what would you do when you lost your lover?

Look there is a whole lot of life ahead of u .. there is a priority for everyone .. there are people who loves u .. they may be ur friends , family , bro or sis . .so u have so much .. dear !! i will pray for u so that u can get over this .. and u should not stop living ur life cause of this guy .. this wud only prove his dominance over u ..yaar .. and its ur life .. u should take contrrol of it na!! so take chrage of it ..and u wud be getting a great start ..dear trust me .. there is something better in store for u ..

Hi emma i know it must be a really tough time for u .. ican understand .. as i have been through the pain!! and by the discussion u started .. it seems tht u r very emotional as well as sensitive .. well even i am like tht .. bt believe it or not this is true tht we dnt wanna get out of this pain .. somehow we want tht the person should come back feeling guilty as such ..and we do believe we wont be able to love sm1 else ..believe me i thought like that!! somewhere at the back of the mind this thought is there ..u said u tried to foret him bt smhw u cant ..talk with friends .. some u can pour out ur feelings too. and go out with them.. try not to be alone ..cause the wud definitely make u think negative .. as for the new guy just dnt find any guy cause u have lost one... bt dont rush .. right now u r too vulnerable .. go out keep ur self busy ..tht wud distract u frm thinking.. and be positive in ur thinking .. i know its really difficult .. and i dnt knw wht happend to ur relation and may b u dnt wanna forget it ..!! i agree and trust me i really can understand wht u r going through .. so atleast make a start .. u wud do good my best wishes with u and in due time u wud get someone really worth of ur feelings!! and if u wanna discuss it more u can chat with me also my id is CUTE.SHANKY@gmail.com.. dont worry dear ..cheer up !! dear ..

Think about the negitive things about him. Im sure you can find afew. Includuing how he dumped you. Why waste your time mourning for him? Move on! You will find someone better. When one door is closed another is open. Soon you will be thankful that you did break up with him.

I know it is easy to say forget him but very hard to do. Time does help and in the meantime, the trick is to keep yourself busy with new activities. I realise it is difficult when you are feeling down but if you keep yourself as occupied as possible it will be a great help. The worst thing you can do is mope around you will only feel worse! Try going out with your friends, join a club or a class, and try spending some time getting to know yourself and what your likes and dislikes are. Eventually the day will come when you will smile again and the world will seem a much better place. Hang in there, you will get through it...I did!

make ur self busy..=)

What a pity for you!I am sorry to hear about that.I have the same situation with you some months ago.At first,I falt into the sadness and hopeless badly and at the begining of the days when I was dumped by my GF,I did not want to eat anyting and recalled every monent we spent together.I felt despair and even what to live any longer.But I soon recovered after a few days.Because I realized love was not the whole thing in my life and there were many other things for me to do.I hope it may be some useful for you,good luck!

The main issue is the more you try to forget, the more you get to remember. It might help to avoid places you have been together. Or you may want to cherish the good memories you have together and keep them parked in a corner of your heart. Perhaps taking up a new hobby instead of finding a new guy to fill the empty space might be an alternative. If you love him, wish him well and let him go. If you do not love him, why bother to think of him?

Hello emma1987, Time will heal your pain. You should try to adapt with your new life (without a boyfriend) and take a break for awhile. You don' t have to look for a replacement, just because you feel a bit lonely. When the time is right, you will find another good man that suits you. It is hard to forget someone that you love dearly but don't worry, you will forget about it slowly. Try to make yourself busy and always be with your close friends. At least, when you are not alone, you won't feel the pain too much!

You may focus on other thing to forget him. If you are ready to get in another relationship, yes, you can. Just make sure you are strong enough to take new challenges.

if you still can't forget your boyfriend, don't find a new one.. you will just be unfair for that person..always remember that God always make happy endings,if it is not happy,then it is not the end..if your love with that person does not work,it only means tha someone else loves you more..C:

Well honestly i think you should move on. Even though you can't forget about him, i think you should find someone new. And if its meant to be with him he'll eventually come back.

Wound heals in time,you dont need to force it. Forcing it will just make it worse,like finding a new guy. Just embrace the pain,and accept the fact that he can no longer be there when you need him. And just wish him love,and be thankful that once in your life you became happy. You said you have tried many manners to forget him?try the manner of acceptance,it will work and thats forsure!and if you are a catholic,just pray,thats the most powerful tool.Dont focus on what you lost,instead on what you have gained and learned from the relationship you had with him. You'll never forget him,as he, became part of your life.Just accept it that your story has ended.But look at the brighter side,every ending has a new beginning.You'll get better in time.

I do not think that you should find a new guy now because it is too soon and it seems like you are not over your ex. However, I do think that you should enjoy being single and have a girls night out and have fun. You have no commitment to nobody and you could do whatever you want. I would get a gym membership, excercise will help you feel better inside and out and if you do bump into your ex he will see what he is missing!

just forgot about the past and be in present. Don't remember him just hang on your close friend, spend your most of the time with your parents or your friends. if the guy really love you he will come back, either don't care him . just think of your future, and try to make your future more beautiful than your past.

I don't believe anybody can give advice to someone who is experience this sense of loss. Having been through the experience myself several times as a teenager, I found that there was no pain quite like it. Whilst it helped to talk to friends and family, it was time that healed my pain, not advice. My mind would think and feel the pain until it resolved it in the depths of my subconscious mind. As a therapist now, my recommendation is to talk to friends you can trust, just sharing all feelings, and allowing the sense of loss to gradually fade away. We all live to love another day. - Derek

Last year june i lost my guy to another girl who he thought was better than me and i almost lost it.I cried night and day because i really loved him.So in all my pain i turned to prayer which helped me a great deal.I stopped crying and stopped missing him as much as in the beginning.Its eleven months tomorrow and i am so much better although i still get this overwhelming feeling of lost i am strong enough to have moved past all the pain.You may never get over your love but you can control the feelings by doing things such as visiting friends,calling someone when you feel down,come here on mylot or simply talk to GOD telling him how you feel and ask him to help you feel better and he will.I am guessing you have some good friends because that can help.Usually talking about it helps a lot.good luck!!!

Remain single for some time.Ponder on the relationship you had with your ex and analyze what would have gone wrong on your side.Getting lost in love is also an experience to have.Wait for another partner to come into your life.Until then,engage yourself in your career and hobbies.Cheers!

I recently was in the same situation as you. Like what I keep on saying there is no shortcut to forgetting. In fact, memories linger longer than pain meaning you will still remember him but remembering would not be a painful process eventually. Time is the only recipe for healing. In the meantime as you let time do its work, you meet new friends, or you keep your family closer by having activities with them. enjoying the company of other people helps a lot. If you are working, create a goal and be firm/focus on that goal. This should keep your mind busy for a while. Do not avoid places you used to go with him. It may sound sadistic but there is such a thing as dis sensitization where in you expose yourself to places, objects etc that makes you uncomfortable until such time eventually you will get used to it and it will not cause you any ill feelings. But this is optional if you do not want to bump into him again then do avoid it. You can also do things - new stuff, new patterns so you begin your life anew. Goodluck

u must know do u get feeling with the new guy?if no,is ok for u,coz u oso won't hurt the guy,right?bcoz u oso know how it hurt is so hard! u still young,dun't scare for nobody want u..u can always go out to find your friends to chit chat,or shopping,gathering,and more..trust your self u will do it,all the best for u girl! :D

Same here and I feel so much pain and regret and I want to ask y it has to be me...