You should listen to your own advice too.

Yes all the time and I think it must hapend to everyone. Because it's simple to give an advice but its difficult to use it on you. It's like you tell some one to write 10 pages on something difficult, that was easy but lets see you writing them.

I think I am just like you and I bet most people are the same. I am pretty good at giving out advice which sounds real good but it would be a whole lot better for me if I would apply some of that advice to my own life. The truth of the matter is that we are all generally better at judging a situation when we are not actually in it ourselves.

Pardon me as I read your discussion as "You should not listen to your won advice too!" Interesting, isn't it? I mean how many times we are suggesting others to forget their exes after a break up but do we do the same thing when we face such situations? For me, I often do not do those things but then again, I pray that I don't face such situations in my life.

I couldn't agree more... I think situations like this happen when you already have a prior experience about the matter being discussed; either you experience it yourself or you've seen a friend or family overcome it... and then you start to share the experience to help someone. Since we overcome that certain adversity in our life its easier for us to tell others what should be done when at that time we also asked for help coz we are a stranger to the problem. From my observation, you really can't offer much help if you also don't know how to handle it coz its the first encounter with the problem. There are also cases when no matter what we do we can't put ourselves into someone else's shoes coz what she have gone through is beyond our ability to handle it the way she does. I also believe that eventhough we know the answer to our own questions we need outside information to validate and corroborate our idea. We usually fear the sense of failure or rejection which is why we always seek for answers outside ourselves. Its not because we depend so much in people but we are innate capable of socializing to relieve ourselves from any pain we are experiencing. There are people who also take comfort on the knowledge that someone have already overcome an adversity to give him strength to deal with his own.

I'm guilty about this too. You're right when you said that it is different when it comes to your own personal situation and it's kind of difficult to follow your own advice especially if it goes against what you like. One good example is when it comes to love and relationships. You know what's right and wrong and you also know what to do under certain circumstances but when the time comes, you'd find it so hard and difficult to do the right thing especially if it will mean the end of your relationship with someone that you really loved.

I try not to give advice unless it is asked for. My problem is that I know the solution because I have been there and done that. I try to only pull advice from past experiences. When I was younger and did not understand that I should practice what I preach my life was difficult, now that I just decline advice I find it myself happier and the people I surround myself with are happier too. They know that I am just going to listen, not judge, not condemn and not offer unnecessary or unwanted advice. Try it out and let me know how it works for you.

Every now and again, for all my logic and reason, I find myself not being very logical or reasonable...and not following my own advice, usually. Not often, but every once and awhile. In many ways, I'm not dismayed at this because at least it reassures me that I'm still human. I often come off as a bit untouchable and overly analytical, but times like that prove that I'm really not like that 24/7. That I'm human and feel as much as everyone else does. I do sometimes kick myself for not following my own advice, though. It seems kind of silly to forget things I counsel others to do, when faced with the same thing myself!

Me too, I can give good advice to my friends but I cant apply them to myself. Maybe Im just concern to them and I know how to handle my self well. That's what I thought but sometimes I feel guilty when I remember that I should be the one doing the advice I gave to my friends. Its really easy to say but sometimes its hard to do it.

Well, I too happen to be a good adviser on relationships, bujt frankly my love life is DOA. It'd be nice if I'd listen to my own advice, but its kind of hard to disrelate yoursslf, and comment as a thir person, that;s kind of tuff

You know I've heard a lot and seen for myself (of my own advice) that you can't or shouldn't just shovel out the advice, but take it yourself too! It's often odd how your asked for advice about situations you've been through or are going through, and sometimes without the asker even knowing! Well I hope that all those who need to take their own advice take some time to contemplate what they are saying, me included! Have a wonderful day!

I have the same problem. It is easy for me to give advice, but it's really not as easy to actually listen to my advice, to actually take my advice under consideration. I don't know why, but I just have a really hard time listening to the advice that I'm giving to my friends and family. It's easier said than done, I suppose. It's just the way that I am, the way that some of us are.

True enough to what your saying often times we find ourselves giving out great ideas or solutions to others problems but when we do come across an own problem we tend to reach out to other people for solutions and find ourselves not knowing what to do.That is because we can see better the situation if we are not involved with it since having problems makes us vulnerable this way we can't really have that clear mind to analyze in a flash the problem. Even if we have problems and with all the many advices we get still the only ones who can decide which actions to take is ourselves!=)

I usually practise before I preach. So I don't usually give advice if I myself am not following it. Of course sometimes there are some advise which you know is right and can be told to others but cannot be preached. However you are right about remembering to apply one own advice in personal life.

I agree with you laydee, me too was a good adviser many of my friends come to me to seek some advise with their problem and i always have a good advise to them. but the problem is i dont apply it with my life when i been in the same problem i usally do the things in contrast with my advise i dont know why im like these i am good at solving other people problem yet when it comes to my own problem i am totally lost.

Most of the time becaue my friends always come to me about personal problems and I will give them the best solution or coment that I know. But when it come to my problems I'm always going to uders for help because I don't know what to do. I guess its easier to help others because you can see the problem from every angle becaue your outside of the problem and when we have the problem we can even pick out to try to fix whatever it is. So far I have not met a person that those not need help and that can solve the problem by them selfs. :)