how to be a good mother?

i am a mother of a 3-year-old and you know how kids are during that stage. she won't listen until i get really mad at her. to avoid doing things that i might regret afterward, i go to another area in the house like the garden, the bathroom, or my room. when i'm calm again, that's when i talk to her.

The way to be a good mother is to treat your children like children. Protect them appropriately, give them age appropriate responsibilities and freedoms; teach them to respect others and be there for them when they need you. Listen when they have a problem, give advice when they ask, help them feel good about themselves and most importantly be the adult and not try to be their best friend.

Cindy, First of all one needs to be a good and nice human being, before being a good mother. If a woman has good temparament, sound knowledge and other skills like teaching and cooking, she could be a good mother. A good mother needs to be very very understanding and very patient. While dealing with kids, if one cannot keep the patience, she will find herself in difficult situation, because kids are very naughty and impatient and they cannot think in the same manner in which we can think. We need to think from their angle and understanding, then only we could prove to be good parents/mother.

I read a lot of theory to be a good mother. I always try, but the result does not match what I want. very easy to learn the theory but the practice is very difficult.

well I think the discussion would no hold any purpose if we do not bring the child into picture. When you are a child, how you wanted your mum to be? Then put yourself in your mother's shoe and see how you think it is best way to bring you up. Now I think the best love is not the short term of giving in to the child, however to ensure that he/she would be equip to handle themselves later on in life. i.e. education, support. The child would never fully understand a parent, just like the parent would forget why did the rebel against their parent before. If you need to ask me what is the trait that a good mother would have then I would say selflessness, always putting the child before self. That is why mothers around the world is so respected.

'Good mother' is a very big term. Good mothers are beyond decisions but they are good by nature and can induce everything good and never tired of being a good mother. Otherwise, people only try to be good mother in words but not from the core.

There is no such thing as a manual or a 1-10 point to becoming a good mother. Yes we all need to have a good temper, good personality and everything else but it doesnt necessarily mean that if you arent one of those you're a bad mom already. Its a matter of learning and molding yourself to becoming the best mom you can be to your child. I was young when I had my son and now he is 4yrs old already. I didnt know anything when I had him but look at where I am right now. I am able to control my temper, check all his needs and make sure everything is prepared on time. I think if you put time into knowing what you need to work on then you will just be fine. :)