Did you express your love to your child?

@joanzz (174)
Philippines
May 26, 2009 12:37am CST
Hello to all my lotters!.. Too many children grow up without the assurance of being loved. It should always be remembered that a child's most vital need is the certainty of being cherished, valued, and loved. Some parents posses this love, but fail to express it. How about you?... did you express your love to your child?
7 responses
@med889 (5941)
26 May 09
I have had a wonderful childhood, I was always close to my parents and I know what it means for a child so when I will turn mother one day I am sure and I will try my best to be a perfect mom as I believe in the motherhood, I will be a lawyer by then but I am not afraid to be very busy for my children , I knwo I can cope with both children and work as I am confident of my capabilities. A child should always be loved. I will even prefer to look after him rather than keep him with a babysitter.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Yeah! I got your point.. As a mother, you must do your best to be a perfect mom into your child because they are special. We must have to spend our time with our child but, In today's world, the workplace competes with the child for the time and attention of both father and mother. For this lack of time, many child is lost for eternity. So, Your kids are so lucky because they have you and you always be there for them. You are showing your love for them and hope you express them too. Anyway, thank you for your response....
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Hi med889.... well, I would like to say thank you for your wonderful response and I appreciated it. Anyway, it is a child's duty to obey, it is the parents responsibility to create the climate for obedience.
@med889 (5941)
27 May 09
Hello there! Thank you for this ineresting discussion which has given me the opportunity to say what I always believe I will be as a mother and what I will do if I have children. I will surely keep him with me and shower all my love to him as kids grow too fast and we don't even realise that we can no more take him in your arms as he can walk and run by himself, so I don't wanna miss a single opportunity to hold him close to me.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
26 May 09
Oh goodness I think I would be accused of expressing it to much. I kiss them all the time hug them snuggle with them and tell them over and over that I love them more than words can say.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
As a parent, we must have a time to our child and we must show and express our love to them.And you did your responsibility as a parent to your child and how lucky they are that they have a parent like you. Anything of value takes time, and building a positive relationship with one's child requires quality time--time to talk with her, time to listen to him, time to sing to her, time to read to him, time to pray with her, time to play with him. The parent should be the child's best friend. To be that friend, we must "be friendly. The quantity and quality of time spent with the child should say "You're special." Anyway.. Thank you for your time to post here.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
27 May 09
You are so very right, I do not ever want my children to wonder if I love them, I love them more than they could ever imagine. It is very important to me and my husband that they always feel special and loved. I have a hard time with giving them personal time, as well they are all the same age, but it is something we work on. This summer my husband is going to take each of them one on one to the zoo, that will be a great and special time for them. I am taking my boys to see Thomas the Train live, as Kalie would hate it and then when the princess come I will be taking her to that, just me, daddy and her. Yes we will get a baby sitter for her or she will stay with one of her girlfriends. and like wise the boys will do the same. I think it is important when you have multiples or more than one child that they have one on one time with mommy and daddy.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
It is nice to a family that have time to bonding together with their kids. And it is one way to show our love and love relationship to your child. Anyway, Some children obey through fear. So when the parent is out of sight, the conformity disappears. Others obey because of love. To these children, the presence or absence of the parent ceases to be a significant factor. To put in differently, a child can obey the rules without a having relationship with the parents. On the other hand, if there is a love relationship, the child will eventually respect the rules.
@jersey86 (1348)
• Philippines
27 May 09
i haven't a child but to express more about it.. i should love a if ever i do have child..
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
28 May 09
hello jersey!.... Of course.... you must love your child if ever you have it someday. Because, no parent doesn't love their child. And many parent show their love to their child but fail to express it. So, when you have a child,hope you must say these precious words,"I love you" to your children over and over again. Not only that, you must have a time for them also. Happy mylotting!...
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
27 May 09
i used to explain, after a few minutes, to my child after scolding why i scolded him in the first place and i tell him i love him. it is quite touching because my child is a toddler and you can feel emotions welling up in him when i tell him that even though mommy scolded him i still love him. so, i can really see the dilemma of people never having felt loved as a child. also, i make sure i give him stolen kisses and hugs every now and then.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Scolding our child is a part of our love. Because we want to guide them in a right way. and they needs descipline. But, you must not called them in negative names like, "You dummy!" "You empty head!", You're good for nothing!" If a parent keep saying such things, the child will soon believe it. It will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead,we should emphasize the child's strengths. We should express our appreciation. And it is like what you are doing to your child that you explained why you scolded him and you express your love to your child and you're right to do that. You're the great!
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• China
27 May 09
I said that to daughter.And i asked my husband do that too.In China ,you know it's not easy for man to express their love,so i always ask him to do it.But my father does it pretty good.I think he can do it to my daughter because she is his granddaughter,though he didn't say that to me.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
So,good for you that you did as a mother to express your love to your daughter. You must show and express your love to your daughter and hope your husband too. I know that he loves the child and I do believe that he can do to express his love to your child. It is better if both of you are expressing your love into your child. Because, it is one of the most important things to a parent can do to make a child feel special is to demonstrate and express love.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
26 May 09
I'm not expressive to my kids that I loved them. I show more actions because I know it speaks louder than words. They can feel it, observe it, and know it. Rather than saying I love you. I care of them to my very best and give what they ask for. I discipline them rightfully so that they will grow good fellowmen.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
27 May 09
Yeah!.... I understand you that you really love your kids. And I do believe that they can feel how much you love them because it is better to show than to express our feelings. But, much better if we do both of it to our child. Once, you show your love and you also expressing your love too.. These precious words "I love you" should be said to our children over and over again. Anyway.,. thank you for posting here.. keep posting!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
26 May 09
Usually people in my country are less expressive and they don't express there love to kids in words eventhough they love the kids so much. I think it is important to express to the kids, to everybody you love. Love is something to express and not something to keep in mind or keep secret.
@joanzz (174)
• Philippines
26 May 09
Yeah!.. you're right daliaj... One of the most important things a parent can do to make a child feel special is to demonstrate and express love. These precious words, "I love you," should be said to our children over and over again.