How old is too old to get pregnant or have a baby?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
May 18, 2009 4:37pm CST
Did you hear about that woman in the UK who is 66 and eight months pregnant?
You can check out the story on Yahoo news.
http://linkbee.com/miraclepregnancy
She's not the oldest woman to give birth or be pregnant.
Last year, a 70 year old woman gave birth to twins so that
her spouse would have a male heir.
What's your opinion? Should a woman who is in her 60's or 70's have babies?
Is there discrimination against older women who want to have babies?
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25 responses
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
19 May 09
I definately think these ages are too old...they would be too old to run around after them...I'm in my early 30's & my 2 year old daughter runs me ragged!! I feel sorry for the kids though coz their parents may not live long enough to see them grow up
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 May 09
That part makes me so sad.
I cry every time I think about it.
@moonchild1au (6237)
• Australia
20 May 09
I hear ya there & I think I'm getting too old to be thinking of baby #2 & I'm only in my early 30's!!
@rosemarierealino (184)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Too old to get pregnant at age of 60 and 70. lols. This time, you seldom see old women give birth in a hospital. I see a lot of younger ladies who give birth. I think, it's quite awkward to give birth at age of 40 and above. I gave birth with my first baby at age of 27. During that time, I was the oldest woman who gave birth in the hospital I admitted to. According to them, the trend of age to give birth has changed. Anyway, that's amazing!
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 May 09
I was thirty when I gave birth to my daughter.
I considered myself to be very old for a new mom!
But I'd been trying to have a baby for almost
ten years.
She just decided to make an appearance in her own time.
Just like a girl to make us wait!
@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
19 May 09
You're too old to get pregnant when you're already menopause. LOL
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
19 May 09
It's not really discrimination, its about their health. Usually, women at the age of thirty (30), experience difficulty in delivering a healthy child. It's already a miracle if a menopausal woman later that age bracket was able to conceive and deliver a healthy child into this world.
The real concern about the issue is their menstrual period. It has a very huge factor that helps in conception. Older women are also more prone to have miscarriage coz their bodies are no longer capable of conceiving a child. It's more of a case to case basis and discrimination.
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
19 May 09
I think that naturally is is possible for a lady to get pregnant if she somewhere between 40 and 45 years old. After that a lady would have to have medical treatment to get pregnant. I think if a lady has a baby when she is 55 she will be 73 by the time her child reaches 18 years old. I am amazed to hear about the lady being pregnant at 66 years old and I wish her luck. I think that it depends on how healthy the lady is whether it is right or not. There might well be some discrimination against older ladies in some clinics.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
22 May 09
um..well..
i guess on the one hand,it might be considered cruel to deny them,if that's what they really want..but on the other,chances are they might not see that child's adulthood,or the child will become caretaker as soon as they are an adult,not really fair either.
maybe they might require provisions of a sort be in place for an older parent,like
naming an absolute guardian legally beforehand in case anything should happen.
considering even in the best conditions pregnancy can stress a body,i can only imagine what it would do to a 70 year old.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
19 May 09
Hello beauty queen. I think that so long as the lady is healthy and financially rich, age is not a problem for her to get pregnant to have a baby. A good health for the lady is a very important factor for her being too old in her sixties. A baby might run the risk of getting some given disease. A good finance is another important factor to help support the baby once s/he is born till the child graduates from college. So in fact, it is not easy for an old lady if she does not have a very good family background and health. I wish this lady to have a very healthy baby.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 May 09
Very sweet comments!
As always your advice is very much appreciated.
Take care
Beautyqueen
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
19 May 09
I don't know. I have a hard time with this one because it is a woman's right to do as she wants regardless of her age however, when it comes at a price for another human being, that's when we have to put a stop to it. What if she doesn't live long enough to raise her child? What happens then? How fair is it to the child that their parents gain fame by having them at such an age? Will the child welcome the fame? Now health wise, is it fair to the child to be born with a disability due to the womans age? The list goes on and on so it does make us wonder, what is right and what is wrong? And what is fair and what isn't fair? We can't always think of ourselves all the time but the long term affects, if there are any and then go from there.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 May 09
I wonder why the woman didn't bother to get
pregnant a little earlier, say when she was fifty years old.
That wouldn't have been too old.
Perhaps she could have used donor eggs to reduce
the risk to her baby of having birth defects.
Maybe that's what she did. Let's hope!
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
19 May 09
That is a really hard call to make. I am against myself having a baby once I am of an advanced age as women of that age are usually not in good enough shape to carry a healthy pregnancy and then care for the child, that and the increased risk of birth defects that comes from having an older mother. On the other hand I would never try and tell another woman when to have their kids or how or even how many. It is far to personal of a decision for anyone else besides the father to be involved, as long as she knew what she was getting into and was up to the task. I have been on the receiving end of the comments that can come from people that think they know what is right for you and your kids as have 4 kids and most people around me think it was very irresponsible of me to have that many kids when we live on one income. I obviously disagree so I know what she is probably going through only for her it's times one thousands now that the media has their noses in it.I'll keep her and her child in my prayers and just hope she is able to prove to the world that she can do it.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 May 09
Four children is a nice number.
They will always have each other
to depend upon.
That's a good thing!
Thanks for your comments.
@sagapo121845 (277)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Theres no such discrimination I think.If you're physically fit and healthy then it doesn't matter.But most people are having health problems during that age that's why most physicians suggests that as much as possible try to stop getting pregnant.
@harmonee (1228)
• United States
20 May 09
I'm glad that a majority of women do not have the option to get pregnant in their 60's or 70's. I think it is unfair to your child to bear them at such a young age. You are already facing health problems and to have to take care of an elderly parent at such a young age is going to take away from their childhood, not to mention school and sports and the other things that kids do.
@mhethess (379)
• Philippines
19 May 09
Hi beautyqueen26, I think age doesn't matter as long as the woman is capable of having the baby, There are some things to consider, Is she healthy enough to take care of the baby? does she had the finances to provide or support the baby? Is she still strong not only in physical, mental but also spiritual so that she will serve as good example to her child? Having a baby is God's greatest responsibility for every women it is His design, but not having it doesn't mean that particular woman is not blessed. God has His own purpose why are there woman who doesn't have baby and why are there woman who still have babies even up to 70 years old. thanks, can you add me as your friend?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 May 09
Will do, my friend!
And, I agree with you on your comments.
Women capable physically of giving birth
and supporting the child should be allowed
to make up their own minds without interference.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
19 May 09
I have mixed feelings about this... i don't know if a woman that age can still take care of a baby like a younger mother can... but she has more experience... yet less strenght... and aside for that... can she live long enough to guide the child until he/she reaches adulthood...
There is a reason why on average... woman can only get pregnant at a certain age... so i don't know if it is still appropriate to have children beyond 50...
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 May 09
having baby is a good thing but if you are over 50 then you are too old to have a baby. Her baby might have to spend the rest of their lives to take care of her or something. I can't find any good idea about this at all...
Why she waits until she is 66 years old to have a baby? does she want to get her name on the record book or something? impressing.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
19 May 09
Hi beauty,
As I am childless, I think its every womens' right if she wants to have a child, these day women are youger at that age then it used to be, I am not really all for this but sometimes you have to wonder if she will be up to looking after a teenager and she will be a lot older then and maybe a bit selfish that when the child is in his/or her 20s she/she will have to be looking after her.
Tamara
@lilsoozieqwa (67)
• United States
19 May 09
you know your too old when you have a belly and you know you arent pregnant and that lil girl down the street pushes on your belly and ask you aren't you to old to be pregnant heheehe
@globetrotter1 (94)
• Ireland
19 May 09
There is a reason why nature has given woman a certain time limit on fertility. Woman who ' need ' a baby that much above the ' normal' menopausal age seem either very selfish to me or they have certain psychological issues they should deal with.
Anyone who says at age 60 ' but I feel young and fit and healthy' only lives in the present and has no idea what life will have in store 10 years down the line. Nobody seems to give a thought to the poor child who will have potentially turn into carer for an aging parent before they get to twenty! It is irresponsible of woman and doctors alike !
@dani67 (16)
• United States
19 May 09
I believe the age is irrelevant, meaning each individual is different. we are as old as we feel, and in today's world when longevity is increasing and being redefined daily, we can not judge a person's choice to have a baby at any certain age. but we do have the responsibility, as a society, to raise awareness of those future parents to the consequences of their choice.
in other words - maybe we should have counselors on site in hospitals and day cares, where they can help those future parents by discussing the options and the possible outcome of their choice. parents should consider their own health, their physical and financial ability to raise a child now and within the next 20 years, they should consider who will be the guardian of that child should something happen to them, etc.