Living together?

I know it seems like most couples live together now days, but I still strongly disagree with it. Our moral standards have dropped so drastically in our nation and the world, but what's right is always right. It is still right to get married instead of "playing house". That's how we ended up with all these "baby mamas" and "baby daddys". Such a disgrace.

In my opinion it is better to enter into any long term commitment with knowledge. I've been married for four years and living with my husband for over 8. If you don't live together you don't really have a good knowledge of whether or not you can live with this persons negative habits. I'm not trying to say it is morally right or wrong because it's not my or anyone else's place to judge another person's choices. I just really think it's much smarter to know everything you can about a person and share resposibilities together before marriage.

for as long as you are of legal age and responsible for all your actions and financially independent, i think you can pretty much do whatever makes you happy. i myself came from a very old fashioned and very conservative family, but i have open views about living together before marriage. if it makes sense to do that, you enjoy the set-up, you are not intentionally hurting anybody else and you are free of commitments to another person... there's nothing to stop you from doing that. what it boils down to is that this your life, your story, your choice. whatever you make of it. just own up to your actions and whatever consequences for those actions and you're... ok. it shouldn't be a big deal for others. christian or not.

i think its a good idea. it helps you to get to know someone better. and sometimes it nice to be able to get even closer to them. it'll also help you with finding out if this is the person you could marry and spend your life with... you can't fully know a person till you've lived with them. well, maybe you can but you sure don't find out all the little dirty habits they might have till you do.

I think couples SHOULD live together at least a year or two before deciding to marry but me I have lived with my boyfriend for 7 years and that was from day one and you really do not learn EVERYTHING about your partner at least until the 4th year if you ask me. And you have the power battles and learning how to balance that power where it is shared, being a partnership. I do not agree with marrying something without this experience because knowing someones living styles and what each expects of one another needs to be worked out before marrying and gives you a chance to decide if your willing to make that commitment.

i disagree.. because we dont have any serious relationship til we get married.. also it may be bored to us in future right? i mean the happiness of marriage.. haha..if my parents know that im living with her..they will mad..

I think there is nothing wrong if you and your bf are living together though this kind of arrangement is not really accepted by our society, but there some like you and me who are still in favor with this. Living together in one roof, is an advisable and practical way to get to know more of your partner, its better to know his attitude and other habits as early as possible rather than knowing it in the later stage (after marriage). As long you are both happy and you don't hurt anybody, there is nothing wrong with it.

I personally think it's a good idea. So many marriages fail because people just can't live together. They can't tolerate the other person's habit and quirks. Now, saying that, I think living together should be a step towards further commitment. I don't think that it should be seen as something you go into thinking it's going to be temporary. I think it should be taken as a serious decision.

I think it depends on individual's maturity whether or not you understand the consequences and know how to manage if cohabition doesn't work out. Knowing too much about each other before marriage may not be a good thing. We can give up a relationship easily and won't think of tolerating, giving in and look at the positive side of a person's character if we go into cohabition.

I live in a country who stul hold very uptight religion values. It is very uncommon a couple live together before they married. Usually we still live in our parents house before we get married. If we live together before that, people will start talking about us and negative rumors can ruin our reputation.

hello dreamr802,for me there's nothing wrong with it,living together before getting married.its one way of knowing your partner deeper and if its really the two of you.my husband and i live together for 2 years before we get married.atleast we know each other deeply.we learn to adjust and accept each other,our negative and positive side.so by then we dont find a hard time adjusting each other as we get married.some would disagree,they would say its wrong becoz its not legally married,we cant avoid criticism,its natural,but i dont have any regrets before coz im happy of what i've done.hehehe! good day!

In my opinion is a good idea! because, otherwise, you don't know everything of your partner, maybe she/he has something of her/his daily life, that you have never seen and that truely displease you... and then we ask ourselves why there are a lot of divorces... everybody might go to live with his/her partner before getting married!

yes it is good to get to know someone before you marry someone but also its very hard work when you are used to living on your own you cant do what you want when you want sometimes its just seems you are doing stuff just to please the one you are ment to love is that love or iam i taking rubbish ???

I think people SHOULD live together before they get married because it gives them chance to unwind and get to know each other that little bit more, theres nothing worse than rushing into a relationship and getting married, then realising you don't want to spend the rest of your life with that person! Cohabitation should be treated as a sort of "trial marriage"

I agree with you. For me its ok to live with your partner before you get married. You'll both know the real character of your partner. Its not good to have marry more than once if the relationship doesnt work after marriage.

I do not agree with living together when you are still in dating stage. But yes I agree in living together before getting married. Once married and you want to get out it is very hard. But when you just live together and you find irreconcilable differences then you can easily go out your way. So I agree with all the things you said. I and my husband lived together for a year before we got married and I found out how he behaves at home. He does the same to me and we are not very happy. When I was pregnant we got married so no trouble. I have very old-fashioned and conservative parents too but they are not a hindrance because I never grew up with them. My decisions were always independent even before when my great grandmother was still alive. She was the one who raised me. And now I am very happy and I know I did the right thing. Maybe there are still a lot who do not believe in living together because they respect morality but what is the sense of that if they are not testing things first that will eventually benefit both parties? Yes I agree that living together first before marriage does not guarantee everything but it is one of the best ways to test a relationship before getting into the deeper and tighter stage which is the married life. So better test the way you and your partner behaves at home.

I do disagree.Why? Its because we cant make sure that if we stay with each other prior to marriage, we can know or see the real attitude of the person your living.If that would be the case, that simply represents that you're not yet sure if you love him/her.Why stay with him in the first place?What if he/she is not the person you really love, what then...I think is practical or advisable to do then. Thank you...

For me it's okay to live together before a couple actually gets married. I lived with my boyfriend for a month and it was a very happy experience. We became closer and more intimate after that. He's been my boyfriend for almost five years now, and we're still happy together even if we don't live in the same house anymore.

Surely to make everything open to both of you when you are about to be together forever. This does not indicate about everything when being together without the legality to both, but to secure you as a person regards to what you want to. Its also the best way to see how intimate you are when before it will be sealed by your decisions. This is true for me as long as you both know your limitations to what you believe and what yo have agreed upon. That is involving a great responsibility if something happens.

just do what makes you happy. there is nothing wrong with what you are doing.