When you got married did you take your husbands name?

I changed my name after getting married. I can understand wanting to keep your maiden name if you already have made a name for yourself in your career. I dont understand hyphenating though! I think that is really stupid. For me, it was important to take my husband's name because we were joining our lives and becoming a family. Part of that process is being united in name. Before our wedding, I had begun to make a list of everything that I needed to change my name on. That way once I had the marriage license I could begin the phone calls. It was actually relatively simple for me. Some places didnt even need the marriage license. Other places I could just fax a copy. The only thing I waited on was my passport. We had already booked travel in my maiden name. So I had to wait to change that. But it was easy too! Good luck getting all of the rest of your stuff changed!

After going through changing my name when I got married and all the hassle of trying to change it back after the divorce, and knowing the difficulties of people who call you by the wrong name and accounts that don't get updated, I swore I would never do it again. However, when I got married again, we both decided to keep our own names, mainly because we both write and were published under those names. Sometimes it's difficult because people don't know which is your name and call you the wrong one, but it's not really that important. The name thing is mostly important I think if there are children. I think it's nice for children when everyone in the family has the same last name, but it's certainly not enough to scar them for life.

Mine is a rather interesting story. I kept my maiden name when I got married, but I did go through the whole name change process. My mother and I now share the same maiden name. I was born with my Dad's surname, but I wanted a name that reflected my Danish heritage, so I legally changed to my mother's maiden name, hence I had to go through the whole process. However, when I married my husband, I kept my mother's maiden name. He loved that I kept my maiden name, because he felt the same about the misogynistic tradition as I did. I am Ms. MyFirst MyLast, and he's Mr. HisFirst HisLast. We are the MyLast & HisLast family on everything. He wanted to put my name first on our stationery, since men have been heads for way too long, and he felt women were shafted because of the glass ceiling that men created. We are not having children, but were we to have children (we discussed it even if only on a hypothetical level) they would have MY NAME since a) he has children from previous marries with his name, and b) why do all kids need to have the man's name anyway, when the woman carried them, and gave birth to them?

I took my husband's name though I sometimes hyphenate the two surnames for business purposes since my surname is chinese. I don't know, for some reason, when people here in our place know that a person is chinese, it creates some sort of immediate credibility in the business sector. My husband doesn't mind at all, he understands that a name is very important in the chinese community. All my other legal documents are under my married name. I wasn't able to change all my accounts and cards to my married name immediately after marriage, I slowly worked on it until I got all of them changed. Sometimes I still get credit cards under my maiden name so I have to have then changed to my married name.

I took my husband's last name. I don't necessarily like the ideology behind that practice- that the woman assumes her husband's identity or becomes his property or whatever. But I decided to do it for a few reasons. First, I have always hated my last name. I got made fun of in school, and nobody could ever pronounce it right. My husband's (and my) last name is nice and generic and nobody ever makes fun of it or gets it wrong. Second, I figured that in the long run it might be easier if we both had the same last name. Nobody will wonder whether we're married or not, and we won't have any trouble with putting different last names on bank accounts or anything like that. Third, I just liked the idea of the two of us identifying as a family unit. We had originally thought about coming up with our own last name and both changing to it, so that we would avoid the implication that I was marrying into his family (which neither of us is particularly fond of). But then we found out that it's a lot more costly and time consuming for a guy to change his name than it is for a woman to take her husband's name.

I took his name, mostly because I hated my own and welcomed the change. I was in a great hurry to make sure all my paperwork and things were changed right over. We got married on May 7th, and May 12 is my birthday. Well that year I spent my birthday downtown getting my name changed on my license and social security cards. If we ever divorce, I plan to keep his name. I don't want my old one back. If I remarry, it will depend on the name on whether or not I take it or hyphonate it.

After I got married I use my husbands last name. In our country it is unusual to use your singles last name when you are already married. Yes, it is tiring to change everything, from your company's information, to your credit cards, your id will be change, and I even change some of my account's name.

When I got married I did take my husband's last name.

Hi there jesssp, I did chose my husbands name. And the main reason was my last name was used for gang up on me in school. My last name was Swan, but They really did call me bumpswan and were really nasty with me. So I was happy with changing my last name to my husbands last name. Now, we are divorced and I still use it. Have no thinking of taking my last name back...

I took my husband's last name with my first and second marriage. Actually, when I got married the second time, I would have preferred to keep my first husband's last name. It flowed with my first name very nicely, and I had it for quite a long time. After I got married the second time, I changed most of my paperwork, there were a few I forgot, and they are still in my first married name. It really does not matter, since people are legally identified by their social security numbers. Congratulations on your recent marriage

My husband and I got married a few weeks ago, and we have decided to use a combination of both names. Before I got married I had two surnames. I liked one of them and I didn't like the other one, so I kept the one I liked and I combined it with my husband's surname. My husband has my (favourite) name and his own name. We have decided to hyphenate the two names so that it seems more like one name instead of middle name and a surname. I plan on changing my name on most things except for my passport. I just got a new passport last year and I don't want to pay for a new one so I will just use the old one until it expires.

I took my husband's name. I initially meant to hyphenate, but it's all so complicated, so what I do is just hyphenate in my official signature.

i tried to hyphenate my two surnames but i already have two names and it makes it long to the point that it is rejected in some internet accounts. i wish i could always use the two since it would help other people in my past remember me .

I did but I wish I didn't!

Congrats on your marriage. I'll be getting married in September, and I'll be taking my husband-to-be's name. As with you, part of it is due to tradition, but there are several reasons. One is, to honor him, we are both firefighters and if, God forbid, anything should happen, then I would be able to honor him by having his last name. Secondly, when I was divorced I never changed my name back to my maiden name, so even if I didn't take his last name, it would not be my maiden name on anything.

I took my husband's family name as a statement that we are a family. When the children came, they only had one family name to deal with, everyone knew we were a united family with no doubts to our identity. When my husband decided on a divorce, I kept his name so that my sons and I would have the same name--no awkward introductions and explanations with their friends and girlfriends, etc. I think that by hyphenating your name you are stating that you're not a committed family unit, and I know there will be a lot of people who disagree with that. But you aren't giving up anything, just cementing the union legally and emotionally making a commitment that you are a family with no reservations.

I think it is more common for people to take their husband name.But at the same time it is kind of unfair since their name is lost and to be truthful i think that 2 names in one is better than just taking your husband's name.

I'm planning to hyphenate my name when I get married. Mostly because I'm proud of my family's background (immediate family) - and I'm mostly known with that last name in my profession so I don't want to confuse people too much.

I am a Chinese and as much as I understand, it has been quite a long time that Chinese women don't take their husbands' names any more after they get married. I always believe that every woman has right to keep their own name even after they are married.I am not a feminist but I just think it is their right, as they have right to decide whether to have a baby or not. I always wonder why a woman should take her husband's name. I suppose it is the culture difference between different countries and thus different customs.

I took my husband's name...mostly for traditional reasons...but I have LOTS of stuff still in my maiden name...I can't get the bank to change ALL of my accounts...my mom has been on my checking account for well over 10 years because I was underage when I got it...and just never took her off, and the bank won't change my name on the account without her signing a piece of paper...and we've just never gotten around to it. I kind of change things as I need to...social security and driver's license came first...It's just a royal pain.