ideas pls about trimming a shih tzus hair in between her toes?

As a groomer, I would have to say....keep at it. Don't let her know that she can get out of the groom by growling and/or biting. If you are trying to use clippers on her, let her see and sniff them first while they are off. Then touch her with them. If she does not act scared, turn them on and let her feel the vibration without touching her with the blade. (You don't want her to jump and you accidentally cut her hair in the wrong place.) If you are using shears to trim her, do the same thing. Let her see and sniff them. Then touch her with the flat side. If the problem is not that she is scared of the cutting tool you are using but the fact that she just doesn't want her ears and feet messed with, then the only thing to do is my first suggestion. Don't stop if she growls. Don't let her scare you. They are like children in the fact that they learn very quickly how to get out of something that they don't like. Play with her feet in between clippings. The same with her ears. As far as bathtime goes, I know that it will be hard to do (especially if she has long hair and it tangles) but let her play in water that is not the tub or sink. She is still a puppy, and she will eventually come around to accepting the groom. She may not like it, but eventually she will give in. Just remember. Don't let her scare you and get her way, especially right now while she is a puppy. You don't want her to grow up thinking that she is your alpha. Let her know who is boss. And if she nips you, it will only hurt for a little while. You should see all of the scars on my arms and hands. LOL. I must say that I have never had a dog bite to hurt worse than a cat. My whole arm swelled up for days when that thing bit me. Dogs don't bother me. Especially the little ones. They can't do much harm. The big ones can. But I find that the bigger the dog, the easier they are to get along with. Maybe it's the fact that they know they are big, and don't feel that they need to protect themselves all of the time. Anyway, keep trying. It will work. I have 4 adult pit bulls who I give baths to twice a month along with nail trims and ears. I also brush their teeth once a week. They all minded at first, but I let them know that I am the pack leader and that I will not hurt them. Good Luck!! I hope I helped.