember them from another movie or tv show.
• Philippines
19 May 09
Thats funny, you can't remember your kids name? How could that be ?
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
17 May 09
Hello torchablazed, It happens most of the time. I have a very bad memory. When I look at someone, I feel like I know that person somewhere in the past but I just can't recall where did I know or meet him/her. I always make a mistake too and because of that, I won't dare to come forward and guess the name of that person if I can't remember clearly.
• Philippines
19 May 09
I do the same gr8life, its kinda awkward when we are in that situation at times, I hate myself in those moments. Thanks for the response.
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@littleowl (7157)
16 May 09
Hi torch, often I have bumped into someone whom I have met before or waved at them but forgotten who they are..it is quite embarassing especially when speaking to them..but always if I have forgotten their name I always ask 'i am sorry but have forgotten your name', they just laugh and tell me it..it happens very often to me...LoLo
• Philippines
18 May 09
Hey thats brave for you to utter just like that ! Thanks for the response again littleowl.
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
17 May 09
i have not encountered that kind of thing and when i usually don't forget any one that easily. though i may forget the name but i do remember every thing about him where i met him. as long as the person is some one i get to talk to enough time and not some short talk or any thing from long time ago.
• Philippines
19 May 09
You have a good memory, few people could recall names easily especially if it has been a long time and physique has changed the person a lot.
• Singapore
17 May 09
I will return the smile to him/her and think of what is his/her name later after the person had gone away. I failed to remember their name most of the time though, and well, I will just let it be and forget about the incident in a few hours time =)
• Philippines
19 May 09
hah, its a good way of getting over it !