Being an Only Child, and then some...
By marcyyyy
@marcyyyy (517)
United States
May 26, 2009 1:44pm CST
I wonder how many of you are an only child, and what you feel about that? I'm an only child, and only daughter. My dad was 50 and my mom 38 when I was born. So I felt like I had to take care of elderly parents at an early age, however their health was pretty good up into old age. They are both deceased now, but there are times I wish I had brothers or sisters to share my grief with. My mom had identical twin boys 10 years before me, but they were stillborn. I guess it just wasn't meant to be. Right now, I have no aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, grandparents or parents! I have two cousins that I've lost touch with, but would really like to find them and get back connected. They also have children, and their children probably have children by now, and I would have 3rd cousins I've never even met! And if you're from a large family...let me know how that is too??? Thanks and happy mylotting!!
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13 responses
@rrdj71 (696)
• United States
26 May 09
That is the same age my parents were when they had me. My mother had a son (my half brother) from a previous marriage however I was sort of an only child because my brother is almost 15 years older so by the time I wanted someone to play with, my brother was already in college!!
@angelodamroot (73)
• United States
26 May 09
i come from a very extended family my mothers been in three mirages i am from her 1st i have 2 sisters from her 2nd and a step brother from her3rd but i also have a hole family from my father and both step fathers but i have 1 son and my husband and i decided we would keep him an only child so we could give him things we couldn't have because of larger family's i do think he is some times lonely but we are young (i am 22 and his father 24) and keep him fairly busy and i am staying home with him till hes in 2nd grade
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@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
27 May 09
what a complicated life you have there, no more parents, an you are the only daughter. i don't know how it feels living in that kind of life, it seems so miserable for me. but i do admire you, i a way that you were able to stand by your self now. hope that you were not been spoiled by your parents in any manner when they were raising you.
i have a brother and a sister, i am the second among the three siblings and it feels great to have siblings, though we are not that very close like before because of our own busy life now, still we see each other and laugh together.
but you know what i had dreamed that i want to become the only son, for i want to experience all the love without any one else who shares with me.
@marcyyyy (517)
• United States
27 May 09
Thank you for your answer...I guess it gets a little complicated for me because there were so many things and decisions to make, on my own. I don't think I was spoiled...I didn't just get everything I wanted, just cos I'm the only one! I was content with what I had. But enjoy your brother and sister and have a great life!! LOL
@priyankajudiya (294)
• India
27 May 09
i am a indian
you and my thinkness is same
but i have many uncle,antus and many more
i have one older brother and one BIG sister
we can share feeling if you want
we can chat on yahoo parimal_ajudiya
i happy to meet you on yahoooooooooooooooo
nice too meet you on mylot
have a nice day with parents
never worry about your parents b coz
God Care For All In This World
i will share my personal feeling with you on yahoo if you want
@amylan (187)
• France
26 May 09
I'm the only child in family and fortunately, if I should say, my parents had me in their twenties so it seems taking care of elders with deterorating conditions is a bit distant from me. But I guess I'm quite okay with being in the only child, as, being the very focus of parents' love and attentions. so of course one day I'll shoulder the responsibility to give them the best i could give, just like what they've done for me. It's natural. Besides, it's really difficult for me to imagine that there's somebody else to share all that i get from my parents.....ye i know that sounds weird, but it's true.
@marcyyyy (517)
• United States
27 May 09
No, what you said about being difficult to imagine someone else sharing what you get from your parents isn't wierd, I would sometimes wonder about that myself. Sometimes there is sibling rivalry and sometimes parents do admit that they love one child more than another. Yes, I guess it is hard to imagine it any other way when we're used to it the way it is. Good Day to you!
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@amylan (187)
• France
27 May 09
True, that's what happened to my mother. Her parents gave all their love to her only younger brother, which made her and other two sisters totally invisible in that family. Even till today the situation remains so and my mother has been feeling really hurt for her whole life. It's totally unfair that parents choose one child over the others.
@kelpie (190)
• United States
27 May 09
I am an only child and from a very large family. I haven't seen a majority of my dad's side.
I feel the loss of things people learn having multiple siblings like sharing and keeping my OCD down. I don't think I'd have OCD if I had multiple siblings.
It really sucks to see someone such as yourself without any family. I have moved away from mine, but have stayed in touch, because I value the importance of my family. I realize that in the time of need, they ARE there for me. And I wish for you to experience that too, and it saddens me to see that someone else can not experience that.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 May 09
I am an only child, in fact I was a miracle child in that the doctors told mum that she couldn't get pregnant! Well she surprised them all, she was very lucky to have me but she couldn't have any more, I was always sad that I couldn't have a brother or sister but it wasn't meant to be. People used to say because I was an only child I was spoilt but that wasn't true. I guess you don't miss what you never had and it has made me more independent and that I enjoy my own company because as a child I had to with no brothers or sisters to play with.
@marcyyyy (517)
• United States
27 May 09
Hello fellow only child!!! Your mom was lucky to have you. People used to say I was spoilt too, but I don't think so, I didn't get everything I wanted...I was satisfied with what I had. And, also, I was very used to being alone, and some people get bothered by that. Take Care!!
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
26 May 09
i am an only child but my parents were pretty young when they had me (very early 20's) but you are right, it is hard being an only child. my dad passed away in early february and i have had to take care of my mom. she is in fairly good health (in her early 70's) but who knows what the future holds?
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
27 May 09
hello marcyyyy! i come from a big family of 5; i have 2 brothers and 2 sisters..but my hubby can relate to your situation for he is an only child. his parents are both deceased now but long before, he took care of them because they were both very sickly. when we got married, we both shared the same obligation since he had no one to assist him with it. from him i learned that it's so awful to be an only child! right now, we're on our way to building our big family with God's blessings on the coming of our 5th child (this August)...I wish you all the best in finding your relatives and don't forget to find happiness in friends.
@maikarumike (457)
• Malaysia
27 May 09
I am not from a large family and i am the second son among 3 sons.My parents are over 50 now and i am just 19 and i think that i have to be responsible to take care of them when i finished my studies.Upon graduation i must find as much money as i can so that i can afford to spend for myself and take care of my family and plan for my future...it is a tough job indeed but life was never a cup of tea...
@galileo2008 (1168)
• Philippines
27 May 09
I have 4 siblings, so that makes 5 of us in the family. I may not have any experience of being an only child but I have a friend who has the same situation like yours. She said that her aunt has to take care of her because her parents are too old already and they have to rest once in a while. She said it;s okay for her also because her aunt treats her as a daughter, so she's okay with the arrangment.
@inkstainedheart (455)
• United States
26 May 09
I am the oldest of three girls--we're all seven years apart. My mom and dad have two siblings each, and my maternal grandfather has two siblings. It's my maternal grandmother that breaks the mold. She had ten siblings, and two cousins that lived with her family!
It is really hard to keep track of how many there are--to this day, I can't remember how many are still alive (they are all at least seventy), who is married, and where they all live. I have only met a few of my second cousins, and I've been told I have third cousins living in England, but I have no idea how we are related.
I would love to start a geaneology book and chart down my mother's family tree. It would really be interesting to meet all of my distant relatives, write down what they know about the family, and just get to know everyone!
