If you knew that your gf/bf was cheating but you had no proof, what would you do

Oh gosh. Please.... Do not ignore. I strongly believe in girlfriend's intuition or girl's instinct. You have to talk to your boyfriend in such a way that you don't appear to be confrontational or something like Inspector Gadget. It is easier said than done, but you have to find time to sit down with him. In a relationship, it is not healthy to keep such kinds of feelings especially if you think that something is going on. There may not be proof right now, but why wait? You will not accuse him. All you have to do is tell him what you're feeling. It will be even more difficult if you keep that all bottled up and it's really going to be dangerous when the time comes that you'll just explode. I used to be quiet or something like that in my previous relationships even if I were already feeling something. This intuition has never failed me. I never got good results when I kept it to myself. Talk to your boyfriend. Don't be angry with him. Really strong emotions won't do anything good. He should also be understanding of you. If the relationship is worth fighting for and if you both really love each other, I'm sure you will be able to work things out. I wish you the best.

ive been in that situation before i think its best to just keep it in the back of your mind until you get proof of it and bust him handed when i finally had proof and confronted my now x he still tryed to deny it when i actually talked to the girl that he cheated on me with and she told me things that she could have only known if it was all true. good luck with your boyfriend and i hope things work out for the best.

First off I would have to be sure. I would change my routine and be available when he least expects me to be. I would probably follow him or have someone else. I would lay in wait, check numbers on his phone. It would have to be pretty aparent. If and when I got the proof I needed he would be out of my life like the garbage he would be. I treat my men good so I would have no reason to believe he has issues with me. He would be out of the picture really fast. I would be devestated.

This is a very interesting discussion, If I were in this particular situation then the first thing I might be doing is to keep a watch on him, I know this is not done but what he has also is not appreciable, so I will hire someone to give me some concret proof so that I can be sure of my suspicions.

I think the best way to handle yous situation is through conversation. Just talk to him and ask him to the face whether he is cheating. don't keep it to yourself and gets even frustrated. Well of course he can deny about it and if he does just tell him straight away about how you would feel if he do cheating. If he is truly cheating then you can see it in his face.

This is a complex situation. I have never been in a relationship yet and maybe can't give you any informative advices. However, I do feel sorry for you. In my opinion, there is totally no need to wait for him to slip up, it will be a total torture to you. Just leave him without explanation. If he still cares about you, he will try to find you. If he doesn't, ok, there is no need to waste your emotion on such a worthless guy anyway.

1. If you are basing things on a feeling that something isn't right, you need to get proof. When I felt like my ex was cheating on me there were signs. He was spending more time with another girl, he had text messages from the other girl, his friends would call me by her name (that happened twice). There were too many things that didn't add up with the "friendship" I confronted him about it and he made out to be crazy you don't want that. Try to get proof somehow.

if he's doing it via computer,install keylogger software and sit back and wait. if he's doing something,you'll have your proof.

I've been in that situation before and i actually did confront him and of course he denied it so i said whatever. Well he told me the night before he had to work the next night which he never did so i waited until he left and i found my camera and he had left for about 5 mins maybe and so i followed him. Snapped a couple of pictures of this girl getting into his car...then took some more pictures of them kissing and so forth...i let it go on for about a week. After that he was in the bed one morning i told him to get up and of course he played the stupid again and so i took all the pictures and threw them at him and then i said okay get out of my house and hit the door. I told him plain out that he tought i was stupid and i told him id catch him for long cause i know he'd be stupid and mess up. But there is many of ways to catch one cheating of course it hurts however with me i was way to mad for it to even hurt. But i wish you the best of luck with it but your right wait until you get proof because they will deny it until you can show them.

if i had no proof, then maybe i should wait til i can proof it myself..coz what if i was wrong, misunderstood bout him and accused him for something that he didn't do ? that would be my mistake then if the relationship got broken, and i don't want that specially if i really love him.. i don't wanna early judging him, i will looking for proofs first and once i make sure, i will ask him to be honest with me..coz lies are more painful than the truth..

It would be better if you'll just keep it yourself first until you get the proof. And seek help to your close friends tell them that you need eyes and ears to caught your bf in the act that he's really cheating ^^

everything in a relationship is based on trust. i see your situation and it seems to me that you cannot trust your partner. if i were you, i wuldnt even bother to prove that he or she is cheating on me. if you do not trust that person and he or she is not doing his part to make you trust him or her, you might as well end the relationship once and for all.

When we came to know about that our girl friend or boy friend is cheating leave them or cut their relationship.Ask him/her about the reason for comminting such an act.If we had proof about the same,show it to them and ask them to be loyal to each other henceforth because such people will have the tendency to repeat their mistake. The other thing that we can do is make them realize their mistake,in some cases it can work out and they will never repeat it. Incase we dont have any proof then the best thing we can do is that, love them as much as possible so that they might realize their act of unfaithfullness.

There are ways of checking up on his actions. My x-husband played the cheating game for year's. Now day's you have the cell phone. Check his rescent call's made if he has one(without him knowing of course.) I once went through my x-husbands wallet, and found a picture of a women, with a sweet message written on the back to him, and a phone number. And another time I used what is called reverse psychology. He told me he was going out with his friends. The next morning when he came home, I told him that he had been followed, and that I knew he had met a women. Thinking he had been caught, he fessed up. What ever you decide to do, good luck.

Actually there are certain things that can't be proved like a lawyer with evidence.But there are certainly some truth into it. Try to take deep look into it to ascertain whether its right. Take news from several sources. Then if you think you are right, then leave this guy.

I've been on both sides of this situation and I say just end it. I have thought my husband was cheating on me and felt I needed proof. I ended up in the end leaving him for all sorts of other reasons and finding after the fact that I was right...he was cheating which caused all the other problems in our marriage. I dated a man that was so convinced that I was cheating when I wasn't that I was constantly reassuring him. It was ridiculous. I ended it. I was offended at the constant questioning and it took up time that could otherwise be spent enjoying each other. If you don't have trust...you really have nothing. Basically when my ex was confronting me...he was insulting my integrity and who I was as a person. He was so stressed because he was convinced that I was not being faithful. Sadly , I was. I ended his stress and my own by ending the relationship.If you don't trust him, then you are not happy and that is reason enough to move on. you don't need any more proof than that.

If he's cheating, and you confront him, he will definitely deny the situation exists and will take steps to cover his tracks so it will be harder for you to find out anything. I believe in a woman's intuition, we can feel when something is not right, but I also believe that cheaters are liars...they have to be...so catching them either red handed or with some evidence to back it up, is the best option to shoot for.

Well who hasn't been in this stituation. Most of us have. You are so right about confronting him - he will say you are crazy they all say the same thing. Maybe if you say it like this "If there is someone else please just tell me and I will be gone, no questions asked" or you could hire an investigator if you have the money. Or just wait and see. If he is doing something wrong he will mess up and get caught one day and its usually sooner than later. Good luck to you!

You can not direct a relationship just with your instincts, you have to learn to trust your partner. How can you be sure without any proof in hand? To know your partner is cheating on you, you need prrof. I think you are being paranoid, why do you think the problem in your relation is him cheating on you? can't it be something else? just talk to him instead, voice your concerns, get his opinion.

Hi Tjmoney22 You are really in great frustration but you do have a solution. First of all notice the changes in your partner's reaction towards you. Notice if he is keeping a distance with you are not and refusing you any personal care and attention. If yes he is cheating you. If he or she is passionate as ever then stop doubting him. If your doubt continues so you will never be happy with that person, better look your way ahead without him. If he returns then he was always yours if not he was never yours. goodluck