When do you know that you are DONE with having kids???

Hi there! I am 26 years old and I have one son. Just lately, I have discovered that I have a heart problem. Well I have so many things not to do one of them is as much as possible I should not get pregnant so not to worsen my heart condition. But I still want to have another child. Even one more child is okay. But now I don't think if I still have to have another one because of my condition. Well, I think if your family can still afford to have one baby then why not try, you might be lucky if it will be girl on the third time.

Well I had two girls in my early twenty's and had always wanted a boy but it was not in the cards for me. After having both girls I decided at the age of 30 that I was not going to have anymore kids. What if I had and ended up with another girl. I didn't what to take that chance. That would have been a bit disapointing. So I decided two was enough for me and I just felt having another was going to be to much for us to deal with. Girls are not easy to raise especially during the teens. Now in my fifty and my girls are 28 and 30 I know I made the right decision with no regrets. Good Luck with your decision.

HI, i have two girls and I am 24. I love children so much cuz they are so cute and very sweet... I enjoy having them with me all the time. But when I have my second one, I just feel that is enough cuz she is so much busy and just me and me me me.... she barely follow anyone beside me, my husband always play with her but just only 15 minutes then she will turn around and look for me. sometimes I feel Im done with this too... but I still can't decide cuz I want a boy. hey it is better chance now, let treat.. lolz... hahaha.. jk May be it is fun to have another boy right? well, right now I can't decide cuz long way to go. If you feel are you done then you can tell how much difficult and how much time you spend to have another child. your husband should be understand and he will too... give him sometimes to think about it...

I would gladly go through the surgery. I have never had children but I know that even after surgery I could adopt children. It is a hrd decision for some to make. I would encourage you to talk to your husband about to option of adopting just incase you do decide you want another child, you could still have the surgery and if you did ever change your mind you would already know where your husband stands on the issue.

I have a little girl and I am pregnant with a boy. I am 29 and will be 30 in September. I want one more child in couple of years and I have already talked it over with my husband and mom. after that I will have 3 kids and I will be done. I will most likely asked to fixed after giving birth to my third. I feel this is the best choice for my family. I love children but looking at finances and how much of myself I can give to all three of them I think this is the best course of action to take. Your feelings are normal I think. You do feel sad over something permanent like this. You remember how excited you are when you first find our your are pregnant and how excited you get when it comes closer to time to have your baby. I think this choice is up to you and your husband. If you are not ready then that is something you should take into consideration. I hope whatever choice you make that everything works out for you.

having a child is entirely should be you and your husband's decision. If you think you are ready for it, then go for it. but never force upon you. having a tubul out is something which is highly debatable. Times can change and who knows after couple of years you would want to have a child. Circumstances leads us to do strange things in life. Therefore, always have your options open. Never close your options, may be one day you might deeply regret doing it.

Hi Jenniferp, I am 43 years old, I have one daughter 22 and one son 18. I think I can say I am done...I am not only done with parenting, my body is done toI am now to old for any more kids. Now I can wait lets say 7 years more and then be a granmother of grand children and help my kids with theirs. If I would get pregnant again, I would have an abortion. I am done, no more parenting I want to have my time now. I have done so much for others and so little for myself...for me it is an easy decision. But again, I have not been there so it is easy to say from your mind, but harder with your feelings.

I am 23 and has an eight month old son. I am already planning to get ligated but my husband who is in his late 30's told me to think about it very hard. Besides my Ob-Gyne does not allow ligating me because according to her I am still young and so my husband is. I laugh at first but I told her that I could no longer bear the pain of another giving birth process. She told me that I could use contraceptives. Injectable contraceptives to be exact. So that is our case now. My suggestion to you is to talk to your husband, list all the consequences of your decision that is already a lifetime one, and all I could say is that you can either try again and believe that you will have a baby girl (take the possibility too that it will be a boy again) or you can do ligate and never have a baby anymore. So in short you can only choose one side and you should both say yes to whatever your decision is.

I am 30 and I have 3 kids from a previous marriage and 1 with my current husband. I hate being pregnant, so dont ask why I have done it 4 times....lol. I did not have my tubes tied, figured I had done enough already and I was sick when I had the last one so they didnt want to do it right then anyways. I do not really want anymore but my husbands wants 1 more. I told him originally I didnt want anymore after I was 30 but he wants me to wait till he is 30 to not have anymore so its up in the air right now. I am on birth control though, for at least a year because I am doing a research study so I am safe for the next 12 months...lol I think I was more not liking the "final" part of a tubal more than anything. There are so many out there that can not have children and here I would be just taking parts out....hmmmm. Im lucky to have them and I am lucky they work and they have given me 4 pretty good kids, most of the time. I would like to look into donating my eggs instead of getting rid of everything..... Its a big decision to make. I know my youngest is 5 years out from the youngest I had and it was a big thing to start with diapers and bottles and all that again but its kinda fun to do it over again with the others being older and able to fend for themselves......

i have 3 kids... and when i had seen my youngest i cried... you know why, because the doctor had me ligated... i still want to have a child, a fourth one, before i reach 40. but it wont happen now. i had thyroid problem while carrying my third child and the doc said, if ever i get pregnant again, i will have a heart problem and risk myself and the baby during child birth. also there will be a great chance that the child will become mentally retarded even though there is way to prevent that now through newborn screening. me and husband never really talked about it and i was really not into things like that, when i had given birth to my third and last (it was a CS), the doc talked to my husband while i was in the operating room and he signed that i will also undergo tubal... i was informed of it before they made me fall asleep, i was really sad. when i woke up and saw my child, i cried, not because i saw my baby but because i knew he's going to be my last... the finality was really hard for me. think very well if you go with that, because there will be no turning back... it will be final. although now, i realize there was also a good thing to it, i really dont want to go through all those 9 months of being pregnant again of giving birth, that was really hard, although having a little baby in your arms is priceless...