Are you go or against the prenuptial agreement?

Philippines
May 23, 2009 1:14am CST
Many people don't want to get married because of the prenuptial agreement. Most wealthy family have the prenuptial agreement. I don't understand why they have it and it really affects the relationship. For me, I only care for the person and nothing else that mattered to me. As for the prenuptial agreement, why do we have that? I thought it is the hubby who is responsible for the financial concerns for the family whereas the wife is supportive to hubby by helping out the career and not dividing the money and earn individually. I don't like competition... it is more about sharing each other. So, I am against the prenuptial agreement. How bout you?
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6 responses
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
23 May 09
Actually prenuptial agreement is encouraged from people who are filthy rich... Its a sort of protection for their heirs and his own assets... There are women who just marry rich men for their money so we can't blame them for proposing this idea... this is not really something personal. Suppose you're a second wife of this rich guy and he has legal heirs and because you're the present legal wife now, you'll get a portion of his assets and then there's a possibility that you'll have a divorce... to protect his legal heirs(legitimate son/daughter) from an illegitimate child (suppose you have one) he proposes this idea... suppose you have 10M worth of assets and you have 4 legitimate heirs and he's legally separated, this 4 legitimate children will get 50% of the 10M but they will have to divide it among themselves while an illegitimate child, normally this is just one, will get the whole 50%... he's more privileged when it comes to inheritance... There are also cases when a widow who has a child marries another man and has children, to protect her child she also proposes prenuptial agreement... I agree with this arrangement and I won't be offended by it.
• Philippines
23 May 09
Oh...that's pretty bad. I prefer to get married an ordinary man. I don't want a filthy rich. It is hard to get along with someone who is rich you know... Power, social status. I want peace and happy life and everything will flow. Money is not supposed to be the main issue. I really am against the prenuptial agreement since in our chinese culture, woman should help out in hubby's work no matter how difficulties are.
• Philippines
23 May 09
So I don't own anything from my side if ever I will marry. Men always rule.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
16 Jul 09
I don't really care about it one way or another. I used to be a bit against it, but when we think about it, nowadays it kind of makes sense. With such a big number of people getting married and divorced several times, people have to protect what they had before they married and any children from that marriage. In the past things were a bit different and it a prenuptial agreement didn't seem to make as much sense as it does now. Sure it is all about sharing and I agree with that, but many marriages are not just like that anymore.
@teison2 (5921)
• Norway
23 May 09
I agree that one should share while married. Seperate account and equal division of expenses sounds tideous and hard I think. However, I think it is wise for many people to protect whatever assets they bring into the marrigae. one never knows. if the marriage breaks down it would be bad to have lost half of what one has scraped togeteher. For me it would be devastating. I could not suport myself if that were to happen
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
24 May 09
Having been married & divorced and losing everything & having to relocate etc...then having lived with a guy and again lost everything......I have to say that I would not recommend anyone to get married or even live together without some legal document as to how things are going to be handled in the event of a break up.
@icesmile (7160)
• Romania
23 May 09
Hi, i am against prenuptial agreement, i consider that is a offence for somebody who will be in a marriage...he want protect his money from me? I don t need money, i need carring, and marriage in my opinion is not a deal, is a commitment for all life. We will use our signature to make a love agreement too? No, i really don t like, and i never agree with this "bussines:
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
24 May 09
I would have signed one prior to getting married to my husband. I even offered to but he did not want me to sign one, why did I want to sign it, well to prove I was not going to marry him for his money or his families money. I was marrying him because I loved him and the money is a nice to have but was not a consideration in getting married. Prenuptial agreements can be written in a way that they protect both parties and they are drawn up at a time in which you could not think of ever doing anything that could hurt the one you love. To me you are likely to be more protected form this agreement than if you go through a divorce. And if you are marrying for love and believe in your marriage what is the big deal. I never plan to divorce my husband. but then yet I never believed my first husband and I would get divorced.