Starter Marriages, is it too easy to get divorced today.

I must say, I have been married twice the first time yes, I was 18 and really didn't know what I was getting into, but he was very volint, I mean this man, would beat you just to look at you, It was so bad that It scared me to the point it took me almost 25 years later to 25 years later before I would get married to my husband # 2 and I guess I just didn't wait long enough for he is very verbally abusive and It really hurts, I do think that when we are young we make mistakes and we must learn from them, well, some people are really good at fooling others, like take my husband, I do love him with all my heart but this may 14 was our 9 year wedding annver and he is a truck driver out of the blues called me on that day to say he will not be home for he don't want to be married any more, and you want to talk not ready for that, I did not see that coming, I mean I always bite down and deal with all the bull but for him to just out of the blue hurts, so, I really can't say, but for some reason, it is easier to get married then it is to get a divorced. And alot more money to. So, I guess it is time for me to learn how to be a single mom again. that sucks, but I guess it's better then the kids getting hurt later.

The idea of starter marriages is why I do not understand why people are fighting for the "right" to get married. What is the point in even getting married if the plan is for it to not last. Your case was different, you most likely ment for it to be forever but realized that abuse is not worth it. Having been to many weddings and through my parent's divorces (yes plural) there is no way I was interested in the party or the gifts, I got married for all the right reasons, and am still married 8 years latter, hopefully 60 years latter. But it is true, people do not think about the fact that it is going to get hard and they might actually have to work at having a good marriage.

HI, I also married at younger age too. I deeply love my husband so much and even now, I love him and my children all my heart and my soul. I got married at age 20 and have my first child right after married. I used to think about divorce once before when my husband didn't really care about us and totally verbally abusive too... he never lay his hand on me but his words just like a knife stabbed me through the heart. I told him so many times to stop, and he didn't until another man stepped in. He is a sweet and funny guy but whenever he gets mad, he never care whoever... . One day, a guy that used to like me came over and stepped in my family problem just like he was really care and wanted to take over me as soon as my husband step down. Then I can see my husband fought for me so bad and cut down a lot of words to me and tried to be so nice after all. The man that helped me was a good friend of mine, he used to tell me that he used to love me but now everything is too late for him. So he loves me as his best friend. Now, my husband changed a lot after that day and he seem to care more, but not enough as what I need yet but at least he tries. I see many people get married and then divorce as soon they dont like any a little thing about each other... but to me, I dont do that cuz I think about my children future... if things that I can work thing out then I will do my best. If my husband is totally out of me then it is different.

yeah, it definitely is too easy to get divorced but also way too easy to get married. maybe if it was harder to get married people would think twice. so many people get married for the wrong reasons. i also have been married before and i think that most people should wait until they are older and know themselves better. i believe that some catholic churches require premarital counseling in order to get couples ready but perhaps it isn't intense or long enough.

In my opinion, people can think it about it themselves without the need of counseling. Before get married we should think about all the possibility that can happen after the wedding and be prepared for it. Asking yourself 'are you ready to bear the responsibilities to come?'. Because it's not about you alone, it's about your partner and family.