Help! How do you make your child/teenager clean their room?

i went thru this with my daughter years ago, after telling her to get a grip and clean the pig sty up and she didnt every peice of clothing on the floor was in the garbage can. you want new stuff ? buy it yourself now....spotless from then on.

me and my sisters were like that too... sorry mom... but it was really okay with us if our room is not that clean... my mom have had enough of us, and what she did was she threw all those clothes on the floor, the dirty ones and clean ones outside our house, all our things too... and that made us three scramble getting all of it, picking up our things and bringing it inside again, with the neighbors watching us wondering what happened. that was really embarrassing... after that incident, we learned to clean our room neatly and tidy... you could try that too...

Housekeepping is not high on my priority list. I'd rather spend my time with my kids playing or talking with them. Just close the bedroom door and you don't have to look at it. It's not worth the aggrivation it's causing you. I learned very early to "pick my battles" and a clean room was not one I wanted to make into a war. There are just more important things to drill into your kids heads.

Hi Glow!! Don't get upset or yelling, it won't do much!!! My eldest son is the laziest lot!! Normally when i ask them ( 3 of them )to clean their rooms and made the bed, the girls will do it nicely ( actually the 8 yrs old do it, the 6 yrs old is more like standing and telling the sister heehhehe)but the big 9 yrs bro will dump everything in bed!!!Thats how he made his bed! But lucky me that i already trained them i don't like messsy home or rooms, so normally before i reached home from work, they already clean family hall (seldom in their rooms but always play in the family hall)hahahahaha..but glow dear, this takes me years to trained them since they 3 yrs old!! Well, i have to wait until they reach their teenage yrs to know what will happen but that's another story.....heheheehe

Remove their door, teach them shame just like the story of Adam and Eve in the book of Genesis. Everyone will be able to see into your teenager's room and see their mess, and comment on it, they will also have trouble getting changed without a door, and having other family members walking by the door in plain sight. Tell them they can have the door back once their room looks as tidy as the other rooms in the house, then it will be treated as an equal room and get a door like the others. I'm a teenager, and losing my door would send me over the edge. Sounds like your teen needs to be shaken up and pushed over the edge to learn some proper cleaning habits!

offer a reward

Sometimes all you can do is close the door and let it go. The discord and the angry words do more harm than a messy room. Besides, God will belss them with teenagers of their own some day. Payback is lovely...

I know what you are talking about. I visit my sister and she has the same problem. She has found a solution though. Every law has a punishment. She does not threaten to take the phone, she take it. This works very well. But now you say they take their time. Well, set a time limit with a punishment that will follow if the time lmit is not reached. It is important to stick to your promises. If you say that the punishment will be no tv for a certain time, then stick to it. Be cruel to be kind. I have seen that one should never threat, one should act imediately. If you do not act, they will never take you serious, and that can have bad consiquenses. Good luck.

Hi Glow, Honestly I have given up on my daughter and son. It is not that they never clean up , but when they feel like, and , at such times things have to be perfect, all spik and span. But then it is back to square one and me doing my best to clear up. My son used to like having everything on his bed- books, guitar, laptop,pens, pencils,tea shirts - just about everything. He is now in the USA working and I do miss him and all that mess LOL. But my daughter who is here ,more than makes up for all that. She hates to clean her bathroom and her room, and tries her best to get out of doing it. Now we do it together during weekends..Honestly when they go away to be on their own , I am really going to miss all of this. But for now I keep grumbling and trying to get them to do their bit

Well my mother gives me nice offers for cleaning my room and that makes me clean it everyday infact, lol. she promises me to gift me something at the end of the month whatever i wish for in a limited amount.She tells me to keep the room clean every month and every week i should clean it and if it looks clean she will mark my room everyday and then these numbers are totalled in the end of the month, she has a chart of numbers made and gifts related to each number.She then adds all these numbers and whatever the number is she gifts me that.Actually it is fun loving game sort of thing which me and my mom both enjoy a lot and also it leads to get a habit of clean room and also some gifts for yourself... hope you like this thing.

It is really a big probrem we often face everyday. The children actually does care about this. They think it is incovenient to clean the room everyday. I still remember when I was a child, I used not to clean it. My parents were unhappy about this. Then they told me that I can earn by keep my room clean. Although the money is very little, I do have the interest to clean it.

My parents had the same problem with me when I was younger. And my mom finally went to my dad and told him about it. They threatened to throw my stuff away. All I thought was yeah, right, you bought all that stuff its a waste of your money. So one night my dad was particularly mad about my room being a mess, and he got a garbage can put a new bag in it and went into my room and made me sit on the bed while he pulled my clothes off the hanger and threw them away. I learned a very valuable lesson, keep your room clean or your stuff will get thrown away. Its stuck with me for years. Don't just threaten, act on those threats. Sometimes thats what it takes for kids to actually pay attention and take you seriously. And you can also tell them that its not really their room, its your house and you're just letting them stay there. That worked pretty well for me too. My dad wasn't mean about explaining that to me, he sat me down and explained to me that it wasn't polite to have your stuff scattered around someone else's house when you go and visit relatives. Its the same concept at home. Its not their house and they need to learn to respect that. I hope this helps and good luck!

If they are not willing to clean their room, you can try these ways. If they are going to go out, and their room is a mess, you can disallow them from going out unless they have their room cleaned. If not, you can also try the rewards system, whereby if they clean their room everyday before they go out for the next 1 week, they will get something. I'm not sure which method will actually works for your children. I guess you may have to try the different ways to see which works best.

Hmm the best solutions are; 1) Take something they love and keep it until they do as you say. 2) Use an event in the near future as a blackmail. 3) Take their privileges. This should get them up and cleaning!

Dont threaten to take their phone away. Actually do it! Also, are you children allowed to go out socially? If their are, then the next time they want to go out, you say, "okay, after you clean your room". That works for me...sometimes.

im not sure but maybe offer them a reward for cleaning up.like if you clean your room in an hour ill take you to mcdonalds or something like that?

My kids couldn't leave the house if their bedrooms were a mess. My middle daughter is ADHD and I had to have her clean her room in steps because she was so easily distracted. I also had separate laundry days for each of them so the washer and dryer wasn't running all day on Saturday, for instance. It also helped to get them storage containers and to put plenty of shelves in their bedrooms so they could be more organized.