should a cheater be given a second chance

In my opinion no. From what I know of friends who cheat they cheat on a serial basis. Even after they have been caught they maybe good for awhile but once that big lads night out comes along they slip back into their old ways. You also have to look at the reasons why they cheat. I am afraid if you have caught someone that should be it no matter how much you love them. Why because they will eventually do it again.

i can forgive but for me trust back it might take some time. the second chance will also be the last chance the person will get. honestly i really hate getting cheated. i just don't understand why do you need to cheat when you can just tell the truth. happy mylotting.

For me all person desreve second chance, if they are sincerely feel sorry and ask forgiveness in the wrong things the've done. In this way, i see that the cheater really want to change and let go out from doing this. If the person ask forgiveness it means to me that he/she willing to be forgive, and will not cheat again. In my perosnal views, i will forgive the cheater but the trust may not be back again as easy as it is. It will take long time for me before i will trust the person again.

Hi mama_bear. My take on the whole cheating situation is that NO, I would not give someone who cheated on me in any way a second chance. Been there, done that, and it happened again to me. I've never cheated on anyone ever, but I sure have been cheated on and more than once. I'm not dealing with that again, because it takes more out of the faithful person than a cheater. A cheater, after all the fighting, promising, and the heat is gone, gives not a second thought to what they did and the effect it had to the person they are with. They got away with it, alright! That's what I was told by one of my ex's when he was caught the second time around. I'll tell you what, the suspicions and un-trust worthiness was there and constantly with me, but I gave that second chance, and it was even worse emotionally, physically, and the thought of dating again, all of it was gone. It was either keep thinking about how stupid and duped I was and being depressed, down and out, or not care. Well, I finally took the I don't care route and stayed a single parent for many of years because I was done being involved with anyone. It was definitely less hassle, although kind of lonely at times. My husband and I have talked this over way before we even got married and we both know each others take on this subject and both feel the same way. He was cheated on and many times during his 17 year marriage. I think he gave her more chances than anyone I know. So we both have an agreement, either one of us cheat we are done, but we made a vow to talk to each first before anything like that happens. To work it out or leave, without hurting each other in any way.

Hi mama_bear....it would all really rely on the situation and why they felt they needed to cheat at that moment.I know there is never a good time,but sometimes we are put in bad situations and we are all only human and can only endore so much pressure. I guess I am always good at giving a person a second chance to see if it was just a sign of weakness or something else entirely. I can always forgive the hard part for me is forgetting. flutterby

Well, trust has to be earned. I can personally forgive someone after this happens but that person has to earn my trust again. I don't know how long that will take but if the person really wants my trust again, then the time it takes is a consequence of the cheating. People can change and sometimes cheating is a result of circumstance rather than choice. So though they are more predisposed to cheat again, I still think it's better to give them at least a second chance but only if you can understand why you're giving this person another chance and as long as you want to.

When trust is broken, it is hard to gain in back but if your able to gain it back then you deserve a second chance. As they say everybody deserves a second chance after doing wrong things. After all we are just human to commit mistake but of course we must learn from those mistakes and not do it again. Trust is very important in a relationship and it should be well take care because once its broken it will be the end of it. Forgiving is a process. It will really depend on how deep the pain is. If its really painful then it will really take time forgive but it may also depend on the person itself.

Yes,I do believe that everyone deserves a second chance. Even prisoners no matter how notorious they are,they do deserve it. But of course don't let them have it so easily. Let him/her prove it first and make sure that the unfaithfulness that have done will never happen again. I'm not saying also that when you give her/him a chance it would immediately be normal cause it wouldn't be. There will be a gap already between you two.

i hardly forgive and trust someone after they cheating me. not until they ask for forgiveness and dont do it to me and other people./

God gave up his only son to give us a 2nd chance for us:) thats my answer give him or her a 2nd chance and if that don't work than leave his ars, and sock it to him or her legalway. Thanks for adding that nice remark about open relationships. Thats right there are open marriages, open relationships and yes there are understanding with it,and thats not cheating :) have freinds who have open relationships and there so happy til this day years later. But beware not all open relationships are happy ones some others had crumbled too as well.

I think that a second chance can be given depending on the cheater and if they are really aware of the pain they may have caused and are genuinely sorry, for if not it would make no sense giving second chances but mark you, if you ive a second chance some people would think of you as the perfect candidate to keep playing around ewith , so I think it all depends on the character of the cheater. Also everyone deserves a chance.

i think yes! all of us people deserve second chances.. maybe if u give him/her another chance maybe he or she will realize that he's wrong.. but if he or she does it again, never ever believe him or her! well this is only my opinion..its up to you if you will give him or her another chance.

I think emotionally cheating anyone deserves a second chance. It all depends on if you two really loved and cared and was there for each other in times of need. talk it out and find the cause and effect and what if it were you. Physically cheating I would give it a second chance with a collar on it. Try to get some understanding before you make one of those dissions that cant be taken back

If the relationship has been good up until this point then maybe one chance is in order, but not two. I would ask myself such questions as: 1. Have we been happy together? 2. Is it a healthy relationship for both partners? 3. Does what we have work? 4. Do you think they will cheat again? 5. Are they truly repentant? 6. Is the relationship with the other party they cheated with over? Will they ever see each other again? If everything else is good then one chance. If there is any disrespect or other deal breakers such as abuse of any kind then no chances. Does the person have a history of ever cheating in the past? Never give them two chances to cheat on you.

Well it doesn't mean when a guy cheats before, he'll do it again. I guess it all depends on how deep his feelings are for someone. If that someone is the type of girl that he can't afford to lose, then he won't do something stupid like cheating which will cause her to stay away from him. I think it all boils down on how well a relationship develops. Cheating can still be prevented. A second chance could be a blessing in disguise so we really shouldn't just take it for granted.

I think that every single person who have done some mistake deserves a second chance but that second chance should be given only after evaluating whether or not that person will change after getting the opportunity. People make mistakes but if you kill someone and ask for a second chance then I won't even think about giving that person a second chance. Punishing someone is very easy but forgiving is very hard but forgives is the best way to change that person. If you punish a cheater what will he do? He might cheat again. But if you forgive the cheater and tell that person you are giving him a second chance to change. Then there is a 75% chance that he will.