surrogate mums

I think this can be an amazing experience under the right circumstances, for the right people. I know two women who had this arrangement and it has been beautiful for them. It gave the dream of a baby to a woman who had given up hope on ever achieving it. The woman who was the surrogate wasn't at the right time in her life for children and did not have any issues with the other Mom being the parent of the baby. They are best friends and see each other all the time. Personally, I would have a hard time being a surrogate. I hate to sound selfish, but I know my own emotional limitations. I think it's an amazing selfish calling for those women who are able to do this and I bow to them. What an amazing gift!

I think it is a wonderful thing in some cases. I could have done it when I was younger if I knew the couple well and believed in them and their faith was in God and not in the world. I have known a couple of young women that have done this and they have found it was the right decision in their cases, as they know the families and see the children as family (neices and nephews). Everyone should seek counseling before making this decision. It all depends on how you go into the situation. You would have to go into it knowing that the child was not yours.

Same here, I would not be able to part with a baby after giving birth to it..however mothers who do take it up for a noble cause (like helping women who are unable to carry babies) are laudable, no doubt. But some women do it for money, specially in developing or poor countries. Just to mention an incident, here in India there was this case of a Japanese couple going in for surrogate motherhood. But unfortunately, the couple separated before the baby was born and the mother no longer wanted anything to do with the baby but the authorities here in India had the mother's name as a guardian so the father could not take the baby back to Japan...there were a lot of legal complications until it was sorted out.

I have a aunt that cannot have children she has had two miscarriges and I mentioned to my fiance that I would consider being a surrogate mother and he filpped he was so against it I dont see what is so bad about it but I guess I mean I have three children of my own and I know that having a child would make my aunt the happiest woman in the world so I dont see nothing wrong with it its a person givig another person a gift of life.