I want to have kids early, but also means i need to get married ??

I think getting married to have children is your own choice. I am 26 and have kids and i am married. However if you want kids just so your not old when you have them, i dont think your ready. kids are a big responsibility, and take a lot of time. this is something only you can answer.

I think you are still young and you have plenty on time to have a family. I am not saying you have to marry to have kids but you don't have to rush. I say take your time and think about what you want and then decide. Come up with a plan that is right for you.

If you want to have kids at early age, it is needed to marry early. But before that settle.But I do not think online earning online will do any good.try to have also full time job.

This worlds a stage and life is a broadway musical on boulevard street. If we dont keep going, we'll be shut off. Now I'm not advocating that single women shouldnt have children. Actually its a very bold step that allows empowerment of women so they are not abused or feel used in a relationship. But I wanna also add to that thought that it is very important for a child to receive both his fathers and mothers love. I know there are many ppl in Mylot alone who are better single parents and can prove me wrong. But I still think a parenting couple can be better than just one parent. I mean its only for the betterment of the child. Sure one parent can be a good parent. But then two would be awesome right?

the big question is, would there be any girl who would want that kind of a set-up, i mean, you tell her that you want a kid but saying that you will not marry her yet? that would be very difficult, especially on the part of the woman. explain to her first your reason and reassure her that you you'll just preparing yourself and your soon to be family about the future.

Count the cost, which one you considered as more important. Consider yourself or kids. To make a desicion along with your willingness, then we will no regret for anything. Believe yourself will make a good choose!

Well I guess the ideal setup of having a child is to setup a complete family meaning there is a father and a mother and the child around. I really think that having those would make a happy child since there is both model for both a man and woman. I am not saying that a child may not grow normally when reared for by a single parent. First of all do not think about separation since not all marriages end up being separated. Of course you will have to look into the man you are going to marry if it suits the one you want from a man. At 25, I think you are ready to marry already you just have to find the man that best suits your needs. There are many options now for those that don't want to have a father but wants to have a child. One option would be to adopt one. The other is to get one from a sperm bank where you wouldn't know who the father is. Last option I think is to find someone you want to father your child and would not be interested in getting settled with you on a permanent basis.

getting married and having kids requires a lot of responsibilities. And you are right to consider your financial stability. Maybe you can try committing to support and care for a specific child in an orphanage near your place so that you can have a glimpse of parenthood and how it is not really that simple. Yes, having kids in the house is great, and it can also be stressful since you have to consider how to provide for their needs and also to raise them up properly. Don't rush into marriage either just for the sake of having kids, if you want a child badly then you might want to consider adopting one. There are so many babies out there who are in need of a parent's love.

I don't think mariage and children are things to rush; you need to consider what is best for the other person and the children. I mean, think about the pain it would cause your children if you married the wrong person, and they had to see you get divorced. And if you have kids without a steady partner, think about how it would affect the kids when they grow up. They could very well have a difficult time finding a good person to be their significant other.

I had the same idea before. I think if I have kids when I am young, I will still be young when my kids are older. But now I am not sure I want to have kids that young. Actually I am afraid to do so. I am almost 22. I have to admit that I have nothing for my kids if I choose to have them now. Thus I think it would be better for my kids and me if I have the m when I am prepared, both finally and psychologically. Besides, I would choose to get married before having any kids. I want my children to have a whole family and then a dad is necessary in my concept.

what you want is not a joke, not that easy to raise a kid. and yes its really nice the feeling of having a baby, but thinking of the responsibilities on how are you going to raise them, gosh.. then u can think of can i return this baby? LOL i gave my first baby at the age of 16.. yes that young, and all i can say is that, very very very hard. i cried a lot, feeding him, i dont know what to do, as in like i cant think of anything. but from that moment. ive learned a lot. i am encouraging myself to move on, do something for our future. and now hes 14 years old, were just like brother and sister. LOL and yet i have my 2nd baby and still iam single by choice. LOL

I had my baby at age 22 and a half. I never expected that I will have a baby at an early age. But luckily I and my husband got married before he was born so we now have a happy family. I have lots of friends who wants to have babies but do not want a husband. But I still prefer having a father for my kid. My suggestion to them is to find a man whom they can share the same likes as they have but of course love is more important than anything else. If you want to have a complete family and a father for your child find a husband first. You need to start from friends to lovers (boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.) From that if everything goes well then you can talk about marriage. Then after that having a baby. There are a lot of people who wants to settle their financial status first before having a family or a kid. But in my case I was even jobless when I gave birth. Until now I am still waiting for the job interview schedule. I never lose hope, I also wanted a more stable and sustainable life before but then I do not control what God has written in my book of life. I am only here to fulfill what my fate. If you have worries regarding supporting and raising your child well then you should not have a kid first. For me that was never a problem not only because my husband has a good and stable job but also I am a person who never lose hope. Yes I have no regrets with my son, he is the reason why I am more inspired to have a work soon. He is the reason why I have the strength to face more problems and I do not believe that a child is a burden. So if you want to have a child as early as your age, then remove your worries. We can never tell what will happen but as long as we are motivated we can are never afraid to face the fact that we want to give the best for our kid.

In my opinion, I do think that it's best to first find the right man for yourself (a man who understand you, and who you think you will like to spend the whole life with) before you get married and have a baby. If you have found your right man, and he is ready to settle down with you, and have a baby, I will say it's good for you. If not, you have to think of all the other problems and responsibilities you may have to face later in your life if you have a baby now. There's a lot of responsibilities in taking care of a baby, and I do hope you know. In conclusion, you and your boyfriend will need to get married. After that, you can consider about having kids with him. You do have to consider if both of you can handle the responsibilities of marriage and having kids before taking the "plunge".