On Jon and Kate Plus 8...what do you think of how Kate treats Jon?

I saw last night's episode and he looked like he was so sad. I really don't watch it that much either to know what is going on, but I think you are right, Kate is very demeaning to Jon. She constantly puts him down right in front of the cameras. When I see that, I just shake my head, as it isn't right and it seems like she really doesn't care how she treats him. I feel sorry for the kids having to see that. It makes me wonder what they think. I know they love both of them, and to be put in the middle of it is very sad. I think that ou are right though, that they are going to divorce as not sure they can really work things out, unless she is willing to stop demeaning him. He does look like he hs been whipped, that is for sure. I wouldhate to see them split up as the kids would have to be shuffled back and forth, and that is very hard on them. No parents should ever do that to their kids. Have a very good day, and happy mylototting.

as someone who is in the HOM community and has had the chance to speak with Jon on many occasions, via email, Kate and I were pregnant at the same time, we shared stories pictures etc.., I can tell you that a lot of it is in fact for the "camera" it is for the drama of it and to get viewers to watch, at least that is what he has always told me. Does that mean it is justified, no, there is no reason to treat the father or mother of your children in that manner. Why disrespect them in that way ever.

Well we see what they want us to see. We honestly don't see the full truth. I do know I have seen some shows where Jon was just as demeaning. So it goes both ways. I think its a good thing that they are getting a divorce. They were starting to fight to much infront of the children & they both finally agreed that a divorce is best for the kids... I have to agree. But I must add that it wasn't just Kate with problems... Jon was in the wrong in many areas just as much as Kate was.

I have to agree with the above poster. Everything cannot be blamed on Kate. Jon is so obviously going through a midlife crisis. He said it all tonight when he said i'm only 32 years old I have alot of life left to live. He should have thought about that before he went out of his way to bring 8 little ones into this world. I don't agree with everything Kate has said/done. However, it was obvious tonight that she is wanting to work on her marriage while Jon could care less. He just wants to run and stick his head in the sand.

I have watched the show several times and I had to stop watching it because of her she is just too ... i dunno what the right word would be for her she is overly anal-retentive about everything she talks to Jon like he is some kind of second class farm animal I realise that I dont always communicate effectively with my husband but I would never dream of treating him the way she treats Jon my husband would leave me in a heartbeat if I treated him like that I dont know what keeps jon with her

I don't like how she treated him I don't justify her it's so hard with 8 kids I think.. the good thing is that she admitted.. anyway I admire her because for me she is a great mother not a perfect wife but a great mother

I believe that Jon and Kate are trying to do the best they can to cope with a very difficult situation of being married with two sets of multiples. Kate seems to go a little overboard in trying to ensure her children have the life that she wishes for them. I suppose that is a direct reflection of her upbringing. Jon, on-the-other-hand, seems to sweat the small stuff a lot less. His upbringing was a lot more broad and seems to have given him a totally different view than Kate's. Kate tries much to hard which causes Jon to retreat. In order for them to be successfully married, they both will need to learn to compromise a little more. Learning what your values are as you raise that many kids is not a very good way to keep your marriage together. Since so many people have reached out to them regarding lots of their other needs and wants, maybe someone will step up to provide them marriage and family counseling. The undoing of their family will begin with Kate; if she doesn't get herself under control, Jon is going to bolt--and I don't blame him. I wish them well and hope they are able to work it all out.

I wonder about her background because I only know about the one Aunt and the rest is Jon's family and I never hear about her mom. I get that way sometimes and I know its me channeling my mother and maybe that is all she knows. The last poster does have a point and maybe Jon liked that from her up until a point that is. I am a big fan of the show but I do watch the older kids and how they behave toward the father and they seem respectful of him so I think I agree that it must be the way they edit it and it always works for the ratings for viewers to have someone they dislike. I still find myself cringing at time and the time where she's yelling across the store "HELLO!" at a trip to the Toys R US, that was hard to watch but its kind of a trademark moment now for the show.I think Jon has a great sense of humor and when he DOES get to speak I think it comes out and I am always laughing at his little quips and I really wish they would show more of that. I do think they feed Kate's ego because when they were doing the Question & Answer episode the interviewer started asking questions that Jon could answer and she seemed so irritated by that and made fun of him for WANTING to answer questions as if he wanted the spotlight, that was not fair. Still, I think many of the viewers probably see a little bit of themselves or identify with their tough situation and that is why it is so popular. I am not looking forward to the unforgiving media hurricane if Jon decides to walk and the kids have to go through the settlement process.

I don't really watch the show a lot, but from what I've seen, I find that Kate can be a little too demanding of Jon. I think that she asks a little too much of him and maybe even of other people, as well. I think also she expects a little too much of him. I don't know if any of these are true, or how much of this is true, but it's just a few things that I feel about how Kate is towards Jon. I just don't think that she should push him as much.

I have seen the show a number of the time. Yes, Kate treats Jon like crap! Kate is VERY DEMANDING! The way she treats Jon is not right! He is a hen picked husband! No wonder there a stories out there that he cheated on Kate and now I'm hearing a divorce is coming! I don't feel sorry for either one! They asked for all this attention and they got it! If they do divorce I hear Jon would ask for alimony and that Kate,no surprise, is the big bread winner in the family! She has made millions with the books she has written! Of course the family has gotten alot of free stuff from TLC. From toys for the kids,vacations to Hawaii,not having to pay for trips to promote her books to turning their house green with solar energy! Kate also gets her nails done all the time and has the stylish hair style! She is spoiled and if she has to give up alot of money to Jon if they divorce,she isn't going to like it! Kate won't be able to live the life style she has gotten used to! This just gets more interesting by the day! I do feel sorry for their 8 kids! I think they will be put in the middle if their parents divorce and Kate has been a horrible example to her kids the way she treats their dad! Not a good thing!

I wish that show would just be canceled. Kate is the big problem--she's rude, insensitive, and just an all-around not-nice person. That's just when the cameras are rolling, though--she's more than likely 100x worse when the cameras are off. It's sad that those poor children are being subjected to this whole circus. :(

I think Kate treats him horriably. I know my husband would ot sit there and let me talk to him the way she does to Jon. I am surprised he has taken it this long and not ritaliated. If he is having an affair I think Kate deserves it but not the kids. They are the innocent victims in this whole tabloid war. The six younger ones cannot read as of yet but the two eight year olds will surely know what is going on and be able to read the front page of the magazines. It is just to bad that things had to come to this. They always looked so happy until Kate took over the camera and then poor Jon couldn't do,say or breath right!!! flutterby

I know exactly what kate is going through, though I have been diagnosed with bipolar and ocd. I tend to be disgustingly very demeaning to my boyfriend. These nasty words I might say, I feel horrible about. I think jon and kate definitely are a perfect couple, but both should definetely receive therapy of some sort. Kate's nerves are shot and she doesn't know how to deal with stressful situations properly, so I also think she needs help with that.

I watch the show all the time, and it seems to me that, that is just Kate's personality. She always talks about how she is obsessive over things as far as how she wants things done. While Jon seems to have a more laid back approach on things. I believe Jon knew that Kate had a stronger personality before he married her.

Apparently, other people have witnessed firsthand how she can be. I'm not a regular viewer of the show, but the few times I'd seen it, I'd wondered how long it'll last due to the friction between them. She seems to have this unexplainable sense of entitlement, and if things don't go her way, she goes off. Wonder too if having this show feeds this trait.

Sometimes woman like to control over a man, just like kate control over Jon. However, as a man, he should say something to her or act like you are not under her control. I, myself a woman, but I dont like to control my man... I do give advice or tell what to do but not all the time. Another thing, some man love woman to do that, and that's why it ends up in a wrong way. It is hard to judge for them and they might have something else that we can't tell