What is the effect of the things that people say against you?
By xal154
@xal154 (42)
Philippines
May 19, 2009 12:25am CST
People have the right to act in any way they want to. I don't have the right to judge whether their behavior is acceptable or not. They have to bear the responsibility for their own actions and so do I. By feeling sorry for myself I am simply continuing the work for them, long after they've dealth their blow. I've decided that as far as possible, I will not allow these people to disturb my mind.
There are many things in which I can be greatful. There are yet unexplored experiences in which I can find enrichment and meaning. There are others who will like me for who I am, and inspite of who I am not. If I spend my time being resentful and miserable, I'm denying myself the satisfaction what this life has to offer. There are enough unhappy people in this world who punish themselves and others constantly in a bid to find redress and compensation. But there is no satisfaction in retaliation and revenge, It's a waste of time and spirit.
What about you guys, I'd like to hear your thoughts and how you handle situations like this?
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8 responses
@soulsearchin (81)
• Canada
19 May 09
My daughter has the same problem, people trying to insult her and knock her self esteem they seem to think they are better than her but in truth they are jealous sad people with no lives. Thier goal is to make themselves feel important by trying to make someone else miserable. Well it didnt work with my daughter and I hope it didnt work for your sad bunch. I asked my daughter during one confrontation with a "loser" she was having. I asked her just who is she to you? You dont even like or hang out with her, so why is her opinion bothering you? Ever since I put it that way to my daughter when one of the "nasties" decides to surface with a rude comment...she just says why do you think I would even care what you think? Block and Delete. Dont let people like that into your world make them vanish and move on with true friends.
@soulsearchin (81)
• Canada
24 May 09
Your welcome, its short and sweet but it does the trick even though our "smarts" tell us we are better than those who choose to insult us its human nature to defend ourselves against these sad people even though we know we dont have to so "block and delete" just avoids the whole mess right?
@donnaweis (29)
• United States
20 May 09
Congratulations you have taught your daughter the art of, what I call, changing your buttons. I have found this to be highly effective when having to continually deal with people whom I can not escape from. I think it is extremely important to be comfortable with who you are. Those that are are not comfortable with themselves attempt to make us feel bad about ourselves. Keep up the good work with your daughter.
@cainam (493)
• Philippines
20 May 09
i can't please everybody. i'm not a likable or a friendly person. that's why i am always hearing bad comments on me from other people. sometimes i get hurt but most of the time i just don't mind them. it hurts when it is true. so i just have to take it and keep silent about it instead of depending myself.
@charlenmendoza (922)
• Philippines
20 May 09
I have friends who always said negative things about other poeple, she did it to me so many times and i feel sad for her. I dont take it against her and even to other people who said something bad about me. I know myself more than anyone around me. Im confident about myself.
When i heard negative comment, i take it positively. Because we have blind side that we dont see and other people see it. So i will listen to it and change it for the better.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
19 May 09
I do care what others think about me... I am learning that everyone has an opinon and if mine is not the same as their it doesnt mean that I am a bad person. My personality for years has been a people pleaser, and what I thought would be put on the back burner.. I am learning the hard way that it doesnt matter what you do with your life, there is always someone that does not believe you are making the right decisions. Well thats life.. Just hoping with this new attitude on life I dont make a huge huge mistake.. I guess I changed my attitude because of my current situation, and their are some very strong women that are trying to help me see that it doesnt matter what I do or think, yes there will be consaqunces for my actions; positive or negative.. But at the same time, it will me, not shadowing in someone else's foot steps.
@xal154 (42)
• Philippines
24 May 09
That's really a positive outlook in life. I admire you for that. I was like that before, a person who wanted to please everybody. But, I grew tired of it cz as what you said, no matter how hard you try to please everybody, it's just not possible. So I guess it'll be better if I stick to whatever my goal in life is and just tolerate whatever they would want to say against me.
@livz4u (8)
• United Arab Emirates
19 May 09
It doesnt make a difference to me as in the end of they day i need to feed my own self. Taking peoples bad comments on deaf ears keeps me highly motivated and confident that directs me to the key of success.
I Just dont care about what people have to say about me. Its my Life!!
@Ahmone19 (28)
• United States
19 May 09
People are just nasty like that sometimes. I guess it makes them feel better to bring you down, and that's their own problem. If people are trying to start stuff with me, I simply look at it as a pathetic attempt to come to peace with what's bothering them. Nobody should have to put someone down to feel good, and why people would even attempt something like that is beyond me.
@harryt123 (327)
• United States
20 May 09
The effect of things that people say against to all depends on a lot of different factors. The most important is who is doing the saying and what they are exactly saying. If the person is someone that means a lot to me such as family or a close friend of course I'm going to listen to it and keep it in mind and it might be something that is in my best interests to improve upon. But if the person is just another person then I would take it with a grain of salt. I don't like to be judged based on someones perception if they do not fully know me. My life is in no way easy and having a mental illness and issues is nothing easy to live with. So I try to focus on myself and what I have to do to get through the day and accomplish what I am set to do. I believe that if we all focused on ourselves and not get caught up in what others are doing and let a higher power such as God do so then we would be living in a more peaceful world.
@socomsargent (229)
• Australia
19 May 09
I don't care what people say to me, because most of the time it is not true, and besides, sticks and stones.
You cannot base anything on what anyone else says, just go with what you think, otherwise you'll never accomplish anything.
