Do you tell others how to parent their children? Do you throw in your 2 cents??
By Jenniferp
@Jenniferp (210)
United States
May 26, 2009 9:18am CST
I was taught as a child to keep my mouth shut when someone is parenting their child. Even if the child was being told how high to jump, lol - you get the picture. It was inappropriate for a child, adult or anyone to say anything according to my mom, perhaps, unless the child was in danger...this would be rare and a different situation.
My niece is 17 and preggers, she is in 11th grade and has quite the attitude. I am 31 with 2 children, may I add, my kids are pretty well behaved. We were at a cook out last week and we were all sitting there eating. My 2 year old kept getting up and walking inside. There are no highchairs for strapping him in, so he was wandering around. I didn't really care because it was a party and everyone was moving around. I went to check on him a few times because he was going inside while I was eating outside. The right thing to do is check on my child, so I went in to see if he was bothering someone. I came back out and my niece in front of a porch full of people said "YOU don't have to keep going inside, SOMEONE is in there to watch him"!, she said it really hateful, I replied, "If I don't watch him, someone else will have to"!...Grrr, where does she get off giving me advice!
Do you have to deal with this from people? It is a pet peeve of mine I guess, if my kids aren't bothering you, zip it ;) Do you give advice?
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@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
26 May 09
I only give my two cents to the people on mylot that post discussions regarding parenting. I am very opinionated about the subject and so this is a great place for me to share my ideas on the topic. The only time in the real world that I give advice is when I am point blank asked. I do however find myself getting on to other people's children if they are doing something dangerous or just plain anoying and their parents are not paying attention. I do have a group of friends with kids and we agree on parenting and so they do not mind the extra set of eyes. I have not ever gotton onto a complete strangers child but if the child was doing something that would hurt them I would not hessitate.
About your neice, I seriously doubt she has ever given any thought to how to raise a child. Most people do not until it is to late and they are already having to do it. I think that your response was correct in that it showed that you cannot depend on others to watch your child if you are the parent and around then it is your responsibility. It could drive her crazy but you could slip these pearls of wisdom into conversation when she is around because it maight help her figure out her game plan before she has to implement it.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
26 May 09
That was rather rude of her. Perhaps to many prego hormones? I am the same though if my son is not in eye sight I constantly want to be aware of what he is doing. Like when I am with my fiance sometimes his mother will watch our son while my fiance and I go watch a movie in his room. Its nice to have some time to ourselves but if its along movie I will get up half way and say pause it and we can finish it later just because my son is top priority. I try not to get involved with other parents choices as well. It hurt me one year when a mother tried to tell me what to do and her son was just a little older then mine and she was just a little older then me. I ignored her of course. The only person I try to give parental advice is my sister who is a first time mother and is eighteen. She always acts like she doesn't know what to do. Her son got diarrhea a couple of weeks ago. She told me and my mother that all she was giving him was formula. WHAT? I told her that he should only be drinking pedialyte or clear fluids to get the bug out of his system sort of speak. I always only gave my son pedialyte when he got diarrhea and it would be gone in a day.
Sorry such a long reply.
