My weight problem

The lap band is probably not the right solution, so don't feel too bad that you can't do it. The lap band might help you lose weight, but it won't fix the fact that you're not living a healthy lifestyle- and even if you're thin, an unhealthy lifestyle will still hurt you. There is no easy, magic way to lose weight and be healthy. It takes work, and it takes determination. But it doesn't have to be miserable. Instead of trying to stick yourself to an exercise program that you hate, try to find an activity or two that you enjoy doing and do that a couple times a week to start with. In general, I don't really care for physical activity, but I really love to swim. When my apartment's pool is open, I try to go swimming as often as possible. If you can find an activity you enjoy, it can be a great springboard for getting healthier. Similarly, you should experiment to find healthier food options that you like. Believe me, healthy food does not have to taste bad. And don't think that you always have to deprive yourself of everything. I think the most important thing is moderation. If you find yourself eating all the time, then find something else to do to keep yourself occupied. One thing you can try that helps some people is to drink green tea or yerba mate every day. Both have been shown to help speed up the metabolism, and they also have a lot of antioxidants that are good for you. It's not a miracle cure, and green tea won't cause you to lose weight by itself. But it can help if you use it alongside a healthier diet. The bottom line is, you're the only one who can make the decision to be healthier. You can sit around and complain about it, or you can make the decision and do something. The action it takes to get healthier may not be easy, but if you do it you'll probably feel a lot better about yourself.

I am also overweight, but I have not always been so. It started when I was reaching puberty, my family realized that I was build differently than the rest of them. I have a very pronounced hourglass shape in comparison to my mom and my sisters. I also would choose curling up with a good book any day over running outside. I got called 'the fat one' all the time, but I wasn't even fat at the time. In fact, one of my sisters weighed the same when she was that age and she was just called 'athletic' because her body is proportioned differently than mine. She wasn't particulary athletic either and her lifestyle revolves around partying and using her body to get attention from men. I joined the Air Force and dropped 6 sizes. Even then, my squad referred to me as the 'fat' one again. I was depressed about this all the time, I developed eating disorders and a fitness complex. Then I found out I was pregnant. For my first trimester I was stupid and still was starving myself and taking weight loss supliments. So, I wasn't gaining any weight. The doctor told me that I had to put on pounds for the baby and fast. So, I promptly put on 50 lbs! After I had my beautiful healthy daughter I started to revert back to my old way, but it was hard having a little one and trying to count calories and work out! So, I just let it all go. I have tried to lose weight many time over the years. I joined a gym, started a habit of walking at the park, dieted, starved myself. Nothing really works on my body anymore. So, I made a pact with myself. To love myself for who I am, and enjoy my life. I went from a size 18 to a size 9 in 3 months after I made that pact with myself. I'm still very obese, and I tend to put on weight when I'm around my judgmental family (I eat when verbally attacked) but, I just work on excepting myself and trying something new every day.

I think your age has a lot to do with it - the only 'cure' is to change your life completely. Not gym, dieting etc - I mean something you have never done before. Not a lap band though. Maybe some active voluntary work, or helping out at an animal charity. Your bod is in a rut - it needs to be shocked out of it. Much of the weight gain is down to hormones and enzymes - they need a good shake up. That starts with dopamine and seratonin pathways in your noddle (brain box to the uninitiated)

I don't like to exersize either, so what I do is I turn up my cd player to whatever I'm in the mood for and dance around my house. Also, at least once a week, I go for a walk (our library is only about 10 minutes from where I live). That way I don't think of it as exersize, and I'm actually skinnier now than I was 10 years and 2 kids ago. Both of my parents are obese, they joined our local community center, and also go walking everyday. We also had a friend that had her stomach stapled (not the lap band), and the only reason she was able to get it is because she was on disability, due to her weight,(which put her on medicaid also) she was over 600 pounds, she lost over 300 pounds with it. Since you don't have insurance, I'd start with the walking, and the longer you do it the less it'll feel like exercize. You just have to find ways to make it fun so that it doesn't feel like work. I hope this helps, and good luck to you.

I do sympathise hon, this is obviously battering away at your confidence and self-esteem. I have been overweight for much of my life too; at present I weigh 230 lbs at a height of 5 ft 4. However, it turned out that I have insulin resistance, a precursor of diabetes, which means in a nutshell that my food is digested inefficiently and more of it is stored as fat. Now I have to eliminate sugar and carbs from my diet and take the anti-diabetes medication Metformin. Maybe you need to consult your doctor to see if there is some kind of metabolic disorder which is preventing you losing weight? That's what made me make up my mind to go - I put on 15 lbs this year despite eating healthily. Just a thought :-)

I understand where you are coming from. Think of it this way hun, you didn't put the weight on magically so there is no surgery or pill that will 100% take it away over night. It will take time to come off and effort. You have to really really want something in order for it to come to fruition. This is coming from experience as I've been battling being overweight my entire life. At 29 I've finally decided it's enough. It's a tough battle honey. I've joined gyms many times only to be discouraged because there are skinny females there doing it just because, looking at you like you are a disgrace when you are busting your butt trying to make a change. You honestly have two choices and excuse me for my honesty. 1. Keep at where you are and possibly gain more and suffer from a serious injury(heart attack, etc.) or 2. Finally truly and honestly with all your heart want a change. When you feel you want that change you know it's time and you will try to make ends meet. I'm wishing you all the luck.

I understand the wish for the magic pill (doesnt everyone want one for something?) Its hard to get motivated and stay motivated. I've never heard of the lapband - i guess i havent looked too much into medical procedures. I would talk to your doctor about help loosing weight there are pills that help - i had some called tricyclen i think and it basically if you ate anything fatty it blocked the fat from being absorbed. I hated them because LOL it gave me really greasy poo if i ate something bad there were times i was scared to toot cause it might come out as poop instead. It did help - and i learned what things not to eat in conjunction with that. I lost about 40pounds (sadly i recently regained abunch of those) and found even loosing 10 pounds to begin with i felt soo much more inclined to go and do things. I'm overweight - obese even but not considered morbidly according to my doctor. I hate going clothes shopping - it always makes me feel down that theres so many cute clothes for teenie people and these big ugly flowered thigns for anyone in plus sizes. I found this spring some of my pants are a tad snug from last summer (i had to lay down and suck it in to get them buttoned up!) so I've enlisted some help...one friend to go did you exercise...and then hound me til i do...another to say if you ate this bad thing you owe em 10 dollars (the 10 dollars is gonna keep me from doing the bad stuff cause i dont have the extra 10 to give!) and the if i loose 1 pound i can put 5 dollars in a fund for a trip i want to go on. But if i gain i have to take the 5 dollars out. I hope you have good luck with loosing weight - if you need to talk you can message me. I'll listen.

I have a weight problem too. I'm 18 and i weigh like 160 lbs and my belly is so huge!