Why do men think they have all the say in the relationship?
By kaitlyn_r1
@kaitlyn_r1 (42)
United States
May 22, 2009 5:11pm CST
Hey all. I have a question that no one seems to be able to answer. I have this boyfriend that thinks his opions matter more than mine do, or whenever he gets mad he gets to show it and I take it all in when he vents, but if I try to even get at him for something he's done wrong or even got mad at him he would not want to hear it, turn off his phone because he got mad all over again over something so simple, or whatever. Why do men think they have it all in the relationship? He might be the pants in the relationship, but I control the zipper. Why can't that always work out like it's supposed to? When men get mad... why can't they just sit down and try to tell the one they love about the situation and try to overcome whatever happened. But, some men get mad over something that's not even there. How can I overcome something like this when it ticks me off and hurts me down to the core to have him act in such a way. I love him and I don't want to leave him, so that's not going to be an option for me. Things are different when we are together it's just seeming to really get to him when we aren't and I'm busy with something such as a friend or work, he get's upset or jealous because I can't talk to him. Ugh! I need an answer.
2 responses
@justmeh (188)
• Philippines
23 May 09
That's probably because of their pride. At least that's what I can see. They don't want that girls will tell them what to do. That kind of attitude is not good in relationships. He should listen to what you opinion is. If that continues I'm afraid that someday you'll end breaking up. When he calms down try to talk him and resolve the problem.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
22 May 09
I would like you to think about your future with this guy. If his opinions matter more than yours, and they apparently do then think about 5 or 10 years in the future when you are married and have kids. You will not have a say in how they are raised, your job will be to do as he wants with them.
I know that you say that you do not want to break up with him, and that is fine, it is your life, but think about all the time you have to be away from him. You both work. I only see my husband from 5pm until bed time, all the other time we communicate by phone. That will not work for ya'll because if he is the least bit upset he will just turn the phone off.
I know that you are not going to like what I have to say and for that I am sorry, but his behavior as you are describing it is how abuse starts. If your opinion does not matter now he will really not care how you feel when he is hitting you.
I am sorry but I have seen it happen and I feel that you should really think about what you are in. Communication is the number one thing in a relationship.
