What Do u Prefer? Arrange Marriage or Love marriage?
By darshan36
@darshan36 (497)
India
May 26, 2009 3:05am CST
People always start a topic about love and marriage. But some people fall in love before marriage itself. So what I want to know is that if you fall in love, then what will you do? I know that love is really really really beautiful as well as blind also. So tell me what will you prefer?
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5 responses
@Jevendiran (778)
• India
26 May 09
I prefer love marriage. It's so useful in removing religious differences in society. It is so helpful in promoting peace, unity and all such good qualities. And... I... I... I also have a...
@darshan36 (497)
• India
26 May 09
u have left an incomplete sentence. R u trying to say that u have a girlfriend? If yes then its gr8. Best of luck. My status is looking for one.....
@dlsasmartypant (48)
• United States
26 May 09
I would always choose Love and the decision to marry whomever one desires over arrange marriage. Nobody can tell someone or has the right to make someone marry a person. The decision to get married is an important one and should only be made by two people who are in love and agree to get married. While I understand that arrange marriage is a big part in certain cultures I do not agree with it. When a parent picks their child's spouse, they strip their child of the freedom to choose and make their their own risk in life.
Some would argue that our method is not working for majority of marriages in the United States end in divorce. While it is true that many married Americans get divorced it does not justify the fact that they should not have the freedom to choose whom they want to spend the rest of their life with. Introducing arrange marriages in America probably won't fix the divorce rate but instead it could make it worst. In conclusion, love and the freedom to whomever should always prevail.
-John
@darshan36 (497)
• India
26 May 09
yes even I agree to you. But here in india, parents insist on arranged marriage. They say that it depends on your opinion only, not on them. If you like the girl, then only you marry her. But nowadays, most of the youngsters here prefer love marriage only.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
26 May 09
well I simply could not imagine doing some of the things that is expected of a person to do with someone I did not love, there is nothing like real love and expressing that love, it just would not be the same, I just could not do any of it.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
26 May 09
For me, i would prefer love marriage. It is good enough to feel and marry someone you really love. Because i believe that in Love everything is bearable. And in the name of marriage, there's a lot of things that need to bear just to make it last forever.
@darshan36 (497)
• India
26 May 09
yes u r right. But you can not runaway from the term marriage,coz even if you love a beautiful girl and tend to carry your relationship further, it is obvious that you will marry. But as concerned for me, even I prefer love marriage. Its a different feeling that I see when couples are found in shopping malls, and other hang out places. Personally, I never felt in love, but once I liked a girl, but she never liked me. Possibly, it was my wronf attitute that I carried. So at that time, I got a taste of love! And how you feel when you fall in love! Its really different. I hope I will find my mate and my marriage will also be a love one! But one more interesting thing, you can even fool your parents in this case if you like a girl tooooo much. How? For example, if you love a girl from the past 2-3 years and then tend to marry each other. You can setup a play as if you dont know that girl, visit their house with parents, and you can tell that you liked that girl! Finished! In this way, you have acheived your love without any problems to your parents. And even parents are happy they you have agreed for arranged marriage. Here in India whats the most bad thing is that people marry in religion basis. Means cast. When you go for arranged marriage, you will anyhow need to marry your own cast girl, even if she is poor. So I hate arrange marriage. And one more defect in arrange marriage. You dont the girl very well and her habits. In love marriage you will know your partner very well, about her attitude, habits, gesture, softness etc.
