Do your parents ever treat you sibling better than you?
By bunnyhoover
@bunnyhoover (406)
United States
May 26, 2009 2:27pm CST
For instance if one child was a little more successful and had a kid, didn't really ask for anything but struggles to barely make ends meet. Then the other child has way to much to handle with multiple kids and can't hold a job drinks too much and loses license and can't care for themselves at all.
But the parents keep buying the drunk bum things like a car or even a house while refusing to help the other more independent child with a few hundred dollars for a school payment or for a new pair of glasses. I always thought that good deeds were the ones that reap the benefits.
wacky
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4 responses
@TenishaToday (20)
• United States
26 May 09
I recently had this discussion with my parents last month. My mom openly admitted that she is tends to favor my little brother. According to her, since I am more self efficient and independent I do not need her to coddle me or support me to the same extent as my brother. She really believes that being tougher on me then she is on my brother is the right parenting approach. At first I was pissed off, but then I came to the conclusion that if she really believes in this warped view of how a parent should treat siblings then so be it, after all she has been actively engaged in this behavior for 21 years and I doubt she is going to change anytime soon. Besides I am and always will be a daddy's girl.
@bunnyhoover (406)
• United States
26 May 09
I think we must feel the same exact way here. My mom won't admit it openly though. She always just acts really embarrassed when I call her out on it. Warped view indeed. I don't plan to let this happen to me with my son if I ever have another child. I'm a socialist anyway so it's even split for everyone in my house. Thanks for the great response.
@littlebeansprout (187)
• United States
26 May 09
I'm the baby of the family and the ONLY girl. So yeah, I'm a little spoiled. But as an adult my two older brothers got a little more help than I did. They had kids too. My mom figured since they had families they needed the help more than I because I was single. It didn't bother me too much though. She tried to help all three of us equally.
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@bunnyhoover (406)
• United States
26 May 09
It never bothered me much until now. The whole buying him a house thing was too much. I was always resourceful enough to provide for myself. I mean heck, I'm taking care of my son and I'm struggling to keep it all together too. I just can't see how he can be rewarded this way for not having a job for the past 2 years. he's had a few but none lasted more than a month or so. arrggh!
@kiss_me2070 (277)
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26 May 09
my mum has always seen my brother as the golden boy and has always treated him differently to me and my sister, even though he used to beat us up wehn he was younger. She lent him over £3,000 and when I even ask to borrow £3.00 I get shouted at by her.
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@youngloc (36)
• United States
28 May 09
when im home im the evil step son from the depths of hell im treated. Im the oldest of my step bro and sis. I was always treated different i got grounded for simple things and was always in some kind of trouble. i was looking for attention but instead got labled trouble.All eyes were on me i was walking thin line so i started getting into trouble on purpose and being disobedient to my parents. know today im still treated the same and their treated like angels and do worse than what i did when i was thier age its all good though because they got a lot to learn in life and life is a B***ch with permenant pms. i done been down the hard way and thier headed the same but whose to blame? All eyes on me like Tu Pac right
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