Does a cheater BF/GF/HUSBAND/WIFE can really change?

i agree with you i believe that once a person has cheated on you they cant change.Also if you give them another chance they will probably do it again. They wont change as they dont see anything wrong with wat there doing.

I think that there are two types of cheaters. One is the type that just going to cheat because that's what they do. They don't care who they hurt, for whatever reason they just can't remain faithful or just don't want to. They can't commit to one relationship. The other type is the person who is in a committed relationship that is not filling their needs. I think that we can drive our partner to cheat by not paying attention to their physical or emotional needs. Just loving someone is not enough. We need to look inside ourselves and consider whether we have done something to drive that person away from us and into the arms of someone else. The first kind of cheater is one that should not be trusted again. The second type, if you truly value the person who cheated on you and think they are worth giving a second chance, means that we have to change our behavior also. It might take some time to earn that trust back but it can be done. The cheater needs to recommit to the relationship but will also need to learn to trust their partner with their emotional and/or physical needs. If the partner is unable to do that, then perhaps it's better for the relationship to end. Personally, I think most women cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met, and men because of their physical needs. Just my opinion.

I would say in most cases no. I think there are some situations that just go awry. I have a friend who never would have cheated, but things were wrong in her relationship and she was drinking and drank too much and ended up cheating on her partner. It was the first time she had ever done it and I don't believe she will ever do it again. I myself cheated though I don't know if it counts when you are in a highschool romance. I was only 17 at the time. The guy I was dating cheated on me first and after that things were bad but we were afraid to move on so I ended up cheating on him a few times till we finally broke it off. I'm not a cheater though, I had never done it before then and I haven't done it since and that was 10 years ago. So I think in a few small cases someone isn't always a cheater, but if some is in a happy relationship and cheats then I would say they will do it again. The trust is very hard to get back but some couples have done it.

For the most part i see it like this once a cheater always a cheater..HOWEVER i have a friend he used to cheater on every girl he dated or came in contact with and he'd think it was so funny because he'd always get by with it...But he could never figure out how the girl was finding out again it. Im guilty i told the girl LOL and i told him i told all these girls what he was doing and i said look one day someones going to give you the taste of your own medicine and i can promise you its going to hurt. Well i was right he met a girl and she was snobby LOL and she cheated on him every other day with different guys everytime and he caught her and i said well how does it feel to be treated like that and he said no so good. So now as of this day he hasnt cheater or treated a girl wrong. Some guys/girls can change it just takes the right person to give them a taste on how they do others.

those who cheater they cant change in the rigth time in there life...and they will stop cheating when they see it in them self that they wrong and if you love someone you should help the person to change.

Hey n30wing, I do agree with most of what you have written. Once a cheater always a cheater and for the person to get back on my good side if I have given them the opportunity that is, they would have to earn my trust. I don't think you can teach an old dog new tricks meaning that a cheater might do what they do best. If one is to have a healthy relationship with a person it should be based on trust and open communication. For example, when I was with my ex I told her that at the time there was someone else that was interested in me. I didn't want her to find it out on her own and make matters worse. My stand is that depending on the person and the situation I would forgive them. But I also would like to know that if there was a valid reason and what had went on. I hope this helps answer your question but I have to admit that it is an interesting point that you have brought up.

I think its same for me. Person who have cheated me, I can't forgive him or trust him again in life. It will be hard for me. I believe that person can cheat again.

I think everyone is different. There can be the person out there who has a one night stand and never, never cheats again and then there are the players They can Never be faihful. The problem is you don't know who you are dealing with at first. if a boyfriend came to me and told me it was a one night stand, I would forgive it .It woulud be the second time I wouud be off like a prom dress.

maybe he/ she has to prove that she's really worth to be forgiven. trust is something i don't easily give and one i gave it that person should really be responsible for that trust.

What I'm not hearing about the cheating is this, Were you in a committed relationship: Like were you engaged to be married, already married, going steady or what? What type of cheating was involved, the kind where the other person went to bed with someone or did she just go out and visit someone, or is she just friends with this someone? If she is sleeping around on you that's one thing. If it's any of the others, don't sweat it. She hasn't cheated yet. There's lots of things to consider; If she's only done it this one time-forgive and let it go. She may have learned her lesson. If she's done it over and over, then she's a cheater and not to be trusted. If you guys never had a committed relationship, then all bets are off. You both do what you wanna do.

I believe it is possible for some cheaters to change depending on the circumstances of the cheating. It is probably a very small number. I do not believe most cheaters will change.

Hello n30wing , well my experience on this subject is when my ex-husband cheated I gave in another chance to prove himself. This was before I even married him and I know now I should have completely broke away because he eventually did it again. Maybe there are others that learned from cheating and do not do it again but probably the most will do it again because they got away with it once. Because of that cheating it brought out the untrusting for anyone.

Certainly you this suffering very.

I don't know if they can change or not, but I like you wouldn't ever be able to fully get over it. I would always know in the back of my mind that he did that before and it's not impossible for him to do it again. It's sad, but true. I like to think the best of people, but it's also hard for me to give back that trust once I feel betrayed.

To me love and cheating do not gotogether! Well as far a cheater is concerned I would not like to subscribe to the sweeping statement that once a cheater always a cheater It has to be rmembered in this context that we act according to out lights if cheating wa invoving a sense of guilt then to me it is not a cheating but compusions of ones self which coulfd be corrected but if itis a habitual cheating then the matters to me atre different But personally speaking for me a cheater is always a cheater and it would be hard to re-ttrust him or har and better the ties should be snapped for ever to avoid the pain of being cheated next that would be in my opinopn the genuione stand and not the hypocratic indulgence that this act of cheating be for given if it happens like that then the person himself is a cheater and would not mind cheating by others that is my view chating cannot be and should not be tolerated and there is no love if it does happen all the best

I guess so, I think they can change, but it will depend on them if they wanted too. You are right about the trust. If someone cheated on you, there is a space for forgiveness but a trust is earn like what you said, it is difficult to bring back trust to a person hurt you and cheated on you. You can always be friends but not that true friend that you trust.

Well for me i think no chance to change lol. once they cheat on you, they keep cheating you again and again. maybe some people will change but most of the cheater are professional cheater. ANd i don't trust them.

You pretty much said it all. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

Definitely yes. Former cheater can change, if they are really sincere to change with God's guidance. With all the repentance and forgiveness. Mostly for husbands (man), when the wife cheats, reconciliation is not possible. In real life, it happens that makes their family leave broken at the end. Because normally, man could not take in their pride. But what is not really fair is this, when it is the wife (woman) who was cheated by a husband, reconciliation is possible. Woman in nature is wholehearted, who take in their pride for the sake of the children that makes the husband to change. For BF/GF, not a big issue until they get married and committed. But yes, one should be very picky enough to have a trustworthy partner for the rest of your life. One thing I am really sure of, no matter how weak is a man, he can be strong when he ask strength to God (who is the strongest of all) to fight all temptations and evil around him. Man can change from being a cheater to a real person who lives with fear in God's will.

Everyone deserves a second chance but if she do it the second time, I better break off the relationship. Trust is really earn and if you finally loose it, you can't gain it back. I give cheater a second chance.