Are you open to absolute strangers????
By John4Christ
@John4Christ (1597)
India
May 25, 2009 2:33am CST
Well every day when we move out of our house we meet so many people for business, work or anything........and sometimes we come across absolute strangers who try to befriend you and just have a chat with you.....
My friend just told me yesterday that she had met a guy who was from her home town, they spoke about a lot of things and infact they were also doing the same course......so they went to have a coffee later.......this all happened in just 1 hours time......
Many a times there are people who come to your doorsteps stating that they are not feeling well and require a glass of water and ask you to allow them to have a seat in your homes.......
with so many cases of theft and robbery taking place day by day......will you be comfortable to allow absolute strangers into your lives and homes........
And do you feel it is worthwhile to make friends with strangers and can be fun......
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24 responses
@moonchild117 (1987)
• Philippines
25 May 09
I must be xenophobic -- I rarely talk to strangers. Well, I've given one a glass of water because he was thirsty and asked for one, but I've never let strangers inside my home. I don't feel comfortable doing that. I guess it's also because I'm the shy type in person and I'm not the type who'd approach someone just to strike a conversation.
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@DerekNS74 (22)
• United States
25 May 09
You should maybe look up the definition of xenophobic. It doesn't mean what you think it means.
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
25 May 09
No I am not open to strangers and I don't fell comfortable with them. There might be a little exception on this if the stranger is brought about by a close friend or acquaintance.. i'm still not comfortable letting them into my privacy though.
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@sandymay48 (2030)
• Canada
26 May 09
Hi there...most times I will talk to anyone. I am very friendly and willing to chat as long as its friendly.
However, I would not invite a stranger into my home who said they were thirsty or needed to sit a while. There are too many cases of that, that turn out bad, Its not worth taking the chance. If I saw a person visibly injured, ofcourse I would help. Chatting to people while waiting in line in a store or something, I do all the time.
@always_natalia (444)
• Indonesia
25 May 09
Sure, I love to make friends with everybody, even if they are strangers to me. I'm blessed with the ability to tell whether that person has good or bad intention towards me in less than 5 minutes.
If they have good intention, then it only takes less than 15 minutes for us to get to know each other and talking or joking as if we had been friends for years :)
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
25 May 09
hey thats good to know that you are comfortable with strangers.......so i hope we too have scope of becoming friends.......lolzz
Have a nice day dear !!!! good
Have a nice day dear !!!! good
@fishkingback (430)
• China
26 May 09
Well, that depends.
If i think that they are friendly and really need help,then,despite they are strangers, i will let them in.
It's ok for me to talk to strangers and make friends with them,and i would be very glad to do so.we all need friends.
@flaredust (728)
• Indonesia
25 May 09
That not very wise to let stranger go into your house. Many beggar or thief start their action by using other people kindness as a weakness, especially for women. So if just talking in front of the house or outside area, it is can be understood, but inside of house, never. For me, I never have any interest on stranger, may be just a little chit chat, but I never go deeper than that, I don't wanna know about who they are, or talking about what they working. I prefer take caution first for a stranger, when I really think it's safe I then forward to more deeper conversation.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
25 May 09
I don't know about the stranger on my doorstep thing - I would definitely give them a cup of water but I don't think I'd have them in my apartment building. I might just walk over to the coffee shop and buy them a drink.
I've met people in restaurants, etc, and struck up conversation with them. One girl I even invited to join a group of us who were going to a party. but she was from out of town, so I never saw her past that week.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
25 May 09
before, someone told me not to be too open to strangers because maybe they noticed i'm that trusting or friendly.
i let someone drove our car before going out of town. but of course with 2 of my friends. i just knew him then, say a couple of days. my sister wanted to be picked up from out of town so we kind of hit the road with that person. he's the one who told me to keep my distance a little bit.
@bunnyhoover (406)
• United States
25 May 09
I feel like you can never know a strangers impact on your life. Letting someone that shows an interest in you or someone you have an interest in pass by could be the biggest mistake ever. You never know if that person could be the most influential person on who you are or they could be the greatest love you will ever meet.
What happens if the stranger that moved on was meant to say one thing to you that could have great importance later in life.
These questions and many like them make me try to take every experience as it comes. Sometimes I'll meet a couple of strangers out traveling the country and will just take them home right way for food and a shower and a place to sleep for the night. These are almost always wonderful and unforgettable experiences.
This is a great discussion John, a great discussion.
@onlinerep01 (490)
• United States
25 May 09
Hello,
I don't think anything is wrong with befriending some one you just met, some people do have the ability to know what some one is up to or not. I have met many people in my days, and I will have to say that most of them started off my being complete strangers and the relationship had hit off pretty well. I happen to work with the public, so meeting strangers is somthing that I do on the regular bases.
Happy My Lotting!
@sally04160217 (54)
• China
26 May 09
I am not that kind of people to make friends with absolute strangers. I am always nice to people, even strangers but that doesn't mean I would treat them as friends. I only makes friends with those who I am familar with already. If you want to respect others, you should first know how to protect yourself.
@vpapstein (35)
• United States
25 May 09
To be open in the sence of conversation is normal. To allow people you don't know in your personal space is asking for trouble.
@DerekNS74 (22)
• United States
25 May 09
I don't initiate conversation with strangers very often, but I an friendly when people approach me. It amazes me, how many scared little victims we have here. On the whole "let them into your house" topic: It's your house. If your house doesn't give you a distinct advantage, you are a damn fool. The only thing a would be thief gains by getting you inside is isolation. You, on the other hand, know where that letter opener is, or that there is a baseball bat behind the door. These little things make a huge difference.
@rasokan87 (43)
• United States
25 May 09
I think that boundaries must be set. Inviting a stranger into your house for water is a little personal especially in the world we live in ( with crazy peeps and all) but being open to meeting new people is in fact a good thing. You have to step outside of the box sometimes and meet new people or you'll miss out on some of the greatest people. One thing i do suggest is getting to know someone before you invite them to your house and if you are going out with a stranger make sure it's in a public place with plenty of people to hear you scream. After all we do live in a world burdened by pyschos of every shape and sort! hope this helps!
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
25 May 09
I am more apt to say come on in, but that's only because we live in a rural area. Crimes are rare and when they do happen we hear about it. Although I guess I would be more alarmed if it wasn't a neighbor and they asked for water because we aren't the first house down our little road. If I was home alone and had an odd feeling about the person I think I'd probably tell them they can drink some water out of our hose and sit on our porch, but I'd let my fiance know, or call his parents etc.
@jellymonty (2352)
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25 May 09
It actually depends on what mood I'm in to be honest.. I'm not always open to strangers. I used to be but now I take precautions.. It also depends on the person.. If they give out a good vibe then yeah I will be open.. but they are others that I do ignore if they come up to me..xxx
@sunflower121 (238)
• China
25 May 09
Hi,my dear friend, I think my answer to your question is no. Sometimes I may have a chat with strangers, but I think it is not my style to be open to absolute atrangers. I just open to my friends who I can trust. Thank you! Have a nice day!
@tundeemma (894)
• South Africa
25 May 09
it depends on the character of the stranger, some strangers often carry over their behaviour and make people uncomfortable, but if a stranger appears to be cool headed and ready to assist, then he or she might be a good stranger that one cannot chase away, thoughy some do pretend but their real behaviours manifest after sometime
@pelastikbintang (325)
• Malaysia
25 May 09
I don't really that open to strangers becoz i'm a shy person and i don;t really know how to starts a conversation with strangers.
But if that person is nice and we had something in common, i can be friends with him/her easily (^__^)
@mishikawa (57)
• Australia
25 May 09
ofcourse a stranger is just a friend you dont know the name off as soon as you know their name then that persons not a stranger
