Getting married with a divorced man?
@sally04160217 (54)
China
May 25, 2009 6:44am CST
Recently my best friend had a talk with me. She was thinking of getting married with a man who got divorced 5 years ago and has his 9-year-old boy now. Compared to him, my friend is young ( 6 years younger), beautiful and well-educated and of course not married yet. She has been with him for almost three years and generally speaking she and her boyfriend have a good relationship. But she knows if she talks to her parents, she will absolutely not get their permission and support which tortures her all the time.
How should she persuade her parents to get their permission? Thanks for sharing your ideas.
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@turones (206)
• Philippines
25 May 09
if i'm your friend's mom, i would never give her my permission because i know that she deserves someone better. the man was divorced because he obviously had some problems with his relationship with his former wife and god knows what those problems were. it is just normal for parents to be over protective especially when it comes to their daughter. it will not be easy but if she really intends to follow her heart and not the advice of her parents, she must talk to them seriously and help them understand that she really loves this man and she wants to spend the rest of her life with him. she could tell them that she has accepted this man for who he is and that includes his past.
@sally04160217 (54)
• China
26 May 09
She does deserve someone better. She knows that and everyone who knows her also thinks this way. But she told me she really loves what he is now, not her past.
As for me, I definitely think your suggestions are really constructive. " She has accepted this man for who he is and that includes his past". That's it!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
25 May 09
Definitely,the parents will oppose this marriage.She shall try to convince them at any cost.For moral support from parents is essential.At the same time,if she love that man sincerely,she can move out,if she is a major.But it will be purely out of her risk.She should not blame any body after.Ask her to think twice.Let she know,why that boyfriend got divorce?She should take time to look for all the pros and corns before making any decision.Cheers!
@sally04160217 (54)
• China
26 May 09
In fact she is living together with her boyfriend now as her parents live far from her city. The reason why the man got divorced was that his ex-wife met another man and their marriage couldn't continue that way.
