She? & I?

@ibelle09 (155)
China
May 23, 2009 9:41pm CST
I have a good friend, and we have been friends since we were in senior high school. She became my friend when I helped her at the time she suddenly fell down during our military training.From then on, we were really very good friends . We helped each other, shopped together and do many tings together. Nearly ten years has passed. During these years, we did different things. I went to college while she chose to be a teacher in a primary school in our hometown. Now I also come back, and am a teacher in a senior high school. But I find somthing different happens. I find that my friends no longer is the one I like to chat with and shop with. When we shop, she always tells me about somebody I never know or the guy she has a blind date with. I am not interested in those things. Every time when I hang out with her, I feel uncomfortable. That's OK she tells me such things. I know she wants to share them with me. But what I can't stand is that she always wants me to go with her when she has a blind date. Once is OK. But more than three times really annoys me a lot. So, last time I refused her request. Then she was angry with me, saying that I am not her best freind any more. :( I am upset. I really care about our 10-year friendship, but I just don't want to go to the blind dates with her. I always feel I am the third one. Am I wrong? or She is? What should I do?
2 responses
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
24 May 09
Hi, ibelle It is possible that the two of you have grown apart. You now have different interests and priorities. However, those things should not be reasons for you to stop being friends. As I read your story, I deduced that you make an effort to maintain your friendship. I salute you for that. But as to your friend, I do not think she had taken time to listen to you and look at you, to assess you and see if you are happy with what she is asking you to do. Anyway, maybe your friend has not realized this yet. You have been apart for a long time and it may require some adjustment. You are right for being honest with her and I hope you will always be honest. Give her time, be patient and do not give up on her. Take care.
@ibelle09 (155)
• China
24 May 09
Thanks for your advice. You know, these days, I have been thinking about what is wrong with us. It's my problem or hers? Upsetting. Hoping she can understand me one day. I am still her best friend.
@fwangaa (3057)
• China
24 May 09
it is difficult for you to drop the friendship with her, when she want you to see her boyfriend , you can say you are shy to see her boyfriend. so she will not bewilder to you.
@ibelle09 (155)
• China
24 May 09
The problem is that the guy who she is going to meet is just somebody her parents arrange her to date with. She always says she need my advice whether the guy is OK for her. Too hard for me...