Why even you're good friends,you can't feel close to each other?
By Mercy2424
@Mercy2424 (43)
China
May 17, 2009 1:16am CST
I'm the kind of people who is a good listener but not a teller.It's like,though I have a lot of friends,no one of them can walk into my heart.Why there's nobody trying to love me with all his or her heart and open my heart?I know many people around us are like this,and have distance with others.But why does this happen?Why do we have the distance?How to solve this?
3 responses
@adaylatefriend (18)
• United States
17 May 09
I know how you feel. I truly do.
I guess it's a matter of feeling complete within yourself; finding something that makes you happy, and then being able to transfer that into your relationships with other people. You will gain more friends in the future...and within that group, there will be one that shines brighter than the rest; the person that will hopefully walk into your heart. I hope I helped a little bit. =]
@Mercy2424 (43)
• China
17 May 09
Thank you!Sometimes I think it's destiny that makes us meet.Or maybe I have the friend who loves me very much is right beside me,but I just neglect him or her.I'm always so concentrated on my own life,I'd walk out to feel the outside world and meet more friends.All the opportunities are created by myself.
@adaylatefriend (18)
• United States
17 May 09
It's good to know that you're taking a light approach to this. I am happy for you. Don't worry about anything, because you will find your path, which is the most important thing!
@kapil_poundarik (960)
• India
17 May 09
every one faces that feeling but very less people try to get out of their dreams and find the reality of life. its good that you have came out too. well but for my suggestion, i will just say that you should try to find the answer on your own and question your self until and unless you get a particular answer.
the only thing what i will say is, "defects lie in every one,correct your own defects before correcting others and getting sad".
also "don't base your friendship on expectations, it will not last longer. just be someones friend for you don't want anything in return from him."then just see how happy your life becomes,and how soon can you conquer your sadness.
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@Mercy2424 (43)
• China
17 May 09
I have given my world to my friends and they just feel that.They say I'd like to do everything my friends ask me to do with all the passions,but I myself is a very lazy person.But I can feel,what I've done is paid back,they just do as I do.This really warms my heart,I won't regret.But it's a pity that they don't want to walk into my heart and tell me--don't worry,you have us with you.However,they make me happy,the most important thing in my life.Maybe that's enough.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
17 May 09
you do everything for your friends and like any normal human being you expect the same care from your friends. but, i think probably you don't talk about your problems with your friends that is why they are not able to know what exactly you want from them.. when you stop being reserved then they would kno you more and then only they would care for you..
i am very reserved and my friends never realised what was in my mind.... but now, they have increased their own levels of understanding of me... and even if i don't say they know that i am in trouble or need of them. well, i think you have to open up a bit with your friends and also your friends must understand you a bit.
