why can't guys be contended with only one girlfriend/wife?

There's an old saying - "Look but don't touch" and as a natural flirt myself, I often didn't know I was doing it. But, If this person isn't putting you at the top of the list, ask yourself why. Be kind to yourself and know not all men do this and there are really good ones out there.

i have many girl friends. many of them love me very much. i am now finding more and more girl friends. but i don't know which one i really love. and they really love me very much.

Hi cainam! I had to check your age before responding to your post because I suspected that you were in the 20 something bracket and I was right. Guys do mature and, yes, some of them are even faithful for many years but there are a lot in your age group who aren't. My husband was married to his late wife for 32 years and he'll be the first to admit that he wasn't a perfect husband and that he did things that he regrets when he was younger. But, he loved his wife and they stuck it out. He settled down in his 30s. Now he's 61 and he's still a flirt but he wouldn't dream of coming close to crossing the line. He loves me unconditionally, which is good because I feel the same about him.

Well, not EVERY guy is like that. The problem is when a woman gets hurt we tend to generalize and then start to think that they are ALL like that and that is not true!!

I think that sometimes men just become DUMB. Just this past week I caught my husband in a lie. He was talking to some ex fling of his on one of is messengers and asked her if she had a cam. He for some reason copied and pasted a line that he wrote to her "are you sure ill like what i see?" I went to go to paste the tracking number that i had copied earlier on in the day to fedex and thats what i pasted! I was furious. I asked him who he was talking to and he didnt mention a girl. I kept nagging him about it all they way until bedtime, then once in bed he spilled. Told me that he was dumb and never should have said anything to her!... I at this point was LIVID with him. He deleted that entire email so that he doesnt slip up again. Mind you we've been married for almost a year and have a baby due in 3 months....I told him that if I caught him, even suspected him of it again that im gone and that I will take our son with me- and that I will ROYALLY *uck him through his chain of command-hes army!... Needless to say he didnt sleep all night and felt like CRAP for a couple days. I know that he would never actually cheat on me, hes not that foolish, however isnt talking to another female like that almost the same! Hes been walking on thin ice since the incident! I hope no one has to go through what I did with this. There really is no reason for someone to be betrayed by someone, let alone the person is who is supposed to be your lover,best friend and soulmate! Good luck ladies- even some of you men- and Happy Relationships!

They can love you, adore you and idolize you but at the end we need to realize they are different than women. 2 minds! They need to wonder and look a little they can't help it. It's in their nature. (I'm not saying they are going to cheat though)