Devorce
By diansinta
@diansinta (7544)
Indonesia
May 18, 2009 10:20pm CST
I just got email from my ex-husband, saying crazy things about 2 weeks ago i adding him at a site named friendster and it was spread into facebook and all..i really regret this. I'm starting to viewed picture of my friend and me together to make looks like that i was taken and very happy and yes he ask about him and i gets nausea every time reading his emails. My belly turn reading his words Blah blah blah ..
I mean,
Since when he interesting about my live. When i was her wive i never got single penny of his pocket and times. I got a very unhealthy broken heart baby and he live only 10 days because a very stress mother i was! i was pregnant and my husband never comes home i was just sitting there in the terrace day after day after day waiting for him to come home.
How can he pretend that he wasn't hurt me at all..
I'm gonna spam his email and friendship of him from any site. I wasn't ready for this, not yet.
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12 responses
@soulsearchin (81)
• Canada
19 May 09
He sounds like the old saying to me. The dog in the manger when he had you he didnt want you but now when he thinks your close with someone else back he comes into your life thinking he has rights! I would tell him to get lost, you deserve someone that doesnt take advantage of you like he did. Block him on all your sites and dont answer his emails, hopefully he will go away.
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@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
21 May 09
Hi there soulsearchin,
I am sorry to takes time to respond this post, i need to breath. Tt was so awful. I almost crazy if im not jump to Bali and start working, may be that was for the best. I wan to start my life with clean clear paper to write on. Sometime the hurt still come if i remember. I need to be happy, me too, deserve to be happy without any shawdow from the past
For the moment this hate it is all i have for him For God i pray ask for forgiveness of an awful mother i was, i'm just human full of many many mistake.
I am agree with you, i am not in his reach anymore to hurt me nor to love me..
Thank you for your warm respond, i really need that support, i will visit your discussion in a return, so see you there !
oxox'dian from bali island.
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
21 May 09
I just visit you profile looking for your discussion, seems like you haven't make a single one, so let me know if you already make one here so i can visit yours, okay 
@bloglog (628)
• Singapore
19 May 09
After reading your story here, I can imagine the hard time you had been through. The worst period was when you were pregnant, and during pregnancy is a time when you needed him most, BUT he was not there. The days of waiting was definitely a torture.
You have the right to stop his email and friendship, at least for the time being when you have not got over the pain and hurt which he had caused you.
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
21 May 09
Yes, bloglog,
I already block his emails so that i won't read any of his writing again and my friendster and my facebok too, He wasn't ever there for me, but determined to own my live ever since he saw me, How can a man clime he loved me but the othe wayaround he wants to destroy the whole things..
May be i never expert in love, or may be im too naive, but all i want is to be happy far from his reaching.
Thank you for being here at my post, i am sorry tooks so long to respond, i was catching my breath.
Happy posting always,
oxox'dian from bali island.
oxox'dian from bali island.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 May 09
He never come home? did you talk to him or call or get contact with him at all? sorry for all the stress happened to you. if divorce make you happy then you should do it. It seem so hard to move on with him... if you are out of his life then you will be more better than this. good luck my friend
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
19 May 09
Hi diansinta,
I know you are hurt and angry but I don't think that spamming him is a good answer to all this. He sounds like he was a real jerk to you and that he still is being one. Block him from your e-mails and ignore him the best you can. The least you respond to him the sooner he will grow tired and give up.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
20 May 09
I am sorry that your ex husband is bringing back so many memories your just not ready to deal with. I think though that he may be jealous seeing you with this other man in pictures, regardless that he is just a friend. I hope though that you can delete him from all of your online profiles and get the peace you need so that you can continue to heal from all the hurt that has happened when you were married to him.
Good Luck!
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@mz2981 (36)
• Qatar
19 May 09
That depressing situation. Get over it and move on. Its better to delete your current facebook and Friendster account, and don't put pictures of yourself at the moment in the net. T give you space to coup up the broken relationship. When the situation is controlled then you could start your social networking again.
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
19 May 09
Im sorry you are going thru this, I however wouldnt span his email, as you could get in trouble. What I would do is delete him from friends on ANY social place and then make your info (profile) as private as you can so that he cant get in to even look.
Some just cant move on in their lives even if they dont want you, they dont want anyone else to have you either. The thinking of a sick mind is what it is. Good luck!
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@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
26 May 09
Well, it is also healthy to make friends with our enemies..and that is not easu to do I know that. If you are still hurt of what happened, it is not wise to add him to your friendster. It will just stir up the hurts that you had. Anyway, If I were in your side, I would delete his name in my list so that I can not read anything about him and what he said. That is the best solution to this.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
19 May 09
Well diansinta, he sounds like a jerk doesn't he? He has given you a hard time by the sound of it and in my opinion he does not deserve your friendship. I am sorry about what happened to your baby; I can't imagine experiencing something like that; I wouldn't blame myself if I were you; these things happen, sadly and it is no one's fault and certainly not anything you have done.
I hope you have another child one day along with all the love and happiness you deserve and in the meantime get your ex out of your life, block his emails and ignore him, he is not worthy of you!
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@chillpill90 (1936)
•
19 May 09
well yeah spam him he sounds like a kid not a man, if i were you you could change your email address go to the admin of friendster and report him for harrasment. But you should definately block him from your account on there, leave it a while until you make contact with him and if he contacts you until your ready just ignore him. DO it at ur pace and when your ready.
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
23 May 09
Dian-
I realize you are very hurt over his suddenly being interested in you after the divorce. It's not uncommon though. Sometimes people become great friends after a divorce, they just couldn't live together. Perhaps he's showing an interest in you now because he feels this way. I'm trying to understand if you have a broken heart, or if you lost your child to a poor heart. I'm very sorry if you lost your child, that is not an easy thing to go through.
I would say instead of spamming him and getting yourself into trouble, to simply block him from contacting you. Just ignore him, and move on with your life. Try to heal yourself.
Namaste-Anora
@zhdy89 (301)
• China
19 May 09
diansianta,I can understand your pain,your hate.Ten years ago,in my divorce proceedings with ex-husband,I also like feeling as you.His performance compared with your ex-husband even more serious.When I filed for divorce,with still a hesitant being my baby,and I did not think that he agree to speak on,but one condition:he ask me to give him more money!What can I be hesitant to do?!Divorced,suddenly I feel that there is no feeling of him,he had been none of my business,why I would like to hate him and then let my feeling for him to anger?Did not need to think about?No reason for the suffering of the past affect my present life.
diansianta,deletion or deletion of his email,it is your own.In short,we must allow ourselves happy,do not let the past unhappy continue to affect the now.Bless you forever!
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