disciplining ideas

I was in your shoes at one point and then I started doing 1 2 3 magic for Christian parents. It is a great book with wonderful ideas First if one of my children are doing something they should not I say that is one i give them ten to 20 seconds to correct themselves if they do not I say that is two again 10 to 20 seconds then it is That is three, lets go to your room. They stay in their room till they are calm the the timer starts for five minutes. when the five minutes is up they can come out and be with the rest of the family. the key is when you say that is one, you do not say anything else, do not say you know better than that, you should not do that, why are you doing that. You do not tell them what they are doing wrong. just that is one, they know by the count that what they are doing is wrong. I sat the three of mine down and explained it to them, when they were about 4.5 and guess what we have very few issues, we go in time out rarely... I hardly ever get past that is one.

My son to is 4 1/2. What I do takes ALOT of patience, sometimes I even need to tell my husband to leave the house because he can't handle it, but I swear by it. To this day all I have to do is the 3 count and he knows I mean business. When he was 2 he started not listening with attitude. I think it was he threw his coat on the floor instead of putting it up. I told him toys were a privledge and if he couln't listen I would start taking toys away. I think the neighbors heard his fit when I took the first toy away. I simply told him in a straight voice "pick your coat up or I take a toy away" (didn't matter what toy it was for him, until he got smart and tried to tell me what toys I could take away) after about 10-20 seconds I took a toy. After about 10 toys he decided to pick up his coat. I put the toys in a bag and hung them up in plain sight to remind him. When he did something with out me telling him to he would get a toy back. I saw this on one of the nanny show once and it worked for them to. But you have to be able to keep a straight face and a calm voice with each toy you take. If you start to loose your temper, it turns into a war and then they think that they can push you that far each time.

Hi, just also have the same problem now. My 2-years old son is starting to ignore me. What he wants, he must get even if its not good for him. I know that he's still in the stage of mental development like understanding what Im saying but I'm afraid that he might get worse as he gets older. When I saw ur topic, it really caught my attention. I'm glad I read the thread for I am learning from your respondents. What I'm doing now is to consistently have him a routine like in bedtime, taking a bath, and the likes so he'll be familiarize on it. I guess by practicing them in that way, they can easily understand other things better. Thanks for your post :)