The pressure of kids

Hi there Kena! My son is six years old and we haven't reach that period yet. I am thankful because I am not yet ready for that. Well, I guess not much people are prepared for that but that's just how it goes. It just makes me think of the time when I felt the same. I don't have any idea yet on how to handle that kind of situation so I will also be checking this discussion for suggestions from time to time.

My daughter will be nine in September, and she does the same thing. I told her if she didn't take her dirty clothes to the laundry room that I guess she would just have to start wearing dirty clothes. Then I asked her if she thought her friends would think that was cool. I also tell her we all have things that we have to do that isn't always fun but they have to be done so we can do things that are fun. I tell her if she doesn't have clean clothes and if her room isn't clean she can't go anywhere or do anything. It's getting a little better but we are still working on it somedays are better than others. I guess it is just the begining of them growing up.

I do chores with my 7 yr old son. But the hardest thing I'm having problems with is reading (although I don't think it matter which problem you have maybe this will be another option for you). I want him to read just 15 min. per day. He's not been doing it and this week I don't have a lot going on so...if he wants to continue to play baseball or go swimming he's got to start reading everyday. Baseball is a huge thing to him and swimming will be too as soon as it warms up enough to be able to go everyday. He's a very social person so I can use some of these things to my advantage. I do keep a chore chart and he puts stickers on it and I decide what kind of "commission" he gets at the end of the week. I don't assign specific prices for specific chores, because if he's stomping around the house in a bad mood doing chores, that's not the right behavior and I'm not rewarding that. I know Dr. Kevin Leman has some really good books about parenting, those are on my list to read. Hopefully you'll get something figured out soon. Good Luck!

i think most kids have this kind of problem , my is 8 years old and she do things depend on her mood , just like this afternoon , she volunteer to wash the plate after having her lunch , but when dinner , she left her plate on the table and tell me she is too tire