How do you feel when being compared with others?

I get really irritated when my parents compare me to my cousins coz I believe I'm unique. I have my own fate, my own success, my own thing... Its like everything is a competition when its not. I set my bar higher than the rest, I don't compare my accomplishment from others coz that's different. We have different goals, dreams, aspirations and priorities. A person will never grow if he keeps striving to follow someone else's shadow. My greatest enemy is myself and no one else, which is why I hate it when my parents say, "Karla is doing great, what are you doing with your life, or I hope you'll be like her..." so I'll respond I'm not Karla, and its good that everything's fine with her, good for her. Let me worry about my life it's better where it is... What's more irritating is if your cousin make a huge mistake and your parents thought you'll end up the same... I have my own mind and I make my own decisions there's no way i'll end up like that... and I remind my parents that they'd been great and there's no way i'll end up like that coz they're upbringing is great and then they'll stop...

What a coincidence! an hour ago i had a quarrel with my mother... as usual she was comparing me to other girls especially the sons and daughters of my uncle (her brother) i suddenly bursted out of anger because since i was a child she always compare mo to other kids... it is like i was not her daughter... i cant get used to it because every time she compares me to others it makes me mad... nobody's perfect and she can't understand it... well this problem of mine i think will not be solved and i will be dealing with it for the rest of my life... As for now i just live my life the way i want it to be not the way other people want me to... hope you too...=) be happy!

It really a thing of the mind cause it can actually hinder you of make you want to put in more to get better result. I can to realise that sometime we really do need chellanges been thrown at us.

when i was always compared wit ppll i never thought abt the reason for my parents 2 compare me wit others instead i used 2 grow hatredness against my parents but in course of time i came 2 know tht it was key for me to correct my wrongs and improve upon them....it helps me remind tht im not great and i gotta keep striving 2 become the best

IO dont like to compare myself with others. I have a seperate identity i know im unique. I hate people comparing mwe with any one in this world. What i think is everyone is born individually in this world so everyone has a unique quality so i dont like people ompring me with others

well i always get compared to my older sister because we have many similarities and they always say that my sister is better than me.. we attended the same university took the same course and took the same major.. i know that my sister is better than me what i hate is to say that too loud in my face! it so annoying!! we both have our mastery fields that's why i am very different to her.. until now i try my best to be who i am.. to be known for what i am capable to do.. and to leave under the shadow of my sister..

It's not unfair to be compared to other people an it feels awful. I know that each one is unique so it's not good to compare a particular person to other people. I would be hurt if someone compares me to9 other person..I am unique just like anybody else.

Ya they compare me too. I hate it when that happens like everyone else. And to save myself from all the drama that usually, i get all angry and give examples of the guys to whom i'm superior in comparison. I also talk about my other achievements so they would remember that i too am an achiever.LOL.

I will feel very upset and angry if i am to be compared with others.One example is that my mother used to compare my results with my neighbours and friend's son/daughter.I told her that,i am not them,if they are to go jump down the building,would i go and jump down with them too?

honestly, i really hat being compared... it hinders me to boost my confidence and yah i feel so low... whenever i encountered such situations, i try to just disregard it but when i can no longer take it then my actions would bring me into doing things the other way around... if i'm being compared to a very good or effective, i potray to be very bad... :)

of cause I have the similar experience, and it is understood that I do not feel good. But it can not boost my confidence and I feel low to myself just for a little moment.

I hate to being compared,it's one way to boost my confidence!!my parents always compared with their friend's kid.oh,gost!I really don't like it!

My parents compare me to others all the time and I hate it. They say they are proud yadda yadda yadda, but they are always comparing how I'm so much worse at everything than everyone they know, even friends children they have never met. Also at work a lot of the time I will do something and someone else gets the credit for it. This has happened so much that now when I say that it was me no one believes me because they all take credit and tell my managers that I am lying. Since I'm the newbie there the managers believe them over me. It's making me look very bad and whenever I have reviews the managers are always comparing me to everyone else and telling me that I need to do a better job. If they would just get rid of everyone else they would realize that they are the ones that have been lying the whole time and that I work my butt off while the rest of them stand around the whole day. GRRRRRRR!!!!!!

My family is always comparing me with my brothers and sisters and I have to say it drives me nuts. I may not be able to do something very well, but that doesn't mean you should tell me how good someone else is at it. Why just point out where I could improve when you could help me to do so instead? Everybody is talented in different ways, and to compare them is next to pointless because nobody can be the best at everything, and everybody has some sort of weakness.

i hate being compared and never compare others. for me it is rude and filled with animosity. when people do this i avoid them at all costs. i don't have the time or patience for it. it always seems to lead to a drama i don't ever need or want. it doesn't motivate or hinder me. i suppose in the past when i allowed such nonsense into my life it was something i found as an annoying hinderance.

i dont like to be compared with others. but since i live in a world where people's relation is close connected, we cant avoid being compared with others.if there is something that we cant not change, why we not just ignore it? i just play my own part.

i feel extremely good when compared with others because due to it i get a lot of positive wives from of and try to do the best from everyone so that no one can ever compare me with anyone in future but ya there are some cases where the comparision is made of the thing which is not in my hand then i feel really very bad and think to beat him like anything...

Sometimes I do feel a bit offended. If people are comparing to me to someone else has a negative thing, I would just ignore them. I don't really like being compared to others.

i dont really feel good about it though but i try as much as possible to ignore them though, it doesnt mean anything to me just i may not take it lightly with such people when they take it further than just mere talk, i dont normally take serious when people compare me with others especially on light excuses

It depends. If the other person I am compared with really deserves my admiration or is doing better is a field which I am also pursuing, I would agree and learn from him or her wholeheartedly. Otherwise, I may argue that I'm not interested and do not compare my shortage with others' strength. Everyone has his shortages and strengths. There's no reason to be diffident. We should always be proud of ourselves.