my bestfriend guy..wants to abort their baby

I feel that no matter how complicated matters are, the baby is in no way responsible for anything and should not be put into jeopardy of getting aborted. One must live with one's consequence, no matter how hard or not. The baby is hers, and she should keep it. Maybe you can advice her not to abort the innocent child. Deal with other problems later but for now, just concentrate on giving the innocent child the life he/she deserves into this world.

I would have one of two responses (actually knowing me I would have both responses) 1) A termination of parental rights form so that he would never have to worry about it again, in addition to that he would also have to disapear and never contact me or the child again. 2) I would start court procedings for child support. Of course he would have the option. Disapear or pay, I would prefer the disapear. That child despite the fact that it is not even born yet deserves a better father than one who would rather throw it away then grow up and get a better job. Also having had a bad father I know that not having one is better than having one who does not care. To me abortion is a limited option and this situation is not on my short list of acceptable reasons. I wish your friend well, she is going to have a tough time ahead of her but it will be worth it to keep her child.

As a mother of 4 I know how hard that scenario must be however I am on your side. I know that times are hard in a failing economy but we live in a society where single parents arent frowned upon and kids arent even pointed out as outcasts like they used to be when it was considered taboo to be an unwed mother. I hope your friend finds the courage to raise this child on her own because the guilt of abortion will remain with her for a lifetime.So hopefully she will either decide to raise the child or give the child a chance by putting it up for adoption. I understand how she feels alone in this situation but she should make sure she can live with her decision for the rest of her life reguardless of what she decides. Either way the decision will be with her forever. Blessings! BTW... you mentioned he was a christian? I find that amazing that he wouldnt look for god to provide a path that would allow him to raise the child which he created.Where was his christian values when he was conceiving the child? Makes you wonder!

I would never choose to have an abortion because I am pro-life. I wouldn't let my boyfriend push me into having an abortion. I would tell him that I am going to continue with my pregnancy with out without his support. I would do my best to make my life suitable for motherhood. I think that your best friend's boyfriend is being really selfish. Life begins at conception. A baby boy and growing and developing. He or she is an innocent one that deserves to live. It is your best friend's decision. If she gets pressure to abort from her boyfriend he is being nasty. Stress in pregnancy is terrible and your friend need time to think. Her boyfriend is upset but he must face up to the fact he is a father to be. Good luck to your best friend and her baby. You are being a supportive and understanding friend so at least she has you in her life.

If I were in the same position as your friend (the girl, right?) of course I wouldn't abort the kid. It's a gift from heaven. And besides, I have a support system (my wonderful family and wonderful friends) who I know will support me even though they'd probably think that I'm a sl*t for getting knocked off like that (fortunately, I'm not in that situation. They may not like the result of a bad decision, but they will support me even though I'd be damn scared to tell them at first). On the other hand, you're mad at your girlfriend's guy because he suggested that she abort the baby right? I think you better stay as far away from this guy as you could and never involve yourselves with him EVER again. That some f*ed up morals right there. But I think you shouldn't be mad at him for actually impregnating your friend (it takes two to tango, right?). It's as much his fault as it is hers. Of course his decision to abort it was made AFTER they both decided to *get it on* unprotected so, seriously, just hate him for being an a$$hole but not for having $ex with your friend (as implied by your statement, "I'm so ashamed of what he did and told to my bestfriend") I do hope I misinterpreted that :) You sound really nice and caring :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!

I agree with you. I even would raise up the child no matter what it takes to do so. We are talking about a human life. Stay close to your friend, because at the moment she needs support.

I agree that it's very selfish and irresponsible on his part but in all fairness on her part too. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out how to become pregant and even though a oops may happen there are ways to prevent it. So bottom line now she's pregnant and confused and the 1 person she thought would have her back is basically not ready and wants her to abort. Wether or not your against it at the end of the day it's her decision. And all you can do is be a friend. I believe it the Lord brought you too it he'll see you through it, best of luck to your friend and what ever decision she makes.

Baby are innocent and should let him grow up well.