At what age have you had your first boyfriend/girlfriend?
By versio9
@versio9 (329)
Philippines
May 17, 2009 10:18am CST
Hey Mylotters! :D
I'm 18 yet I still haven't had one. I always find myself not having the time to have one since I'm so busy at work. But even if I had time, I still don't think I'll find one since I rarely get out of the house (meaning a very small social circle), again because of work. _
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@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
18 May 09
My first love became my first boyfriend when I was 15 years old. It was a very disappointing relationship. It felt like I was some kind of experiment to him (I was his first too.). He dumped me after 2 months. My heart was broken for more than 3 years until I met my Jorge. :) If there's one thing I learned from my experience, it's that you can't really go looking for love. Don't worry if you don't fall in love with someone. I mean, you've lived all these years without a boyfriend or a husband, so I'm sure that you'll survive even if you don't find one soon.
@blanne (173)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Very well said! And I have to agree with you 100%! We shouldn't be too sad if we are single. I mean, you shouldn't rely on other people for your happiness. You'll never be completely happy in that case. It's best to keep yourself happy instead of waiting someone to do it for you.. ;)
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
17 May 09
My first real boyfriend was are you ready for this "20". My parents didn't let me date while in high school. Then in college I was to busy. I did't meet my first real love till I was 20. Don't get me wrong when I was in my teens I had many crushes though.
@versio9 (329)
• Philippines
17 May 09
Hey lelin1123 wooo...20's not that bad. hahaha :) At least you're assured it's a serious relationship. Not like most couples during highschool where they're just messing around. We all have problems with our parents. But in my case, they urged me (!!) to have a girlfriend, but that was still in highschool and I didn't really find one that suited me. Oh well. :P
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@North_Atlantic (126)
• United States
17 May 09
My first real girlfriend was probably around the age of 16, I remember not having a driver's license and her older brother had to drive us to dinner. I wouldn't worry about it or rush it if I were you. If you end up running into a relationship your not ready for, it's not going to be a pleasant experience and it's not going to last very long anyway. You seem like your fairly committed to other things in your life right now. Maybe it's best for you to just wait it out. I definitely wouldn't worry that you'll never find someone, it will happen when your ready and you meet the right person, not need to rush it or worry about it.
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@versio9 (329)
• Philippines
17 May 09
Wow! Her brother must be really nice taking you two to dinner. Hehe :D Yes I'm sure that would happen too. Rushing into things isn't very good. It's just that I feel very lonely at times x_x Hahahah. Especially with my work environment which is very isolated from the 'outside world'. xD You're right, maybe now's not the time. Thanks North_Atlantic :)
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@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
18 May 09
I had my first actual boyfriend when I was 13. Now that I look back thought I think that was probably really too young. My daughter just turned 13 and I am hoping she does not get a boyfriend for a while, but she is getting really pretty so it is just a matter of time. It's OK if you don't have time to find one, you still have plenty of time and your whole life ahead of you. Don't worry you will likely meet someone when you least expect it.
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@pinaybigbucks (267)
• Philippines
18 May 09
when i was 16, there was this guy who would write me love letters and i also liked him but he was too shy so nothing came of it. i started dating when i was 19 but i still couldn't find the guy i wanted to have a serious relationship with. i met "the one" when i was 26 and he became my first and last boyfriend. :) we got married when i was 29. i guess i'm a late bloomer because now that i'm married and in my mid-30s, some guys show that they're attracted to me. lol
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@LRB1111 (356)
• United States
17 May 09
I had my first boyfriend at the age of 13. I was a bit of a shy child/teenager and didn't have many friends (I was also a bit chubby and was teased quite often). This boy became a good friend (although he was a bit weird) and was the first boy that actually payed attention to me. I was ecstatic and of course crushed beyond belief when 'things didn't work out'. We are still good friends to this day. :-)
I think first 'love' or 'puppy love' is the sweetest but can also give one their first experience with heartache. It is a lesson in love. Be happy that you are 18 - and a bit more mature - then when you find the right person you will keep your wits about you!
@TenmaMetsuki (452)
• Bahrain
18 May 09
I think I had my first bf when I was around thirteen or so, but I broke that one off.. my first "real" relationship was when I was around fourteen or fifteen, with a girl =P that felt much more natural and less distressing to me than the other O.o I had many inbetween, obviously none lasted long xD oh well.. but I only had my first kiss with my second gf when I was sixteen, tho o.o if that's worth mentioning =P but since she broke up with me, I've been single for over two years now T_T it hurts when ur first real love leaves u for no real reason -w- it's only recently that I started feeling up to getting back in the dating zone .
but, man, saying all that, it feels kinda pathetic D= none of my relationships lasted over a few months! I think my longest one was around five, maybe? -w- ugh... damn that w
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
17 May 09
Hi Versio, nice to meet you.
I have a girlfriend at the age of 18 years. I think, busy work is not a reason to not have any friends. You have 24 hours / day or 168 hours / week. How many hours you work? There is still time remaining, is not it?
@versio9 (329)
• Philippines
17 May 09
Hi hsofyan, thanks for your concern. :) Well for me it is a reason since I work everyday I only get a break day every week or so. My working schedule isn't fixed which makes it hard for me to plan ahead. You never know when you might get a day off. X_X But it really is important to set aside time for yourself, no matter how busy you are. I should do that. Thanks. :D
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@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
18 May 09
I am a late bloomer.I have my first bf when i'm 21 years old, I thought that there was somethings wrong with.When I was in high school I'd admire a lot of guys but i just dont get it because they did'nt noticed me but i'm my friends told me that i'm not an ugly girl, in fact, i joined some beauty contest at school and luckily most of the time i won. When it comes to academic i always got good grades, I dont really understand why men cant noticed me before. When i went to college still the same thing, no one dares to court me. I was so upset and I tried blind dates but it's not effective for me. After graduating with college I met someone whom become my BF and the realatioship lasted for 6 years ( imagined) heheheh but in the midde of our relationship I realized why that happened to me. I was grateful that i didnt engaged in early relationship and I waited for the best man to come. After six years I met another man and he became my husband.
My big sis always encourage me about waiting the right person at the right time.
She said that " Lil' Sis, You are Worth waiting For"
How about you? ARe you wait waiting For... I know You are ... *____*
@coralfengli (24)
• China
18 May 09
er……what should i say?I thingk you are lucky!Waiting for the emergence of a perfect man so many years,finally have a happy ending. I'm21 years old now,but,i have never has a boyfriend.In order to concentrate on my studies,i refused some boys,in fact,another reason was i don't like them.Now i'm a cllege student.Because it is a normal school,the proportion of girls is very high.I have been staying in the hostel,basically no chance to get to know other boys.I will be very frustrating sometimes,but sometimes i will tell myself,for me i just wait for the emergence of the best man in distance.I hope that the exsitence of such person,let me have the courge to wait for his appearance all the time.Best wish to you!
@caffeinedrunk (246)
• Philippines
18 May 09
We're just the same. lol! At 20 I still have no boyfriend. My mom and brother are practically giving me away to the next cute guy that comes along. Or passes by in my case:))
I don't really mind. I have a lot of things going on right now and they're already driving me crazy. I don't think I want to add up to that craziness by having a romantic relationship.
You're still young. Live life to the fullest. Enjoy being single. Your prince will soon come.
@versio9 (329)
• Philippines
18 May 09
Woah! That must be tough. It's great that you don't really feel the need to have a boyfriend already. I should be like that and just focus on myself first XD I should enjoy but it's hard with the limited amount of time I have for myself. hahah. XD Thanks caffeinedrunk! :D
@lukester1989 (4)
• Canada
17 May 09
Mine was around 16 years old. Like the comment above i did not get one earlier because of parent. Man can they bite. But the relationship did not work out to well. Now i am in no rush if i find someone i truly love and can see long term i will go for it. Just take your time. It will come.
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@sterra1995 (74)
• United States
2 Mar 11
Hi Versio9, I was 16 when I had my first boyfriend. We were together for 4 years. You will find the person for you when the time is right. If they don't find you first. Take your time you have your hole life ahead of you. Don't get tide down. You should go out some time and have some fun. Good luck in finding someone.
@izzybeth7 (16)
• United States
1 Mar 11
Your 18, why are you worried about finding someone. Take life by the horns and enjoy it a little. Most 18 year old's I know, already have kids and no means of supporting them. Enjoy your youth, save your money and when the time is right, That perfect person will walk right into your life.
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
19 May 09
Mostly ppllz her saying they got their first date in teenage about 16 to 18. This sounds quite early in my society but i think if its good with your social system then its ok for you. I have my first date while i was 22 and that girl left me without explaining any reason. I got soo much hurted by my first girlfriend and i cried a lot but then life goes on and everything settles as time passes away.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
23 May 09
Hello versi09,
I had my first boyfriend when I was 14. It was love at first sight. The relationship lasted for 10 long and good years. I don't think you need to worry too much about this. When the right time comes, you will find the right person for you. But of course , you need to socialize a bit. Try to get more friends and who knows, maybe one of them is the one that you are waiting for.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
28 May 09
When I was in school I had boys that I called my boyfriend. I kissed a few boys and things like that, but they weren't really relationships. The longest any of those lasted was like a month!
My first real relationship would have been when I was 18. He was a couple years older than me. We met at the clubs. We dated for about 5 months then he broke it off, I can't blame him, I did a terrible thing. After a few months we got back together for a short time, but we were doomed to failure. I was crazy about him, might have even loved him. Too bad I screwed it up. Live and learn.
@chiepao (714)
• Philippines
19 May 09
I had my first boyfriend when I was 12 years old. We're schoolmates and have known each other since 3rd grade xD It all started with the love letters etc etc. Then we began dating. Our relationship didn't last long.. I think it just lasted for a month or two.. xD
You'll be able to find the right one don't worry :3 Just go with the flow :)
@jhoanne1215 (290)
• Philippines
19 May 09
i had my first boyfriend when i was sixteen,and now that i am eighteen,we are still together. like you, i am thinking that also when i was in my high school days because all my friends are into realtionships.. sometimes i get jealous with them but i really kept in my mind that i will never be pressured. my advice for you is just enjoy what you have now,go out with your friends and better to wait for the best.so that you will not be hurt and just to say that you have a lover or someone who you not really love. keep in my that God always make a happy ending,if it is not happy,then it is not the end.. maybe your someone is also waiting for you,and only God knows when,where and how the both of you will meet. so don't be disappointed if you are still single right now.. and take advantage of it!i hope i'd helped you!
@gremar2009 (9)
• Philippines
25 May 09
at the age of 22yr old..i'm not use to have of eager in s.x or relationship before,my hobbies is always playing basketball & pc,but not in girls