boyfriend problems
By hinkerbell
@hinkerbell (522)
United States
May 18, 2009 11:43pm CST
So this might mean im just an over jelous girlfriend which i would say i am most of the time, probaly because i worry to much my mind is constantly thinking and one things makes me think of another and probly because being hurt in the past
so today his married best freind jenn called right before he toke me home and he said he would come over after dropping me off. usually he stays for atleast a few mins at the least and thats only if he is tired, not in the middle of the day like today. and so i assume he wouldnt be staying i got sad and was jelous . and started wondering did he want her mroe as a friend. if you knew him this is a silly question.
also wen im over his house i help his family with cleaning and cooking and what not. this weekend i helped out and he fell a sleep. he said to wake him up . i tried to wake him up but he moved over for me and held out his arm and the blanket for me to get under him.i reached up for a kiss and well he pulled away i was instantly full of tears how can even subconsiously he not want to kiss me goodnight.he said the next day he didnt even remember it and kissed me 10 times to make up for it.
also another problem is that well wen he has a certain face i think hes mad at me no more than like one time was i right. but it seems his bored or just doesnt want to be around me . he says thats not true. but he doesnt smile like he used to and weve only dated a month and half how the fire run out so fast???
help on any of these would be appricatied
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14 responses
@chillpill90 (1936)
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19 May 09
I think that you need to tlk to him or your friends, its only been a month you guys are still gettin to know each other. Give it time and come on you know that in the end everything works out for the best. I dont think the fire has run out i think that your going through a patch and in relationships they are never the same they evolve and change and you just need to be patient he might just be worried that might be why he isnt smiling.For all you know he might be worried about you.
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
19 May 09
I can understand you because I had gone through some of the problems you mentioned with my husband. I think you need to relax and don't think too much. He loves you and you love him. So, trust him and go ahead. If you are upset about what he does, or mad at his friendship with other girls, talk to him open and listen to what he says about that. I don't think it will be an issue, unless he keeps the frienship to the limits of 'Friendship'. All the best!
@charlenmendoza (922)
• Philippines
19 May 09
strange that your relationship is only more than one month old and yet it seems you have problem already. i think you have to tell you boyfriend what you feel, be honest and tell all your worries. But you have to be ready and prepared whatever his answer are. Now if he tell you that its only your imagination and that you love him, then stop bothering yourself. Relax and enjoy the relationship. be a good girlfriend and trust him.
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@dianmelydia (2269)
• Indonesia
19 May 09
Both of you are in love now. I think you shouldn't to be possesive about him. You also shouldn't thinking about what have you give to him and to his family. If you do this, it'll hurt you more. This is a love, not an investment. There's no one will repay you. All you would get is just lovely treat. You may start a conversation with him about your both future plans. And always try to make a good communication. It's much better than only jealousing. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.
@soulsearchin (81)
• Canada
19 May 09
Considering you have only been dating him a month and are just getting into this relationship its way too early to be assuming what he is thinking or what certain actions or reactions of his really mean. Relax sit back and enjoy getting to know each other. You have no reason not to trust him yet or to be jealous for that matter. That insecurity this early on may spell trouble for you because guys run from relationships where they always feel they have to explain thier actions especially when they arent doing anything wrong. Be secure and give him space, if he wants a day to himself dont make a scene or be hurt because its probably nothing personal we all just want to have alone time now and then.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 May 09
HI, sorry for all the sad thing that you feel right now... however, I think he loves you and you need to give him some place. Some guy like do that cuz they are bored or may be he needs his own time too... you have to learn how he is and who he is, then you will be get use to it. He didn't smile cuz he was serious about it, and dont do something that make him feels like he has no life. Good luck
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
20 May 09
You've just been going out with him for a month. Take it easy there, don't over analyze nor over expect. You have to have a life beyond the fantasies of the two of you together forever. Usually guys are turned off with girls who want them so bad. I know the feeling because I've gone through that.
Most of all, if you're in that relationship thinking that everyday would be oh so romantic, then you're in for a big surprise because not only will his true colors show up that soon, it would get a lot worst.
Remember that being in a relationship is the 'testing waters' if you're going to make it to having a life with that person. Learn to see if you and him really do fit the part, else just leave.
Give the guy space so that he would miss you. Have fun on your own and have a life apart from him. You'll see that if you're not always waiting for him to make a move, he will make a move and would appreciate you more.
Stop cleaning the house and looking like the best girlfriend. Don't be a wife because that's not your part yet.
@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
20 May 09
relax and try not to smother him or he might pull back. just take it one day at a time and have a little trust. I am in a new relationship and it is a big transition. sometimes when we push to hard or hold on too tight it pushes the other person further away.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
20 May 09
wow, that is probably a problem, either you detected something that is not right, or he was cheating on you behind. It is hard to know until you peacefully talk to him. You gotta give him a chance to defend himself. Whether his testimony is trustable, it is your judgment.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Just be calm and try to be patient for thats
the scene of being in love. If you love him
so much you can do more sacrifices for it
but if not you will quit. You talk something
about it positively and I know there would be
a nice result for that. Its a matter of understanding
ones attitude.
@harryt123 (327)
• United States
20 May 09
hinkerbell, I know how you feel and I have to say that I don't blame you for thinking that way. I myself have trust issues as I have been hurt in the past, lied and cheated on. But you have to trust your partner if they have been faithful and never have made it a habit of lying. He wanted to go see his friend who is married, I am pretty sure that nothing is going on as your bf is happily taken by you and his friend is married. I would try to take it easy and not worry too much about what he might or might not do and just to enjoy the relationship and let it blossom.
@tashakau (131)
• Canada
20 May 09
I think that you might be worrying too much. Your boyfriend is very lucky to have a caring person like you. It seems that you care for him deeply. I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Men often need to be told things they do not get things as fast as we can!
