How do you know if the guy who is courting you is sincere?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
May 23, 2009 4:46am CST
I usually ask this question to my girl friends. How can they know if the guy is serious or sincere when they are courting them? Usually the answers that I get is when they get out of there way just to see her, when he shows respect to her, not only to her but her parents too, and when they could also face their parents, when he respects also their boundaries, their opinions, their ideas and especially their time. So how about you, how would you know if their really sincere when they court you? Have a nice day to all of you!
2 responses
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
23 May 09
i think you have mentioned everything. :) what else can i add...
i'll just point out that respect is really a big factor. you could feel it in his words, in his actions and you could see it in his eyes and in his smile. honesty is another thing. no matter if he was put in a bad light, as long as you start off as being honest... that's a sign of sincerity.
patience and persistence. sometimes it takes time for women to make up their minds so having enough patience and a little bit more persistence even when the woman says no several times... it's actually a plus factor.
finding ways and means. if you want something bad enough, there is always a way. and when a guy goes out of his way to do something nice for me... wow that is really sweet. i mean i really like it when no matter how busy work is, or no matter how far we are from each other, making time to send a message, drop a quick hello, asking how i've been... that shows something.
interest with my family. as i'm from a very close-knit family, i find that guys showing enough interest with my family, meeting them, spending time with them, getting to know them better... shows how sincere he is to get to know me.
and lastly, i think paying attention to small details. you'd know if a person is sincere when he remembers little things that you like or dislike, things that make you smile or brighten your day, things that makes you comfortable and those which do not, things that you enjoy doing or talk about.
when a guy says he'd do something, i kinda expect that he would. shows sincerity if he did. normally, a guy courting a girl would put his best foot forward. i kinda like it better to get to know him on even ground, showing his natural self in his natural environment. when he suggests bringing you for a date in some of his favorite hang-outs, that's a nice way of saying "hey, this is me and this is where i usually go to be me".
hahaha i think i'm sounding like i'm talking about serious courting here. hehe i guess i got carried away.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Hi mylesnarvaez, you know what when I was thinking about this topic, I remembered when I was courting my fiancee. But it took her time to answer me. There was really a lot of efforts, and that time I was far away from her. That was hard for me cause it's like I should be there even I am miles away from her. So when she answered me I was jumping from joy. Have a nice day to you!
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
27 May 09
congratulations! the long wait and efforts did pay off. -lol-
a great day to you as well. :)
