Should I be mad?
By Shawchert
@Shawchert (1094)
United States
May 24, 2009 8:22am CST
My brother has something against me...
I am in and out of the house for 3 days trying to straighten my life up
did a resume class with unemployment I think thursday, then I went to the social services to do stuff with food stamps and medicaid and any other type of assistance I can get, as well as child support for my son... then yesterday I take a nice break off, and went out with my friend all day,I come home at 9 in the morning and it smells like dead fish and rotting food in the house... the spill of tea my brother made on the table on wednesday is still there.... and I'm too tired to do much other than put my son to bed and get my rabbit into his new home....
this morning I get up, everything's still the same. I was like, I can't live like this, so I light a candle, take the trash out, start up the dishes, but don't quite do them right away, because I decided to vacuum the floor, and then my brother starts making breakfast, he was making enough for two so I thought hey... cool... so I vacuum, and he gets done with breakfast, but I only see a plate on the table, he closes a container and was like "There I have breakfast for tomorrow!" then proceeds to sit down and eat... I'm furious, I am the one slaving over freaking cleaning and junk and I made him do ONE ****ING THING!!!!*take the recycle bin out...* so I'm doing the dishes, he finishes up... and cleans up his for and puts it in the pile to be washed... his pan is still on the stove and he goes in his room
.... do I have a right to be angry?
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6 responses
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
9 Nov 09
Sounds like he is taking advantage of you. Is it just you and your brother and your child in the house? Who pays the mortgage and bills? It does not sound like your brother id doing his fair share, but I don't know you living arrangments or situation. But I would certainly be upset it was rude of hime to leave his mess and make breakfast for himself right in front of you and not ask if you wanted some. I think the two of you need to sit down and have a talk.
@lawana_f (326)
• United States
24 May 09
I know you think you should be upset and it I had to clean up after a gron=wn brother I would too. But you have left out some things. Like whos house is it and did you set down and discuss the rules you could both live with when you moved in together? These are important things and they need to be talked about. It could simply be the way you were both raised that the woman takes care of the house and he does not know it is upsetting you.
Remember he cannot read your mind so talk to him.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
24 May 09
if i was in your situation i would be getting mad too, but it is not the solution to the problem.
i suggest you talk to your brother about sharing house chores. guys cannot read minds, as one of the responder here said. and some of the guys need to be told what to do. tell him about what's bothering you. keep your cool when talking to him. you may be surprised, everything will be okay.
@enruschew (247)
• Malaysia
25 May 09
Hi Shawchert,I have the same situation as you are facing now.Well,maybe it's because of the culture that causes this...I'm a Chinese from Malaysia and mostly people here will left the job like cleaning up the house,washing the dishes,cooking to the girls and boys just doing nothing instead of playing computer games. Sometimes I felt angry too! But what to do? People here were just the same. I don't know how was the culture in your country,but I think that you should have a talk with your brother. Maybe he never realise it.Talk to him so that he can share your problem!
@whereitgo (60)
• United States
24 May 09
When I was younger I shared the same problem. Me and my brother shared a room and he would always make the mess or leave food dishes on the computer stand or dresser. My parents would come in and tell us to clean our room and I would say I don't make the messes he does. I ended up cleaning after him anyways because I don't want 1,000 cups on my computer stand. But for you I would try to talk to your brother seeing as you guys aren't kids anymore. Tell him why you are angry and ask him to help out every once in a while.
