Need to vent!
@imajerseygirl (433)
United States
May 24, 2009 12:28pm CST
Ok I am sorry, I just need to vent, I don't want to vent to my husband for he has enough stress on his shoulders, which is pretty much the same stress I have, but his is more. How long does it take to get a response after a job interview? I need a job so desperately I am going nuts. 1. Cause I was never meant to just sit at home, 2. Cause well the typical reason, we are a family of 5 and need the money 3. My husbands boss is a [insert all the fowl language possible here]. My husband is the only one in the house that works, thankfully with his pay we have been able to pay the bills, minimum but they getting paid. He does carpentry, so he is slow right now. He met another guy through his boss, and when he has no work from one job he works with the other. OK not a problem, til well, a tiff happened between boss #1 and boss #2, now my hubby is in the middle. Boss #1 is also playing with his pay, 1. he hasn't gotten paid in about 2 going on 3 weeks (this is a weekly paying job), 2. boss #2 owes boss #1 money, Boss #1 wants to take it out of my husbands pay. Also boss #1 is now offering my husbands services free! While he gets paid for it!!!! OK can you tell I am very upset about this? I don't dare to vent this to my husband because he doesn't need more stress, but I need to let it out somehow. I have gone on a few job interviews but nothing. Can't afford daycare, that is more than what we pay for rent, so I need to work at night, not a problem but my kids go to school at 7 am when all these jobs shift are over. I don't know, can't find a solution to this, anyone have any advice for me? Thanks for listening to me vent. :)
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@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
24 May 09
Wow, I understand your situation, while mine is not quite so bad my husband's boss has also started messing with his pay. Have you tried appling at the nearest convienance store for part time? They are not the best jobs but it is some money comming in and they can be flexible with the shifts.
I have no advice about his job, I hardly know what to do about my husband's. Just do not give up.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
24 May 09
I worked at the local truck stop for several years and it can be dangerous, so I understand your husbands hesitancy (my husband worked with me at the time or I am sure he would have felt the same way)
Just remember you can always vent here on mylot, you may even make payout becuase of it. Hey 10 bucks could make a big difference.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
24 May 09
believe it or not, I actually applied at the gas station with the convince store down the street from us (the closest one around) but after words my husband told me he doesn't want me working there cause of the fact they were constantly getting broken into, and the other day a girl actually got injured there. He says he would much rather go broke then god forbid. I couldn't get mad at him, I WANT and NEED to be here for my kids. So hopefully something good happens soon. I really feel like I am at the end of my string.
@NuttyMomma (901)
• United States
25 May 09
hey jersey girl i too am a jersey girl who is unemployed. have you considered watching children in your own home? you can make some decent money and you wouldn't have to worry about paying childcare for your own kids.i know you said that you weren't meant to be home but it is an option if you get desperate. as far as waiting for a response with the way things are right now you can't wait for a response, you need to follow up after an interview and call or send a note thanking them for the interview. check out care.com, they have gigs like housekeeping,childcare,tutoring,pet care. it is something to make some money at. for me, i am doing freelance writing and will probably look for something part time down the road but i am hoping to be self-employed mainly. hang in there. things will get better. you are good to recognize that your husband is stressed also. mylot is great for stress releasing! just be more aggressive in your job search but don't appear desperate either. i know that is hard but trust me, when a boss thinks you are desperate they will take advantage.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
25 May 09
OMG I cant really believe how much more you can take...is it any option for your hubby to go look for another job? I dont think your going to work at night, is going to help matters in any way except for the money...since the kids go to school at 7am, who's gonna prepare them? Isnt part-time job feasible for you...or I hear of people here earning from the net...have you looked at those options? I think your going to work night shifts will be like from the frying pan to the fire...think it over carefully...if the bills are just getting paid, cant you wait a little longer and go thru all earning options?
@AKMEDIA2 (328)
• United States
26 May 09
It's great that you can vent here. You should also try talking this over with more friends that are not really involved or don't really know your husband. This makes things clearer. There are a lot of people willing to listen in the world. Just know that.
@dmrone (746)
• United States
24 May 09
Hi! I think everyone is having a hard time finding even min. wage jobs right now. I know it is hard here. I wish i could offer some advice, but i think it is just about the same way everywhere. I can relate with your vent. I hope things get better for you and your family soon.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
24 May 09
Thanks, I understand that it the same everywhere. I mean my sis got laid off not that long ago. It is just so aggravating, I know its hard to find a job right now for everyone, but also the fact that i can only work certain hours makes it harder. I just wish that a certain boss didn't play with peoples money the way he does just cause he a greedy ***. That just makes it all the worst, greedy people make me so mad! That why I think america is where it is right now, cause of greed. Man I just need to scream right now!
@hwarren33119 (5)
• Bulgaria
24 May 09
Hi jerseygirl,
To be honest, i am having the same trouble trying to pay my way through university and looking after my younger sister.
I don't have any answers but maybe you should take up freelance online writing work, mylot pays for posting replies and blogs, so why not try it yourself?
Its worth a go and it might bring in the bacon!
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
24 May 09
Thanks, I mean I am trying everything, but my kids need to also come first. If we had two cars not a problem I would take the job til 7am my husband could take the kids to school, but we only have one car "family car". Also working online is great but it doesn't come in fast enough. (This whole situation is just making my hair turn gray faster- not even 30 yet. UGH!!!!)
