How do you gain self confidence?

I gained self confidence as a natural aspect of growing up. I, too, used to be very timid and shy and refused to do basic things like go into a store alone. But, when I turned 17, I had to move out of my house and go to college, so Mommy and Daddy couldn't do those things for me anymore and my fiance is even worse than I am at them, so I was forced to step up and do it. Plus, my first job at Kmart involves customer service, so I had to be able to go up and talk to people. It was very helpful in the long run to learn this quickly.

Fist of all , you should believe you can do anything that you want to do.You should tell yourself :You can do it!You should concentade on your excellence.You can list all of them on one piece of paper.Second, you should get along with those people who have confidence.Third, don't be so modest. Fourth,you should often smile.Fifth,make enough preparations before you do something.Sixth, set up small goal and make short plan ,if you succeed, you must be very confident and then you can set up another higher goal.Confidence is so important that we must have confidence in ourselives :)

Just like you I used to be shy at school during group interactions or even at role playing stuffs. I tend not to talk that much and you could not notice me say a word at all. Studies didn't do much of the part though in making me gain more self-confidence instead the experiences I had in life slowly made me develop qualities that made me look to the brighter side of life and this way I have became more self-confident. Also achieving things may it be goals or small tasks, it does add to my confidence.

I'm self confident, but there are days when I'm not as self confident as Id like to be, and I understand how you feel I was brought up very different and sometimes I find it very difficult to get out and socialize and interact with others in person but when people meet me they can not tell that I'm actually a little shy becuse I always put my best foot forward and I have a lot of persionality so most people cant tell that I'm a little shy on the inside and sometimes I also feel a bit out of place, kind of like a visitor from another planet lol. But I think the key to having or gaining self confidence is experience and having parents who teach you to believe in yourself and remember to put your best foot and face forward no matter what dont let anyone make you feel bad about yourself becuse even those who seem perfect are not perfect everyone has flaws, believe me I have felt the way you have many times even though I'm older now I still have my awkward moments, but deep down inside I know I'm a worthy person, and I rock, and so do you lol, just keep believing in yourself no matter what.

yes, me too. i was a very shy girl , always thought i am worse than others . but after reading lots books and self-suggestion. i made myself much confident.. and i love stay with someone who is excellent , bcz i think i can learn lots things from him/her. they willl make me more self-confident..have a good day

i think that i`m pretty much like you. Until the high school i was so different, so shy , but one day, i was thinking like that. Why should i be shine? I tried to be just me, how i am, to say what i think, and so on. All my friends and all the people around me, loved me. I was funny, they didn`t think that i, that shy guy, can be so funny. After that, i met a girl, that changed my life. It was my second girlfriend :P She teached me that marvelous french kiss. She didn`t belived me that i don`t know how to kiss. She took me in a place, outside, and she kissed me. After 1-2 hours, i was already learning something, and after a week, she said that i learned a lot. After some years, we met again, and she loved how i kissed her. I will never forget that girl. I loved her then, and to be honest, even i was young then, i really feel something for her now too. Now i regret so much because we`re not together. I know that we will not be together , but i really appreciate her and i`m pretty sure that i will not forget her all my life! That girl made me fell more confident. And now...well, i teach others how to be more confident, but i will not do that anymore, because i talked with a friend of mine, and now, he`s too confident, and that broked our firendship relation and he made a lot of anemies. So, you must find an equilibrum between self confidence and shyness. Too much , it`s not good, less it`s not good...think about that! Every people in the world it`s unique and everyone it`s beautiful, you just need to find your style and be like you are.

It is something only w can help ourselves.I know it is easy to say. But we should come forward when interaction is needed. taking challenge and executing them builds self confidence. Have to pick up required skills to do things which in turn helps to gain self confidence.

hi well its really nice that you have gained self confidence and have improved your social circle too.and i am always in the company who are optimistic and always encourage me when i am low. to gain self confidence,i read good books and chat up with people who have more grief in their lives than me,so that helps feel that i've no problems at all. thank you

I think self confidence is very important for everyone of us. it can bring success and other good characters. i established my self confidence by the way as follows: fisrt,make a plan that aquires about three days to complete. socond,try my best to complete it. third,make another plan that need about one week or more time and complete it. if you go on doing so,you will find that your self confidence is improving with times that you complete your plan incresing. it is the secret of my self confidence.

I think for many, self confidence comes with age. As you mature, you become more sure of yourself and who you are. And you start to care less about what others think of you, because in all honesty, what they think doesn't matter. As for me, I have always been fiercely independent. However, I have never been one to have a ton of friends. But the friends I do have are true friends that I will have until I die. I have always had some measure of self confidence. But it has its weak spots. My parents have damaged my self confidence some, although they didn't do it on purpose. For instance, I am a singer. I have always loved to sing, since I was little. My teachers in high school were begging me to take a music scholarship for college, but my parents told me that my love of singing was a stupid career choice. I know it would have been a struggle, and I know they were just trying to protect me, but because of them telling me that singing was stupid, I quit singing for years. I just started singing in a cover band last year, and it has been about 15 years since I graduated from high school. :( That said, I think in order to continue to raise your self confidence, you have to surround yourself with people that bring you up, make you feel good about yourself. You need to be around people that support you in all you do. That really helps you develop solid self confidence. But it starts from within. It looks like you're getting the hang of it!

I don't have much self confidence but I've downloaded a course which should make me more confident and I have to say it works but not enough yet.

you can gain confidence by doing what you believe in and not regarding what people say about you, a lot of people lose confidence in themselves especially when they get criticized by other people, this is not suppose to be so as no one is perfect , so do what you believe in and stay positive, that is how to have self confidence

to gain confidence ..first u have to beilve in urself dat u can it.. no body can help if u think negative...just do as u can n as expect as minimum as u can.. one thing to built confidence is ur concentration to learn things..n dat only can be done if hv a sharp mind.. u can do meditation for keep ur mind active n healthy as i do.. but confidence booster is just ur positive attitude towards anything

Hi there.This is a very good topic that you have chosen for discussion. I was similar to you.As a teen I was fairly shy.In college, I gradually came out of my shell. I found other people like me there.By the time I finished college I was most definitely a different person.I would not say it was a quantum leap.But none-the-less, I had gained a lot of confidence in myself.As I took up a job,things in that direction improved.I have always been a hard worker.People noticed that and I was fortunate enough to be rewarded for this several times.In that environment again, I grew as a person.Today I am self-confident, yet not over-confident.:) Reading about your experience, I think that you are on the right track.Keep the faith and keep on moving! :)

I did the same thing as you did and what added more to my confidence is that fact that I really did study very hard. I always practice when there are public speaking contest so I was able to prove my worth and I was noticed. When it comes today, my confidence level went down because I no longer work and I am only at home. I wish to gain back my confidence level when I work again. The way to gain it back is to prepare for everything and practice again. Also think of all your achievements and believe in yourself that you are good and better than others.

By making a difference and when people recognize it thats what i think someone can gets confidence to other people and to himself as well. from the advises also of the people around us give us confidence to them but theres nothing more important than gaining self confidence.By knowing the tools and how we do it makes us confident to take a task too.Most people who are lack of it are people who are first timers, dont know what to say or do or people who are afraid of criticism.There are people who dont know what to say or do but they are not afraid of criticism so they have still the self confidence to say what they want.When i was studying some of my classmates are afraid of reciting.they are trembling whenever the teacher asked them to recite or to report.they were showing lack of self confidence.But if they have had researched and prepared for the questions the teacher might asked,that would give them self confidence to stand and deliver it. therefore,i think knowing how and what to say or do and having the guts not to be afraid of criticism plus practice will give me confidence.

The same thing happened to me before. I think there's no quick confidence in this life. I believe that my today is a reward from all of my efforts. My confidence secret is my experiences. My life experiences have bring me to the higher and higher position in my career and social level. Now, i'm not in my previous me, but i'm a new me. Totally different. I now am an university graduated, a manager in my office, and a good teacher for my pupils. I'm now learning by doing, not learning to doing anymore. That's why i can gain my confidence for facing this world. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.

I had a similar experience like you did. I was so shy and i rarely talked and i was just enclosed to my friends at school. I was able to meet different people when i started joining clubs and i was in it for years and that made me grew out of my shell. I was also branded as one of the smartest ones in school and it made me closer to others also. anyway, experience helped me to gain self-confidence and also i have tried to improve my physical appearance by being conscious with how i look and how i dress since it is the physical first that is seen and the one that hooks up a person next is the PERSONALITY. So be confident and just BE YOURSELF!

Yeah, i think we're much similar on this,haha. When i was young, during my primary school, i was so timid and shy just like you do. I seldom speak up and mix around with my clasmates or friends. Perhaps i was just too shy and not confindent inmyself to get noticed by people. Luckily my friends didn't leave be because of that. However, in my studies i can say that i did it well. I get good grades in all the important exams and so because of that teachers and friends started to recognise me. Besides i also joined activities and societies during my secondary school years and from there i gained more confidence and know more friends. Then, finally it becomes the one who i am now, i'm much better improved compared to the 'previous' me. Anyway, afterall that's a saying that i think is very true, would like to share with you here: We're the one who can give confidence to and recognise ourselves, it's not from others indeed. We should keep this in mind.