I need a friend.........
By lynpreety
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
Philippines
May 19, 2009 5:31pm CST
I hate myself I feel so insensitive, I know I'm wrong but I can't help myself to think and feel that I need attention. I need a friend to talk too but I also feel that they would not listen to me If I vent to them cause deep inside I know that I'm wrong. How would you open up in a friend if you know that you feel your wrong? How would you tell them that your insensitive? In a situation that for them is very simple but within me it's a very big deal that hurt deep inside? Can you please lighten me up....
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
20 May 09
Hey my thinking is a true friend will listen right or wrong and encourage you in the right direction. If it's not simple for you a friend will understand and love you anyway.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 May 09
I know a friend of mine will understand me but sometimes I'm hesitated to do so because I know that I'm wrong I know I'm the one who has the problem but since I read all your advices maybe I should do so what you said. Thanks very much for helping me up.
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
20 May 09
You are very welcome I hope it helps - I worked with a young girl years ago and one night she came up and asked me a question, advice about a boyfriend. We weren't really 'friends' just knew each other at work but I gave her my advice/opinion of the situation. When I finished she just looked at me and said, "I knew you would tell me the truth what you thought whether it was what I wanted to hear or not." We became close friends after that.
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@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
20 May 09
There is always someone. It is just a matter of finding them. I know that my own children don't listen to much of what I say and I think that it could be life threatening and they wouldn't hear me!!
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
20 May 09
It may seem like your children dont hear you or listen to what you say, but you will be suprised, they do... they are just trying to find there own way in the world... and part of growing up is to find their own ways... so if they dont always do what you say right way, its just that they want to do it or find it out for themselves.
@idowrite72 (2213)
• United States
20 May 09
All you can do is speak your mind and hope that the other person will listen. I have been the ears and shoulder for many different people and I made a new friend earlier this year who I didn't hesitate to call when I was a little upset with things going on in my family. If they are a true friend, it doesn't matter what you say, they will listen to you and if they feel they can offer guidance, they will do that. Other times, all they can do is listen and hope that your venting was helped by getting it off your chest. I have one friend who just today told me that he is so comfortable with me because he knows he can talk to me and that if there is something I have to say, I will say it bluntly, but not to hurt him, but because it needs to be said.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
20 May 09
Your friend is lucky to have you, I will try all your advices. Thanks have a nice day....
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
20 May 09
A true friend will sit there and listen to you, regardless of what you are saying. Honestly we cant always express ourselves nicely, we are all human we get angry and upset.. That does not mean that it is wrong, it just means we are unhappy with something.. I dont think you sound insensitive you are just sharing your feelings. Sometimes you may think some one is going to react a certain way or do a certain thing if you talk about something.. If you do not their reactions, speak up or nothing will change.. The only person you can control is you, and if you are in a situation that you dont like or dont agree with then its up to you to do something to change it. Opening up to a true friend, it will not matter what you say or how you say it. If the person really know you and understands you then if your venting just to get something off your chest, then they should understand that.. if not then that person is not a true friend.. Friends help each other through the good times and the bad, regardless of what the situation is, which should go both ways.
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
21 May 09
Thanks for the advices it lighten me up about sharing my own feelings, as of now by reading your advices I feel relief in my chest. Have a nice day...
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
21 May 09
Thats awesome... Basically if you have something to say and it is coming from your heart.. Then say whats on your mind.. Is someone really going to sit there and tell you that your heart is wrong.. If thats the case, then that person really doesnt care about how you are feeling... Just wanting to control you or the particular situation you are in.. I am happy that you feel some weight lifted of your heart, thats the best feeling in the world..
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