is it responsible parenting if you don't plan first before having a child?

I commend you for preparing for a child before you even get pregnant. I was not prepared when I found out I was pregnant and it would have been nice to have been. Every decent parent wants the best for their child and preparing in any way would be nothing but beneficial to the baby when you have one. Who cares what they say. You are being responsible and thinking of your (future) child.

it is absolutely irresponsible to have a baby without adequate planning, in south africa here, many of the women do not think with their heads and they end up having babies with no fathers, there are millions of single mothers in this country and i wonder where they get their babies from, the fathers are not visible and they keep on having more babies

I think responsible parenting will come in if you are raising your child to be a good citizen. It doesn't matter if you have money or not as long as you are responsible enough in teaching your child good values.

I never plan when I want to have children because I believe when the God give us a kid He will make a way to make us ready emotionally, financial, etc God is good

I think it depends on you both decission. Remember that a child need alot of cost of living. So make sure that you have stable financial and regular income. Having a baby is newlywed's happiness. Although i haven't married yet, but today my sister in law will give a birth to her second child. I think a pregnancy itself also needs cost in order to have a health future baby. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.

I think that planning is required for anything and giving birth to child should be no exception. Raising a child is more than just earning money to support him but also teach him to be a responsible, well-behaved person. But then, I want to say that having child is something earlier the better. Consider this, if you have your child at your 40s, your child would only be in his early 20s when you are going to retire soon. That could be a problem in terms of financial and emotional support.

I believe it is very important to have financial stability before bringing a child into this world. I am 26 years old and I have yet to have my first child. and I will not until I consider myself financially stable. That is the responsible thing to do. Why bring a child into the world you can't properly care for. Kids are expensive!

Well it's up to you actually. It's your own decisions on what to plan and how to plan anything, as long as you feel good and secure about. You will never know if it's the right choice until you make it through. Every person have their own thinking and experience that you should have the right to have your own. Don't think too much on what people would say. Just believe in yourself.

Your situation sounds like the one my fiance and I are currently in. Our wedding is in two months. We moved away from home together about 9 months ago and I've always had my little sister around and I've helped raise her and we don't have that. We've discussed babies names (Wyatt Joseph and Rena Maria) and have things like that picked out. However, as eager as we are to have kids, the finances are still lacking, so we're forced to wait as well. I don't think it's necessarily irresponsible parenting. As long as you provide for your child the best way you know how it's responsible parenting. My mother had me unplanned, but she worked 3 jobs to make sure I was fed, well cared for, and I was always with a family member that would love and support me, so I had a very happy childhood. I know that if my fiance and I right now accidentally got pregnant it would be ok, too, because we're both willing to take up the extra jobs to support our child. It might be considered irresponsible to have an unplanned pregnancy (that's a different argument altogether), but when you have your child doesn't necessarily have anything to do with how well you parent. Being responsible parents starts once you find out your pregnant, it has nothing to do with conception. As long as you care for the baby while it's in the womb and once it's born, then you're doing everything you can to be responsible parents, and you can only do your best. No one can ask more than that of you.