Did you experience helping a person and regretting in the end that you helped

Yes, one should not always help others. There are people who take advantage of your help. This is especially true in the case of people who are lazy. Such people take your help and will hurt you. Therefore, one has to be very careful while helping.

I think helping other is our obligation. No matter who are you, where do you live, or what's your occupation, we must helping each other. When we help others we shouldn't expecting reward from them. We should help them without any intention. Usually someone regret after helping other because he/she expecting something from that person. Helping others is a kindness. Let The God rewards us. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.

Well I never regret it,but there wont be next time with that person. Sometime people really use you and abuse your kindness. But I just believe in KARMA it will return to that person in 3 folds. It happened to me and believing that person. Until now he doesn't talk to me by paying what he owes me. But I wont stoop down to that person. But I wont help him again ever. Have a nice day to you!

I had this happen to me once. I babysat for a friend of mine for the weekend from friday- monday. and they told me that they would repay me and what do they do, when they got home I had stayed till Tuesday and me and my boyfriend over hear one of our friends who asked us to babysit telling someone how I didn't do anything around the house, that I did a bad job. And I did exactly what they asked me to so. I watched the girls, fed, showered and clothed them and got them to school Monday. They didnt aske me to be there maid I shouldn't have to clean there house even though I did clean a bit because there house was messy.

Yeah I had some bad experience helping someone to apply in the company where i used to work, I was so tired at that time and never had enough sleep..but despite of that I still manage to accompany her to give her support because it was her first time to apply for work and after exams and series of interviews that she had passed she needs to wait for 2 hours for the last interview so we decided to take a lunch first then afterwards she told me that she's going home since she cannot wait anymore, still I encourage him to stay but she just left and waste the opportunity of getting a job..where in fact she had a daughter that needs her financial support, but she just wasted my time of helping her and I was really pissed off!

I had this few times in my life. That is very frustrating for that person in any angle I would think about. But since every thing just happened I tend to let go of regretting and think of other things rather than regretting for the rest of my life. I know I can make a difference in my own.

there are bad guys around us. the world is not always good. but at least u could be pride that ur uncle is a good man. i met such guys before as well. they cheated me, but i never pay more attention to them anymore, for they don't deserve it. in chinese there is a saying,??????, than means A FALL INTO THE PIT, A GAIN IN YOUR WIT. So learn from the fails,. And that man should be ashamed of what he had done, and he will have less and less friendship, but your uncle would have more and more.

There is a phrase that I have heard, "No good deed goes unpunished." Your experience is just what this applies to. It's so unfortunate that this man, that your Uncle helped, took advantage of your uncle in the manner he did. Obviously this man has very little pride or self respect. I hope your Uncle continues to try and help when he can. However, if he continues to help people in this manner, he must be ready to face the disappointment of them not holding up their end of the bargain. It's a tough situation, but if they fail on their end, then your Uncle can feel good in knowing he helped them, and not feel bad for never helping them again.

With this story I see what might have happened and then was blown out of proportion for no reason at all. What happened is when your uncle told the man he didn't have to pay right away, the man only heard half of what was said, or chose only to hear half of it. Is this making any sense yet. So when your uncle asked for payment on the goods that he had given prior, the man only remembered hearing, "you don't have to pay". I have run into this many times, where people or even family only hear what the want to hear and totally forget the rest. I know that when I am talking to someone and you see the facial expression go blank, or that "roll of the eyes" look, they are not HEARING a WORD... so I stop now. If it isn't worth it to them, why should I keep trying to explain something that could be useful if they don't want to hear it. Thats a big part of this generation coming up now, they only do what they HAVE to and respect is like, 'WHAT IS THAT' kind of attitude. If your wondering yes I have had some major problems with this and I gave up trying because of the disrepect given, why should I feel bad when they don't want to hear me. I don't bother now. If they ask for something and I try and get that roll of the eyes or blank stare, I walk away, I don't even finish the conversation, why waste my time. So in short, your uncle probably wasn't heard completely because the man got what he came for, only heard part of what your uncle said and didn't remember it.

I have a friend who always come to me for help. If she is short in cash, I always lend it to her. She also use my credit card for her purchases and she will just pay me on its due date. She does pay but she usually irate me because instead of paying me in cash. She will always ask me to get the money from her bank. It pissed me off because it has been a habit of her to make me go to her bank which is too far from my place. I just wish that she will be more considerate b y just transferring it to my account. So I promise myself that I won't let her borrow cash or credit card from then. Last week she just ask me again for money but I told her that I don't have extra. I think helping others should have limitations especially if we feel that we are being abuse. I am sorry for your uncle but there are really people who are ungrateful after all the good things you've done for them.

sorry to hear that...but i will not stop working good thing for people either they hate me or not...

I love to help people sincerely and selflessly. I do help them despite the bitter fact, I have been cheated several times to the extent of breaking and shaking my confidence. However, the lesson I have learnt from these bad experience is not cease to help anyone who seeks your help, but never seek any return from them. Your reward is with God. Only God can reward you befittingly for the good deeds and your sincerity and selflessness. If you adopt this sort of mindset and positive attitude, I belive you will never be sad and disappointed.

I can understand that your family is queit upset with this man because of not paying the bill, then when he does have money spends it foolishly. Then futhermore make your family look bad. I would be upset and frustrated too. Taking a moment to look at what could be happening with this man; maybe he is drinking to hide from the fact that he can not support his family; and the gambling, thinking that he will win that huge jackpot to solve all of his problems. Not realizing that the money he is risking to make that jackpot he could lose it all.. which will wind him back into the same situation that he was in before. Desperation will push people to do things that they would never think of doing before. Since its rough for most of the people in this country right now.. I too have pitty on the man. But for the fact that he is spreading rumors that are the true, thats just totally wrong, doesnt matter what kind of situation your in, he shouldnt of bit the hand that was feeding him, and his family.

What a terrible man. Indeed there are many many such man in the world.When we helped them , they paid with unkindness.But we can do nothing about this except staying away from them ,as far as we can.Sometimes we help someone ,they just thought we should do this ,I don't understand what makes them so selfish .

That's terrible. I hope though that your Uncle doesn't always think of this man when someone asks for help. Most people are honest and will treat him fairly. Plus I believe in Pay It Forward. Even if you don't get something in return for your good deed, you have the happiness of being kind to someone. I've had something similar happen to me. I met a woman who said she was adopting a baby. She needed some baby things that my daughter outgrew so I gave them to her. Then she said she'd do some work for me because she needed the money. I really didn't need any work done, but I paid her. I gave her more things for the baby. I learned that her husband quit his job, bought a boat and she wasn't working. Then she never adopted the baby. She had all kinds of excuses. I think she really sold the things I gave her. Oh well, live and learn!

well, many a times this happens that we help someone and in return we get their hatered. this has happened too me even but i think this is a lesson for life. once we experience such a thing we get cautious in life trust people only after knowing them well.