66 Year Old Woman Gets Pregant What Is Your Opinion on This?
By ladym33
@ladym33 (10979)
United States
May 18, 2009 10:20am CST
I am watching The View, and they are talking about a woman who is 66 years old that got pregnant through in-vetro. What do you think about that? Do you think it is good for a woman of that age to have a baby? Or do you think it is wrong?
I think it is unfair to do to the child. This child will probably end up taking care of his or her mother instead of living his or her life. My best friend's parents were in their late 40's when they had her. At the young age of 23 she had buried both of her parents. Neither one of her parents ever got to see her children, and she spent most of her life taking care of her parents. This lady may not even live to see her child graduate from high school. I hope she does, but she will be in her 80's when the child graduates, that is not right.
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@Colmuc (707)
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18 May 09
Hi ladym, I don't think a woman of 66 should be given assistance to get pregnant. It is against the laws of nature and must put both mother and child at risk.
Last year a woman in India gave birth to twins at the age of 70 and so far as records go is the oldest ever known.
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@derlilaStern (1756)
• United States
18 May 09
I dont think that it is wrong, as long as she can provide for the child.
I do wonder what kind of consequences the pregnancy will have on her body. As time progresses, your body is less able to adapt. Things are as flexible as they once were. I cant imagine how difficult it would be to have children at the age of 66! I do think there is a reason why women have the 'change of life' so they arent able to bear any more children.
I know that I dont want to have children when I am that old! I want to be holding my grandchildren instead! My mom isnt even 60 yet. I cant picture her having any children now, let alone when she is 66.
I do hope, for the sake of the child, that the woman knows what she is getting herself into. (Of course, if she is carrying a child for someone else, I do think that puts a totally different spin on the story.)
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@di1159 (1580)
• United States
18 May 09
I don't think its healthy for mother or child. The stress that the body takes during pregnancy is enormous. It can have serious repercussions on the mother's health no matter how healthy she was prior. God and Mother Nature have provided a "window" for women who wish to bear children and I think we should abide by it. I'm all for science helping couples conceive who might not otherwise, however there has to be an age limit employed at some point.
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@hustonphotography (569)
• United States
18 May 09
I think their are too many risks for both involved. I think their should be an age limit on in-vetro. This sounds bad but I do not believe this is responsible decision making. I don't have a probelm with 40 or maybe even 50 but I just can't see 60 year olds pregnant.
@zhdy89 (301)
• China
18 May 09
I do not agree with you any more.It's unfair to the child.66-year-old woman,how she as the baby's mother?She had on this age level is the grandmother,how to take care of this baby,how to share the happy while the baby grow up.The baby's growth is the need to concern by parents.I don't understand why this 66-year-old woman gets pregnant,can she give the baby needs care and love?She has needed to be taken care of,how to take care of baby?
@eponiine (141)
• United States
18 May 09
I wouldn't choose to do that, personally. It's morally ambiguous and I don't even like the concept of getting pregnant after menopause. But I'm not going to get up in arms about it, it's her decision and I just hope she lives to see her child reach adulthood. I can see why someone women might to wait until retirement to have a child to focus on, the ability to be BOTH a full-time career woman and a stay-at-home mom, but I wouldn't take unnatural action to get there. I don't necessarily think it's right but it's her body and her call to make.
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
18 May 09
How its unfair? When some one who is 66 is looking to have a baby then it means she must have thought of how to look for the future for the kid.
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@aryangentleman (1122)
• India
19 May 09
Yes I am sure of that as no one plan to have a baby at 66 without preparing for the future.
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
18 May 09
yeah I agree with you...it will be the child who ultimately ends up suffering in the end.
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@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
19 May 09
So you can guarantee you will be around 20 years from now? No one can do that. At 60 I have more stamina then peopole half my age. My 80 year old mom just passed her stress test with flying colors.
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
18 May 09
I believe that if a woman is able to have a child then she should. I dont agree with a woman being that age and bare a child as it is not fair to the child. I couldnt emagine my children burying me when they are only in their teens or twenties.
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@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
19 May 09
WOW talk abot age discrimination, mostly by people who are young, 60 is NOT old, sorry you misguided peope think so. she is most likely more finacially stable than a younger person, has wisdom and patience, something most young people do not possess.
My husband watches 2 grandchildren daily and is much more loving, patient and energetic than when we had our children in our 20's.
I am 60 and in excellent health, I ride roller coaster and have fun, there are some people who are "old" at 30.
Mind your own business people.
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
19 May 09
Hi barbie,
you look absolutely amazing for 60. I never would have guessed! I'm older and I'm one of those misguided people I guess. I'm 53 and I have a 15 yr old and I absolutely enjoy it. I guess my thoughts come from the fact that I have been raising kids since I was very young and I just could not imagine at this time in my life going thru it all over again. This is the first I've heard of this woman. I know nothing at all about her or her circumstances. you are right...we really shouldn't judge.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
19 May 09
You are right. I don't think 60 is old at all. My mom is 68 and is very spry and active, and my grandfather lived to be 97 and still tended his own garden until he was 93 years old. He also still worked as a landscaper up in to his 80's. He was strong and in amazing shape. On the flip side however, most of my mom's friends are ailing, granted they did not take as good of care of themselves as she did and my grandfather outlived his wife, and all of his friends and relatives. So obviously health is not guaranteed, but you are right it is not guaranteed at any age, and hopefully this woman takes really good care of herself, and will live in to her 90's or longer. I truly hope she beats the odds.
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
19 May 09
I am sorry but it seems to me you all assume 60 or even 70 is old, and that is just not true and that makes me angry. My 80 year old Mom took a a stress test today and passed with flying colors, and I bet some younger people could not do that. She may be older, but not "old" as most people think of as old. I eat well, no junk food, I eat tons of fat, but no sugar and starches. Low fat dries out you skin and organs.
My grandmother was an old lady at 30, and I have friends who act old and are aging faster. Why, they eat poorly and do not sleep well, do not have fun in life. That is what ages people.I bet ths woman, who by the way looks great, also is in better shape than many younger mothers. People are living longer and are healthier than they were a generation ago, so it offends me when people see age 60 and think old.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
18 May 09
I don't really agree. I think it will be unfair to the baby as he/she will grow up with less time with his/her mother. There's no guarantee she will live long enough to bring up the baby, no offense. Yet, on other perspective, I think she want to have a baby at this age probably because she want to feel to be a parent again to a baby. She might be feeling lonely. Still, I don't think it's a good idea to have a child at this age.
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@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
18 May 09
I don't understand a woman of that age having the desire to have a baby. It doesn't make a bit of sense to me and I think its being quite selfish. What kind of life is this poor child going to have? I truly believe there should be rules about this and that having an age requirement anything after 45 should not be allowed to have in-vetro.
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@eponiine (141)
• United States
18 May 09
I think accepting the idea that 'since science says it's possible it's okay' is all kinds of dangerous.
The life expectancy of someone who IS at 65 is less than 20 more years. I do not think it's a good idea to give birth to a child when you basically have a 50/50 chance to make it to their high school graduation.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
20 May 09
Personally I think no woman should still be considering having kids when they are this age, even if it was Surrogate for someone else, and I wonder what Doctor would allow something like this as well. How can they ever expect their child to live a normal Healthy life and the chances for this Mom to see them grow up and get married is next to nil as well. I know myself I would not want to have one anymore at almost 45, so I wonder what this woman was thinking for sure.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 May 09
I know, and I wonder why they do such of thing like that. I am 24 and I have 2 but it is just hard enough to raise children... I use all my energy to take care of them... and she is 66? oh my god, she will be drop herself down to the floor... but i will wish her good luck with that. However, I dont feel any good with this at all... she is too old to have a baby and just like you said, her kid will take care of her for sure.
@Barbietre (1438)
• United States
19 May 09
Do you want to bet? I have more stamina now at 60 than I did at 20.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
19 May 09
There is definitely a health issue regarding this, but at the same time, if this woman is prepared to have a child, then she has probably think things through and decides that she is responsible enough to have a child at her age. Does she have other children or is this going to be her first? Perhaps she has a special reason for wanting to have a child at the age of 66. But I hope her delivery will be smooth and that the child will have a wonderful life. It is going to be a bit hard than a normal mom situation, but it is not impossible.
@dookie03 (578)
• United States
19 May 09
I'm with you on that one. I believe this lady is a complete idiot and doesn't do the math in her puney little brain first before she has children. Your totally right she is just trying to get someone to take care of her in her older age. I mean seriously lets say she goes to an old folks home. Is her 10 year old child going to pay for that old folks home. NO! Truthfully i find this totally selfish and unrealistic of why she would even want to have a child at that age. It is totally going to ruin that kids life for sure.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
19 May 09
This is a great opportunity to have a baby with
this age. I can sense that this women would be happy
after the delivery . This woman would have a risk
in her pregnant situation because of her age level.
She might have difficulties in delivery and pregnancy
trials.
@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
18 May 09
How "wrong" it is to be pregnant and give birth to a new life? Sorry, but I can't understand. If the old lady is not pregnant, the child won't come to the world and how the word "fair" can be applied to him when he actually hasn't got the chance to live in the world? Or is it more fair to not let him to come to the world? Who can decide?
Now of course, the old lady may not be able to give the child the living environment like others but how do you know the kid won't grow up in a good environment? Maybe there are so many others to take care of the kid that he will lead to a much better life?
Life is like this. Full of unexpected and you cannot tell what will happen.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
18 May 09
I would agree with you had she gotten pregnant naturally by accident or something, I would not say she shouldn't have the child, but she had this child purposely implanted. I am not saying the child does not have the possibility to have a wonderful life, but I am saying that his mother will almost certainly die on him/her by the time he is 30 years old, and this child will likely have to take care of her, and make difficult decisions at a young age, than no one so young should have to make.