Daydreamer2: Difference of love and infatuation from a book is it really true?
By Daydreamer2
@Daydreamer2 (470)
Philippines
May 18, 2009 6:53am CST
i have read my notes when i was 3rd year high school i am not sure of this stuff because i need all your opinion here, this is derived from a book so if it is real have you experience one of this?
LOVE
1. Develop slowly and growth requires time.
2. Produces security.
3. Recognizes reality.
4. Selfness.
5. Bring approval of family and friends.
6. Recognizes faults.
7. Center on one person only.
8. Motivates positive behavior.
9. Survives separation and the absence makes the heart fonder.
10. Recognized the importance of compatibility.
11. Ends slowly.
INFATUATION
1. Develop rapidly and hits suddenly.
2. Produces insecurity.
3. Ignore reality.
4. selfish.
5. Brings disapproval.
6. Ignores fault.
7. Involves several persons.
8. Has a destructive effort and will case you to forget the realities of life.
9. cannot survive separation and dies quickly once the object of affection is out of sight.
10. Disregards compatibility.
11. Ends rapidly.
can you tell me what was your opinion about this its giving me headaches.
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7 responses
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 May 09
That's a fairly concise explanation and I have to say I agree with it. It's quite interesting to see the two compared that way and I find it enlightening.
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Yeah! I do believe it that, love develop slowly and growth requires time. because, love is like plant that it has to be planted, watered and nourished for weeks, months, or years. So it requires time to growth.
Love is really different to infatuation..
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
19 May 09
I have also one book here, about the difference of love and infatuation. It says: "Infatuation is ruled by feelings, but love is feeling are ruled by principle, Infatuation is blind, but love sees and examines, infatuation is in a hurry, but love takes time, infatuation is obsessed with externals, but love is concerned with internals, infatuation is childish, but love is mature and infatuation is a human ditch, but love is a divine ladder." And I do believe on this book because I have a boyfriend and we love to each other. And we almost five years already because, we are not in a hurry. knowing a person always takes time and there is no "shortcut". Growing a relationship takes time, and God expects couples in love to "grow up".
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
19 May 09
Whoever wrote this is pretty clever because in my opinion it is quite accurate. Real love does develop over time as you get to know a person. It does produce security and you can love while keeping both feet on the ground while infatuation is more of an instant attraction; I compare it to temporary insanity, the object of the affection has no visible faults and causes the afflicted one to live in a fantasy.
I tend to believe that infatuation is no more than instant physical attraction but I have seen infatuation turn into love as people come down to earth over time and really get to know each other properly.
@bluangel628 (383)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Yes. It is a perfect differentiation between love and infatuation.
@eponiine (141)
• United States
18 May 09
Yes, this seems to highlight the differences perfectly. I completely agree with it. Most relationships do not seem to be built on real love, but it generally can develop from infatuation over time. It's natural to begin with infatuation first, except in cases like mine where I fell for a friend I already knew. However, I would not say every serious relationship or even marriage gets to the point it's really love.
