Selecting people to be friends
By faisai
@faisai (1138)
Hong Kong
May 23, 2009 11:53am CST
Would you choose people that can be come your friends?
Some people intentionally choose to get along with people that are superior than them. By superior, it can be in terms of social status, cleverness, experiences. For instance, some may opt not to go out with people of lower social status or is involved in lower tier jobs. Their reasoning is that to have friends better than you are can help you improve yourself while getting out with people inferior to you may cause you more harm than good.
So, do you have such preferences? For instance, if you are introduced somebody of lower social status, would you intentionally not to be close to these people?
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8 responses
@twinlady (47)
• France
23 May 09
My best friends have come from far and wide, out of the blue, you might say. Those we meet by chance, who share interests, thoughts etc. stand more chance of becoming close friends, who stick by you through thick and thin. I have never sought "friendship" as a means of social climbing - friendship to me is an important facet of life, a support for when you need one, and should not be taken lightly or sought for reasons of scheming. The old saying goes "you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family" How right that it - take your friends seriously, nurture them and be there for them.
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@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
24 May 09
Thanks for your reply.
Friends are important but time is short. I mean you only have that much of time per day and thus you can keep maybe a handful of friends close enough so that they can support you. The question is, whether we only do it by heart and therefore cares nothing else but whether one can get along with them well.
I don't want to sound mean as personally, I don't have preference of people coming from other social status. I am just curious whether other people really don't take that kind of things into account.
@twinlady (47)
• France
24 May 09
We can only ever speak for ourselves, of course, but I have no doubt that there are those out there in the big wide world, who would choose "friends" for what they can get out of them - hope you are never one of those "friends" - I certainly have been, but am glad to say that I am no longer!!
Also, if you have a good friend, it doesn't mean that you have to be in touch with them all the time - our friends live in the UK, and we are in France - we see eachother maybe twice a year, if we are lucky, and talk on the phone occasionally. You see, that is what friendship is about, being there when you are needed - not on call 24/7.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
23 May 09
I choose my friends based on common interests and philosophy. If they like the things I like we will have something to talk about and can choose activities to enjoy together. It has nothing to do with finances or education or status.
@amylan (187)
• France
23 May 09
I agree. I'd love to meet and get to know people who could share something with me, such as interests, similar personalities or personal values. Maybe it's because I'm still in college and the so-called social status of my friends means nothing but only what their parents' have achieved. And being snobbish and picky over this are pointless.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
23 May 09
Check the bulletin boards on campus for groups that share your interests. Attend activities on campus such as poetry readings and art exhibits and so forth and you will find new friends.
@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
24 May 09
Thanks for your reply.
It is understandable that people would want to make friends with common interests and philosophy. (Or in other way, if someone just doesn't have anything in common with you or you have nothing to talk with them, there is no way that friendship be made.)
@Putranda (128)
• Indonesia
24 May 09
I like to have many friends from any different backgrounds & countries. I think everybody could be my friend. I really want to have friend who can support me or share every positive thing that he/she has, but I don't like to be a friend of someone who often uses dirty words in his/her daily conversation.
@singasongforme (52)
• China
23 May 09
i would like to have friend of any kind.i dont have preference, as long as we have things to share, we can be friends. no matter he or she are come from underworld or royal family.
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
24 May 09
The only things I look for in a person I want to be friends with is that the person is honest,loyal,has some interests that I have And is not a snob.I dislike show offs and dishonest people.So anyone who has the above mentioned qualities can easily become my friend.I do not care about social status or what sort of job they do.The qualities the person has is far more important to me,when I am befriending someone.
@fishkingback (430)
• China
24 May 09
I select people to be friends,but not those people who are superior than me .I like to make friends with honest people,it really doesn't matter if he is rich or poor,fat or thin ,tall or short,as long as they are honest .Real friendship can't be measured by status or something like that,i think it is terrible.
@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
24 May 09
Thanks for your reply.
Yes, it feels terrible that someone select people to be friends based on things like that and yet I have heard that some people will do exactly that. Now, they aren't doing it on the surface and thus it is not quite easily detectable but then they will not go out with people of lower status than them unless they are invited.
@Putranda (128)
• Indonesia
24 May 09
I like to have many friends from any different backgrounds & countries. I think everybody could be my friend. I really want to have friend who can support me or share every positive think that she or he has. But I don't like to be a friend of someone who often uses dirty words in daily conversation.
@pelastikbintang (325)
• Malaysia
24 May 09
what do i see in people to become my friends
1. make sure they are open-minded
2. have manners even if it just a bit
3. kind to me and loyal
4. don't really like to criticize people
a thing that is some of the criteria i look in a person b4 i make him/her my friend
