Do you cook at home or your husband?
By littlesleet
@littlesleet (71)
United States
May 19, 2009 11:26am CST
My husband and me both work and we have a 2y old son. everyday in the morning I get up early and feed my son and send my son to daycare and then go to work. In the afternoon 5pm I must need leave the work and go to pick up my son, when we come home mostly near 6pm, I begain cook for dinner, most of the time 3 dishes and 1 soup, when my husband come home usaully 7pm and we began eat. after that he directly go outside and walk with my son, I need clean erverything again for anther 20 minutes. he just no help!
Most of time, it is ok, but sometimes I feel so tired for cooking, some monments i even want throw the bowl to my husband, why heust come home for eating and do nothing?
I aksed him for washing after dinner, he rejected. and now i asked him cooking once in the weekend, last sauterday he cooked for us just spaghetti and no vegetable.
What happened at your home? Does most of wife cooking at home?
15 responses
@abkinsey (173)
• United States
19 May 09
I do most of the cooking and I do not mind it. Cooking is relaxing and enjoyable for me most of the time. If I don't feel like cooking, it's no big deal. Those are the nights when we all just grab whatever we feel like eating. Every once in a while my husband will make something, too. It doesn't really matter to any of us how the food gets on the table as long as it gets there. We can all work together! Oh, also, if I do the cooking, then I don't have to do the clean-up. My husband does the dishes.
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
20 May 09
i am not a married man yet, but i do cook whenever i am in my moms house, i do this as a treat for her to relax for the day.
she taught me and not just me but to my other siblings as well, at an early age she used to work and leaving us behind. she came home at night and so as her children, we need to stand for ourselves to prepare for what our dinner would be, at first we only know how to cook rice, we don't use the rice cooker, just the conventional way of cooking rice and for the meal, we only know at first how to cook fried dishes like fried chicken, fish, pork, barbecues sometimes and noodles LOL
as we mature, we learn to prepare and cook dishes like the professional LOL
@ProudMommy22 (705)
• United States
20 May 09
I cook the meals...Not married but have some lazy people that live with me that think working is all they are expected to do. But i the cooking and cleaning and usually im the last to go to bed.
@Flirtykumquat (927)
• United States
19 May 09
I hate the face that men think women are only good for cooking and cleaning. I mean I can understand if the woman didn't work and she was at home but if both people are working both should participate. In your case since you come home earlier I would think he would at least clean the dishes or something since he comes home around 2hrs later. I had a latin boyfriend and his whole family the women stayed at home and took care of the kids and cooked and cleaned. I am not that type of woman I want to work and have my life too. So some nights I cooked and some nights he cooked.
@littlesleet (71)
• United States
19 May 09
Thank you for input.
My marrige has already become like my sister said: The marrage is who will cook, who will clean the house. The marrige is just household chores!
@beagle1 (1)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Hi,
I am a wife and mother of two . I cook each and every day. I worked full time before my children came into the picture. I loved working but I chose to stay home full time, so I had time to cook. I know how difficult it is to juggle a work life and personal life. There never seems to be a break. My suggestion to you is : Try to prepare meals when you are home and freeze them, this way you just have to thaw it out the morning of. As far as your husband pitching in, I think most of them think it is our duty to take charge when it comes to the house and chores. Explain to your husband that you work just as hard and that you are also tired. You are not alone.
@nishdan01 (3051)
• Singapore
20 May 09
Usually across cultures the trend is that women has to do all household chores. I do cook all the meals at home but I am not working right now. If you think it does not work, you could get some part time help. That is better than fighting with your husband who is not willing to help on his own. Cooking once a week is not a good idea as you might get tired on the weekend and eating the same stuff over and over again might also make you tired. So my suggestion is to get part time help who could cook for you atleast on weekdays.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
19 May 09
most of the time im the one who cook our meals. and do all the household chores...
sometimes i get help sometimes not. if im really tired, i asks for his help, but there are also times that i dont ask him, i just tell him to do it because i am tired. i just give him instructions on what to do especially with cooking.
@Hedwig (283)
• China
20 May 09
I am not married yet.But in my family, my father always cooks, my mother also cooks sometimes ,but in most cases, it is my father who cooks the meal for my family. By the way, the food cooked by my father is far more tasty then that done by my mother.
I don't think it is women's duty to cook meals. Cooking is just one form of house chores that should be shared by family members. If one family member takes the cooking part, then others should help with the other chores. That's fair.
@micklereed (17)
• United States
20 May 09
I understand that you two are workingto jobs but your husband needs to help out. Taking your son out for a walk while you cook is one thing but also helping out in ways you really need is another. I think you nned to sit down and actual thing him what you ar egoing through and taht you need this kind of ekp from him, be specific. if he doesn't help then and you want to stay with him than you have to think of other options to help you out. Always clean as you go with whatever you do in your home. Also prepare quick fixing food ahead of time. Keep a day to clean you hose top to bottom, other days through the week cleans as you go (basicly neeten up, wash dishes right after you dirty them esp during cooking) and also set a day for cooking for the whole week of two. You can make breakfast bundt and cakes, omlets, cassoroles and crockpot dishes. Place your meals in food saver bags and pot them in the microwave, stove or oven for quick heating. You can also get a nuwave and use their recipes to cook your food which is heath for you and your family in more than half the time. You alone using one cooking item with the Nuwave and no didn't need to thaw food out. Make life easy for you. You can always asks for help from your love ones or friends.
Wish you the best
Because I ahve severe migraines my husband and I both you the house work. I have grew up in a house hold were both my parent didn't house chores. Everything in life is about giving and taking. But a marriage and raising a family is about a team effort. I have two children and I know I need my husband's help regardless of my health, so I can imagine if I was well all the time.
@fishkingback (430)
• China
20 May 09
I am not married yet .so i cook by myself,sometimes i eat outside.But when i am at my parents house,usually my dad cook.sure my mom do the cook too.it really depends on who is free.but ,think there are many person like your husband in the world ,it is normal.if you are not happy beacause your husband don't do anything ,then tell him your feelings.communication is most important.
@technoobs (406)
• Philippines
20 May 09
I think when that comes, may be I'll be doing the chore rather than my girlfriend hehe.. Though its a shared household chores to build up skills and to be responsible for each other.
And sharing those recipes would get a better and quality time spent while doing the cooking..
@fly1987119 (28)
• China
20 May 09
recently,i plan to find a nice man to marry,but now, what you said so scare me.It make me remember a word "the marriage is the tomb of the love".but i am not good at cooking ,cleaning and so on,i even dont want to take care of my child,i think it's trouble,i especial hate the child cry,it will make me mad and fidget,i can imagine it.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
19 May 09
My everyday schedule is almost similar to you but I have more job to do. I am a manager at this coffee shop and I have to take care of every single thing in the store. I have to get up at 4:30am everyday to come to work with my a little baby (13 months) and then I have to work from 5am to 8pm. My other daughter is going to school at 12pm and my husband will take her. when I leave the store, then I have to cook for my kids and him. He will help me whenever I ask, but I dont like him to help cuz he never clean enough like I use to do. so he can wash dishes, mop or take care of children... :) that's it.